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    My boyfriend split with me a week ago as he has waited a few years for me to lose my virginity but I did not. He was patient but I was scared to do it. I have realised now I need to see a counsellor (I had something happen in childhood he does not know about). He has gone abroad for a week to clear his head so I can't contact him.

    He said he loves me very much and wished it worked out but he doesn't think I will ever have sex and said I should move on. I don't know why he is going abroad to think if he has made his mind up. He has lost his confidence as a result as I barely touched him. How can I get him back? I did want sex but my past has ruined my present.
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    explain to the guy about your past. if you've been together for years, surely you trust him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My boyfriend split with me a week ago as he has waited a few years for me to lose my virginity but I did not. He was patient but I was scared to do it. I have realised now I need to see a counsellor (I had something happen in childhood he does not know about). He has gone abroad for a week to clear his head so I can't contact him.

    He said he loves me very much and wished it worked out but he doesn't think I will ever have sex and said I should move on. I don't know why he is going abroad to think if he has made his mind up. He has lost his confidence as a result as I barely touched him. How can I get him back? I did want sex but my past has ruined my present.
    Then tell him about your past, and why it has effected you. That is, if you really do want him to at least understand.

    Rocket science? I think not.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My boyfriend split with me a week ago as he has waited a few years for me to lose my virginity but I did not. He was patient but I was scared to do it. I have realised now I need to see a counsellor (I had something happen in childhood he does not know about). He has gone abroad for a week to clear his head so I can't contact him.

    He said he loves me very much and wished it worked out but he doesn't think I will ever have sex and said I should move on. I don't know why he is going abroad to think if he has made his mind up. He has lost his confidence as a result as I barely touched him. How can I get him back? I did want sex but my past has ruined my present.
    You need to tell him about this part of your past that has worried you. If he was unaware, he probably just thought you weren't interested. If he still loves you, there's still chance.

    Send him an email/write him a letter explaining the situation so he'll have something to read when he gets home.
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    This thread seems to fit a recent one or is it just me?
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    Just hope he listens.
 
 
 
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