(Original post by chemical_bex)
I thought everyone would pretty much disown me/hate me/want nothing to do with me. Thought my boyfriend would be on the first flight to Japan. Thought my friends would shout at me...
Reality is, everyone was supportive, if not a bit shocked at first. My boyfriend has been amazing, my mum has been too. I still can't get over how great my family are being tbh.
I'm so excited
Just wanted to say, Good Luck!
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- 04-04-2011 00:09
- 04-04-2011 00:20
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- 04-04-2011 00:28
If I got pregnant? haha. My mother would be thrilled. My best mate would be jealous. My dad, would be like "not another one?!" and my husband and I would be....well not so thrilled, because we've got THREE already and we don't want any more. We're happy raising the ones we've got.
I'd never abort though, we'd muddle along somehow, but put it this way.....I'd better not get bloody pregnant because 6 years of sleepless nights is quite enough thank you very much
When I first got pregnant though, with baby number 1, I thought that my parents would be less than pleased, and would think that I was too young, but actually they were happy for me. I was 21 at the time.
- 04-04-2011 00:33
I would be shocked, I never knew I had a girlfriend (or had done anything that had led to a baby being born as well in fact).
Parents and friends, might be a bit miffedI kept this girlfriend a secret.
- 04-04-2011 01:10
Boyfriend- I'm sure he'd support me.
Family- I think my mum would kill me
Friends- I'm pretty sure they wouldn't disown me, probably fight amongst themselves to be godparents
- 04-04-2011 01:38
Boyfriends Dad - "You either get rid, or drop out of uni and support her"
Boyfriends Mum - "That's your fathers fault for bringing you up wrong" (they're split up, bf see's his mum twice a yr if he's lucky)
Boyfriends Stepmum - "Oohh another child for me to fuss over"
Boyfriend - "Er..."
My Mum - "I'm disappointed in you, but here's some cash to either abort or set yourself up"
My Dad - "Where's (insert bfs name here) so i can kill him for ruining your life"
My brother - "My sister had sex?"
Best Friend and her family - "We're no longer friends, no matter what you decide" (they're religious freaks, so are all no sex before marriage and also anti-abortion. I'm also the "sensible" typ)
Other Best Friend - "Can i be godmum?"
Other Friends - "Gratz, here's some clothes for it"
- 04-04-2011 07:20
I'm 15 weeks pregnant. I'm also 21, a homeowner and getting married this summer.
Fiance: He was a little surprised to say the least! It was a complete accident and whilst we've talked about having kids, we always thought it would be in a few years time. That said, he's very, very happy and excited about it - comes with me to all my appointments/scans etc and can't wait for the baby to be here
Family: OHs family are over the moon - they had their first daughter when OHs mum was 21 and are very traditional family types. OH will be 30 later this year and they're really pleased he's settling down and starting a family now.
My family are not so great - my mum and my brother think it's great whereas my dad has prettymuch had a breakdown. According to him, my life is now ruined. He's said a lot of nasty things about this all and tried to push me into having an abortion. He's very embarassed that I'm pregnant - I think he thinks of me as being about 13.
Friends: Those who know have been really great about it, really congratulatory and really interested
- 04-04-2011 07:31
I think everyone (including me) would go around looking like this for a long time after I told them
- 04-04-2011 09:36
Well firstly, my reaction would be "Get to the doctor quick and schedule an abortion". I'd probably go to the doctor before I told my fiance just so I wouldn't panic him when I told him, I'd know it was sorted and I could reassure him straight away (and no, before I'm pulled on this, I don't mean I would have the abortion before telling him). We discuss daily how much we never want kids. It would just be the worst thing that could happen to me *shudder*
My parents would NOT be impressed and my mum would worry constantly about how to tell my granny (religious). They'd think I should wait a few years until I was settled into a good job, was married and had my own place. My aunties would think it's too soon as well but they'd be excited of a kid in the family as it got closer. They'd all be supportive eventually.
Brother - I'm really not sure, I don't think he'd be too impressed but not that fussed either way. I don't see/speak to him much He'd probably like to think that I'd come home more often if I had a kid.
Friends - they'd be supportive, one of them was mentioning what my kids would look like the last time I was home So yeah, she'd be excited. My other best friend would be happy but realise it'd be hard on me. And my friend who lives nearer me would probably be excited too, she seems really maternal!
- 04-04-2011 09:40
You actually got laid?
^^ this is all I'd hear off my mates
- 04-04-2011 09:56
- 04-04-2011 10:12
8 - 10 years in the future, when the bf and I are both earning, and hopefully working less insane shifts than when we start working, then I'd probably keep it.
Until then, I'd tell my bf and close friends, and procure a hasty abortion.
If it was the product of a ONS and I didn't know the guy, then I wouldn't tell him. I'd probably tell him if I'd was friends with him, but tell him it was being aborted and that he had little to no choice in the matter.
Probably wouldn't tell my parents or brother unless I was keeping it; I'm fairly sure they know that I have sex but we don't talk about it.
Definitely wouldn't be telling my extended family, they're all quite religious.
- 05-04-2011 10:58
If I got pregnant my mum would go mental I think I don't no why but I don't think she'd approve of me having a baby at the age of 19, even though she was 21 when she had my sister.
My friends would be happy for me I think, but then they'd think I was the same as the other 3523 girls who were in my year and have had kids, not gone to university and haven't got any career options.
Seeing babies makes me broody and my boyfriend, but I think he'd be completely different if I turnt round and told him I was pregnant.
I'd like to get university out of the way and have the qualification before even considering having a baby.
- 05-04-2011 11:01
- 05-04-2011 11:03
boyfriend is pro choice. he doesn't want a child atm. even though i'm against abortion. he said he was old enough for it not to be that much of a problem though. he is in his early 20s.
my parents would be disappointed. my dad and mum would cry. after a while they'd accept it and help me out. but doubt i'll ever get past a certain distance from them for a good while.
friends. will most definitely gossip, laugh, talk about me behind my back. i've seen them do it other girls who got pregnant young.
- 05-04-2011 20:20
The real answer? Peers would call the girl a slut and I'm not sure about the guy - it depends on the crowd he hangs with.
- 05-04-2011 20:54