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    (Original post by ..x Orchid x..)
    What time was it when he dropped you off?
    It was like 9:50ish so almost 10 at night. Does that change things?
    (Original post by Rascacielos)
    A little bit. At least, I don't think it's a basis for ending a relationship.
    You're probably right. I just normally over think and analyze every single little thing.

    (Original post by takethyfacehence)
    I think it's a nice thing to do, definitely, and if I knew someone who never wanted to know I was home safe I would be worried, but then particularly if he had been smoking the herb he's not necessarily thinking straight is he? On top of the fact that in general on a first date he might've been worried about seeming to come on too strong or something. And once you're at your door with your key you're not really practically in any danger, it's manners rather than genuine concern for your safety.

    Maybe if it goes further and you have a few more dates or whatever and it's all good, just mention to him that it's something you like. It's not necessarily indicative of the things you're associating with your ex. But all the same, obviously you don't wanna be taken for a mug, so it's good you're asking for advice to try and get some perspective.

    I wouldn't want to be driven by someone who was high, I think that's pretty irresponsible but not necessarily a deal breaker.

    Oh and if you meant by saying you two smoked together that you were smoking weed, perhaps consider laying off it if you're feeling vulnerable? Only a suggestion, all the best.
    You're right. He probably wasn't thinking straight. I also agree with you on the fact that it just shows manners and how considerate you are. I don't really think I'm going to be in any danger..it's just a nice thing to do you know?

    Well me made plans to hang out and smoke so maybe I shouldn't be surprised that he picked me up like that. I thought smoking it would help me relax more as I'm usually an uptight person, quiet, awkwards etc etc
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It was like 9:50ish so almost 10 at night. Does that change things?
    It's night, I think he could have waited.

    Anything could have happened the first time. He probably was thinking about alot, and he forgot. See what happens the next time.

    But it is common courtesy to see if someone got in safely if you dropped them off at night.
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    Presumably you've gone through your front door hundreds of times.
    It would be weirder if he expected you to not get inside, or for there to be an overconfident rapist waiting for the 6 second window to snatch you.

    Don't be such a dumb whore. If you're turned off him because of his then you quite clearly think you're too good for most decent guys.
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    (Original post by ..x Orchid x..)
    It's night, I think he could have waited.

    Anything could have happened the first time. He probably was thinking about alot, and he forgot. See what happens the next time.

    But it is common courtesy to see if someone got in safely if you dropped them off at night.
    If there even is a next time haha don't think he enjoyed it either. But yeah, I always thought it was common courtesy too.

    (Original post by Arteta)
    Presumably you've gone through your front door hundreds of times.
    It would be weirder if he expected you to not get inside, or for there to be an overconfident rapist waiting for the 6 second window to snatch you.

    Don't be such a dumb whore. If you're turned off him because of his then you quite clearly think you're too good for most decent guys.
    Was that really necessary? And no I don't think I'm too good..quite the opposite.
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    (Original post by a_t)
    Oversensitivity annoys me
    You did not intend for this comment to be ironic.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Last night I went out with This guy for the first time. He found I was into him and he was sort of surprised but he felt the same. Ever since he got my number last Saturday(from my friend), we've been texting every single day. He asked to hang out yesterday so we did. It was kind of weird though. There were a lot of silences but anyways that's not what's bothering me.

    When he dropped me off and I was at my front door with my key, he drove off. Shouldn't the guy at least wait for you to get inside or open the door at least? I mean it only takes like a minute so that really annoyed. It reminds me of what my ex used to do and because of that I'm kinda turned off by the guy.

    It feels like they don't care or not into you if they're not willing to do that. It's weird and it makes me feel like they think I'm just any other girl like trashy or whatever.

    All in all, I got text from him this morning saying good morning...

    Am I making a big deal out of this?
    I think you should totally give your self more to make a better decision. He seems pretty OK, except for that...
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    im not sure it would annoy me as such but i would of expected him to wait...
    if i drop a friend off i always wait till they open the door before i leave....*shrug*
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    (Original post by CoolDude)
    I think you should totally give your self more to make a better decision. He seems pretty OK, except for that...
    Just curious, what you mean by give my self more?:confused:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Last night I went out with This guy for the first time. He found I was into him and he was sort of surprised but he felt the same. Ever since he got my number last Saturday(from my friend), we've been texting every single day. He asked to hang out yesterday so we did. It was kind of weird though. There were a lot of silences but anyways that's not what's bothering me.

    When he dropped me off and I was at my front door with my key, he drove off. Shouldn't the guy at least wait for you to get inside or open the door at least? I mean it only takes like a minute so that really annoyed. It reminds me of what my ex used to do and because of that I'm kinda turned off by the guy.

