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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i've been told many times before that im very good looking, i do get a lot of attention from girls just eye contact however i get no girls. im interested in getting to know girls and having casual sex. What is my problem i see so many guys at uni with different girls everyday, and i wouldn't say they're physically attractive. My personality is good im funny but it only ever comes out once i get comfortable with someone i.e. after speaking for at least 3/5 mins.
    ive been at my uni for 3 years but i haven't made any friends.

    also my daily routine is basically as follows. wake up, eat, internet, then go gym for 1 hour then leave come home. i only go into uni twice a week as i have no other lectures on all other days so i dont bother going in.

    do you think my problem of not getting girls is related to my lifestyle? I think I should be at uni more often but being this late in the year and being a 3rd year i dont know where to go to pick up girls. where on campus do you got to pick up girls and how do you approach them? and what do you say?

    i'd prefer female replys but guys can too.
    thanks

    Yeah i was in the same boat ... not bad looking, oright sense of humor, id say im a cool guy :P. The thing is if its casual sex [as in flings] you gotta be at the right places i.e clubs and house parties. What'll DEFINATLY increase your chances with girls, if its for casual sex or a long term relationship is if you do more stuff, girls like guys who do guy things - start a hobby, boxing, football etc.

    Plus it'll give you something to talk about.
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    (Original post by MR-Sanshou)
    how do you break the ice without coming across as wierd?
    Talk to them about whatever's going on in the lecture? Pretend you dont understand it and carry on from there? (for me i wouldnt have to pretend i dont understand haha) Or talk to acquaintances more? People youve spoken to before but wouldnt really call a friend just yet
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    (Original post by subbacultcha.)
    definately need pics before we can give a valid opinion on the matter.
    ^ This

    Girls have this issue too. Me, for instance. I'm told i'm pretty, but there aren't enough good looking single guys. Failing that, I just look younger than I am. So I guess that tends to put men off.
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    (Original post by cttp_ngaf)
    To get girls you need to be very outgoing and forward right from the start. Being funny and clever after 5 mins is useless, because it's getting your foot in the door that's the hard bit. I'm similar, pretty good looking and always admired for my wit and charm once I get talking, but I haven't the energy or liveliness to approach girls and make an arse of myself to get everyone's attention.

    For men being good looking basically has minimal influence on your success with women. Almost none at all.


    If you're **** at breaking the ice then try to get into situations where you have a reason to talk to girls, so you have to and you feel like you can and should. Some girls I've met IRL I was working with - so had to talk to as part of our job - or maybe back at uni when were in groups together and so on.
    thanks man, i think your right about needing the liveliness from the get go but i dont think i can its not my personality type. do you think i can change that about myself?
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    Looks like someone needs a reality check..


    Think your attractive but girls dont find you attractive = you're not attractive

    Think your funny but have no friends = not funny.
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    (Original post by princess271)
    awww
    dont worry
    if your attractive you got nothing to worry about
    girls probably do like you
    but dont say anything
    girls are like that
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    ive never really understood that. why dont they say anything?! is that like a rule girls dont start the convo's?
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    I think you might not be giving women the right impression. If you have no friends and don't socialise, the girls probably think you are up yourself and/or weird. (Not saying that that's how it SHOULD be). You can't just expect the girls to come flocking just because you walk around looking (allegedly) hot. You've got to be prepared to do some chasing.
    Give charm a go?
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    Perhaps the reason you get no girls is that you're too modest.
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    (Original post by twist.the.illusion)
    I know, but why?

    Some of the problems people post on here, I just don't understand what their end game is. Maybe OP is expecting a PM from some girl willing to have 'casual sex' with him, I don't know.

    And the people who don't have this sort of 'problem', they're not ACTUALLY going to reply are they?!
    lol, don't know, lack of female attention can do things to a man, getting desperate obviously.

    PM him and find out
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    (Original post by MR-Sanshou)
    very true i think that take guts something ill have to just do but dont you think the person(s) would find it weird that suddenly this quiet and anti-social guy is randomly starting a conversation? i'm in my 3rd year they might think wtf why is he chatting to me now when he usually blanks me.
    everyone overestimates the extent to which people judge them - just think, if some random guy who you didn't really talk to started talking to you, you'd just think "huh, weird" at the start but then you'd forget about it after the first day that you talked to him, right?
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    (Original post by MR-Sanshou)
    thanks man, i think your right about needing the liveliness from the get go but i dont think i can its not my personality type. do you think i can change that about myself?
    you can easily change that about yourself, as with my previous post, people will at first think "wow, he's changed" but then they'll get used to it very soon
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    Maybe you don't come across as approachable. Like my friends 'normal' facial expression is like she has something up her ass. People assume shes a bit of a *****. When i'm concentrating - even typing, watching tv - I look really grumpy. People have also said to me that when they see me around it looks like im lost...

    You have to meet people half way. Maybe you come across as arrogant. And yeah lifestyle could be to do with it.. you're not out as much as other uni students so maybe that's where there's a difference.
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    Patience is a virtue.
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    (Original post by Refrigerator)
    everyone overestimates the extent to which people judge them - just think, if some random guy who you didn't really talk to started talking to you, you'd just think "huh, weird" at the start but then you'd forget about it after the first day that you talked to him, right?
    now that you put it that way v true. heck i wouldnt even think hes wierd! lol i just keep thinking it would come across as wierd
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    (Original post by Kodias)
    lol, don't know, lack of female attention can do things to a man, getting desperate obviously.

    PM him and find out
    ewwwwwwwwwwwww, that's gross! Boys are like, SO disgusting! :gigg:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i've been told many times before that im very good looking, i do get a lot of attention from girls just eye contact however i get no girls. im interested in getting to know girls and having casual sex. What is my problem i see so many guys at uni with different girls everyday, and i wouldn't say they're physically attractive. My personality is good im funny but it only ever comes out once i get comfortable with someone i.e. after speaking for at least 3/5 mins.
    ive been at my uni for 3 years but i haven't made any friends.

    also my daily routine is basically as follows. wake up, eat, internet, then go gym for 1 hour then leave come home. i only go into uni twice a week as i have no other lectures on all other days so i dont bother going in.

    do you think my problem of not getting girls is related to my lifestyle? I think I should be at uni more often but being this late in the year and being a 3rd year i dont know where to go to pick up girls. where on campus do you got to pick up girls and how do you approach them? and what do you say?

    i'd prefer female replys but guys can too.

    thanks

    Those 3/5 mins are the first impression.. Get confident in those minutes and it could make a big difference
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    (Original post by wilshere)
    that was really funny wasn't it, what did you hope to achieve from this post?
    Pictures is quite clearly what I hoped to achieve from this post? so to first eliminate the likely option that the self procliamed 'very attractive' guy is not actually attractive, hence why he is not getting any girls, before offering alternative suggestions.
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    (Original post by MR-Sanshou)
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    ive never really understood that. why dont they say anything?! is that like a rule girls dont start the convo's?
    its not that
    it's just that some girls are shy
    including me
    we shouldnt have to start the convos thats your job
    lol
    if you want a girl to like you give her compliments and make her laugh
    dont get cocky..!
    girls hate that
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    (Original post by twist.the.illusion)
    ewwwwwwwwwwwww, that's gross! Boys are like, SO disgusting! :gigg:
    lmao
 
 
 
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