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    (Original post by tite23)
    Pretty sure he's messing with you, doofus.
    Pretty sure he made an error that seems to be very commonly made, there's no need to insult me.
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    "I'm ugly and I'm proud."

    Repeat to yourself until you're yelling it out loud and proud :cool:
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    (Original post by TheDanishAlmond)
    With all these threads about looks i gotta ask...

    How does one accept being really unattractive?

    Not everyone is equally good-looking (and that sucks!) but what to do?

    Surgery?
    Try to improve yourself as much as you can. I wouldn't recommend surgery though. As hard as it is, just try to accept it. But at least you're female, so it's not going to be a problem for you to get a relationship or casual sex if that's what you're looking for.
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    (Original post by Refrigerator)
    by realising that appearance doesn't matter as much as intellect and educatedness
    And apparently that's worth **** all if you can't socialise. :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    And apparently that's worth **** all if you can't socialise. :rolleyes:
    ugly =/= can't socialise
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    I feel your predicament. Some say it doesn't matter, well.....unfortunately the majority of society doesn't agree with that. If people hold superficial views that disadvantage you, it does matter if they are in a position to influence your life, like at a job interview.
    Look at the qualities you have and value, then try to surround yourself with people who value those things. The good news is that there are some people who haven't bought into to the conventional image of beauty, which is mainly used to sell stuff and make others feel inadequate for no good reason.
    Don't get surgery, unless you are disfigured. Chances are it will not make you happy, and you will just end up wanting more and more.
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    (Original post by Refrigerator)
    ugly =/= can't socialise
    Really? H&R begs to differ.
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    (Original post by RequiemForADream)
    Pretty sure he made an error that seems to be very commonly made, there's no need to insult me.
    True. Sorry about insulting you.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Really? H&R begs to differ.
    that doesn't explain anything
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    It is something I will never have to do, thankfully
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    I didnt mean myself.
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    For most people being ugly isn't something you wake up one day and realise. I've lived with it since being a small child, its the way I have always been and when you are a kid other kids will openly say it to your face. Then you grow up, and if you are a woman being visually attractive is considered so vital that it is unacceptable to refer to yourself as unattractive, and you will just get comments such as 'don't put yourself down'. The world is so uncomfortable with unattractive women that you are constantly required to pretend that you are not ugly, so the world will not have to face up to the fact that some people are, and are treated badly because of it. For a man it's a bit easier as for males other qualities are valued more, such as intelligence, sense of humour and earnings. Hence men can joke more easily about having a large nose, for example, as it is not seen as a life ruining factor.
 
 
 
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