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    I need to vent so if you don't want to read, dont

    So i was with this guy for just under a year and we ended 2 years ago. I've had boyfriends since then and am with a long term boyfriend now. The thing is, I never got over this first guy. It ended with me getting depressed because he always used to be like 'im going to cut myself im so unhappy' and then not answering the phone for hours after that, leaving me helpless and **** scared. Once i stopped being the happy person i was before, he wasn't interested in me anymore.

    He was the one that pursued me at the start. But he could never ask me out because he was 'still not over' his ex. So we just did physical things. I agreed to have sex with him because he said i was his 'mrs perfect' and that itll be special.

    I started hating him and loving him at the same time. He was still so depressed. Finally things stopped because he started seeing my best friend. My best friend started to hate me and told him never to talk to me again. So I lost my 2 best friends at the time.

    Im with this great guy now. But a few days ago I met my ex's current gf and she was like, omg i cant believe im meeting you. Apparently my ex told her good things. I can't think of anything in our relationship that wasn't ****ed up.

    The thing is, now I can't stop thinking about him again.
    I'm in a happy relationship now.
    We were messed up and depressed each other. He used me.

    Why can't I get over him? What can I do?
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    Simply forget it. You've got a new guy now. Try not to let old memories of an ex cloud it, or things start to become complicated.

    That's what I'd do, anyway. Hard, granted, but still necessary if you're feeling like this now.
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    When you have thoughts of him, think of something else. Focus on the things that are important to you. If you are in school, divert all thoughts and energy to things concerning school, if its work, then divert your attention to work.

    Finally, give your current boyfriend all the attention and love he needs.
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    Omg you women are mental.

    The first guy is clearly a complete and total arsewipe, why would you even be attracted to a guy who is so self-centred?
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    If you can't get over him, just get under him

    EDIT: Well someone disagrees with light humour!
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    talk to him
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    (Original post by ForKicks)
    If you can't get over him, just get under him
    I like that one
 
 
 
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