    It feels like they don't care or not into you if they're not willing to do that. It's weird and it makes me feel like they think I'm just any other girl like trashy or whatever.

    All in all, I got text from him this morning saying good morning...

    Am I making a big deal out of this?
    Lol yea... I would never just drive off after dropping anyone off until they were in their house. When I used to get dropped off by friends they never left until I was inside even though we both knew someone was home and it was near high noon.
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    It sounds like you're trying to think of a reason. Trust your instincts, maybe there's just not so much chemistry as you originally thought and in that case you're going to have to end things, don't lead him on just be honest
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Am I making a big deal out of this?
    Yes.
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    Perhaps he doesn't want you to feel weird in case you live in a ****hole and chose some random house so you don't look bad in front of him. It happens. :P
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    (Original post by CapnHooch)
    Well you didn't invite him in for some coffee, why should he stay around?
    A cup of wine would have been even better
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    Your totaly right, also he should follow you to work/uni to make sure your safe and occasionaly peer through your window just to check up on you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Just curious, what you mean by give my self more?:confused:
    LOL! Sorry I meant....more TIME.....to make a good decision.
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    I know what u mean. it does show they care. it's the normal thing to do where i live, it's polite, even if the person waiting is just a friend.
    there's a guy i like, and we've been meeting up, but he's so awkward in public, and in shops i walk alongside him. and he just hurries on without waiting for me. it's small. but it does make me feel like crap, and running after him like he's my father.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Am I making a big deal out of this?
    No, of course you aren't.

    http://gettwicetheresults.com/wp-con...rcasmMeter.jpg

    What is it with the girls who expect us to wait for them to enter the house before leaving? Are you so incapable that you need to be watched in case you stab yourself with your keys or something? If you will dump a guy over something like that good for him, he'll have dodged a bullet.
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    (Original post by Sendaii)
    No, of course you aren't.

    http://gettwicetheresults.com/wp-con...rcasmMeter.jpg

    What is it with the girls who expect us to wait for them to enter the house before leaving? Are you so incapable that you need to be watched in case you stab yourself with your keys or something? If you will dump a guy over something like that good for him, he'll have dodged a bullet.
    Lol, I get locked out of my house sometimes because the latch falls down so a key won't open it! (in that case I'd rather a guy didn't see that! )

    OP I don't think it's important, it was a first date after all and he probably just did what he would do if it was one of his mates caring about someone comes with time, you'll probably find that when/if you go on another date with him he'll wait for you to get in he was probably just so glad the date went well and didn't think he'd be judged after it had finished!
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    (Original post by woozeybear)
    Lol, I get locked out of my house sometimes because the latch falls down so a key won't open it!
    ...fair point :P
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think because my ex lied, cheated, and ultimately left me for another girl I'm just really cautious
    Now we're getting somewhere.. (baring extremes) judge a man by the sum of his actions

    (Original post by When will I know?)
    What really would be annoying is if he talked about politics for like the first half, and then the second half talking about how much of a slut his ex is because she didnt love him anymore (clearly not over her)
    Man I'd have some fun in that situation, granted it must be annoying/disappointing for a gal but on the flipside at least he had something to say!

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    it was getting awkward
    Poor lad just probably felt awkward and wanted to get the hell out of there after a fail of a date :rolleyes:

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What would you think if a guy came to pick you up and he was stoned?
    In fairness I'd think he was having a giggle

    (Original post by such_a_lady)
    I get annoyed by petty things too, though, like when people drop me home and stop across the road from my house rather than pulling into the driveway
    Wow. It's like, I'm not a long jump champion yeah, how am I sposed to reach my red carpet from here? Oh my gawwwd. *visions of Hilary Banks from Fresh Prince*

    (Original post by Zottula)
    I know some girls who complain when the guy waits until they've entered the house as "it's rude because it's like he's waiting for you to invite him in" ... Sometimes a boy just can't win either way
    #Winning. To be fair this is true of boys. Men however win either way by.. Not Giving a ****

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Oh and also, he mentioned me doing his term paper for him for like the second time..
    Wow x2.

    (Original post by twist.the.illusion)
    MAYBE he read this thread and realised how annoying you really are...
    :holmes:

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It does show they care ... there's a guy i like ... and he just hurries on without waiting for me ... it does make me feel like crap
    I saw this one girl who lived a few streets away but insisted on walking her home and always waited till she'd shut the door before turning and walking back, didn't care about her any more any less than some of my other ex's and still managed to ****ed her up pretty good

    If you're a sensitive creature y'all should be glad of the slightly socially awkward types, they're far more preferable than the reverse.. trust me :devil:
 
 
 
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