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checking boyfriends emails

beanie

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um, has anyone else done it?

I'm feeling so guilty at the moment.... and so I should be I guess....

Reply 1

~NC~

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I wouldnt do it, surely if you are doing that you dont trust him :s-smilie:

Maybe talk to him adn tell him how you feel?

Reply 2

Shickles

8

no..but my boyfriend has checked mine before and i felt pissed about it, but it's not like i have anything to hide! i told him off and he's never done it again..

Reply 3

The Albatross

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my bf lets me read his emails, and i let him read mine. we know each others passwords, and its often useful if we are out and need to check up on a bit of information.

But for others who are not so open about this, then checking without permission is a bit off i think. it just says: i don't trust you.

Reply 4

Fluffy

15

Nope - I TRUST him...

Reply 5

Purple

18

Yes, I do it, he runs a business and I need to check them, he asks me to :p:

Reply 6

xemilyx

2

my friend did it and she found out he was cheating

Reply 7

naelse

15

i did it once, and I'm not proud, but it turns out I had good reason to. Well I knew it before, I just needed cold hard evidence since he was determined to lie outright whenever I tried to talk to him about it... Certainly not the best relationship I've ever had.

Reply 8

beanie

OP

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ok... gona explain now I have responses- I do trust him, and I love him so much, hes the first guy I've ever been serious with and we've been together over a year now. The reason i'm checking his emails is because he is getting stupid emails from a girl who is declaring her love for him ALL the time and keeps saying she would be a better girlfriend than I am. Now, again, I do trust him and know he would never do anything with her, but he won't tell me what is in her emails because, well, he likes to be the gentleman and 'protect' me. So because we both have each others passwords for everything, I've been checking the emails and reading them so I know what is going on.

And now I feel very very guilty. He knows I go on his email, and he goes on mine and we are open with that but he doesn't know why I log onto his... if that makes sense.

Reply 9

naelse

15

I'm sure he won't mind if you admit why you have been doing it and stress that it's her you don't trust, not him lol. The way you feel is understandable, but there comes a point where you have to let it go rather than risk making it an issue

Reply 10

Leigh

15

Surely if he knows you check his mail, and knows you know about the emails but he won't tell you what's in them, he must suspect you've read them? Perhaps, (I don't know the full story) he's just presumed you've read them, doesn't take them that seriously so doesn't think it's a big deal and you're getting worked up over nothing? I mean, maybe he already knows.
Here's for wishful thinking!

I do - sometimes

beanie

ok... gona explain now I have responses- I do trust him, and I love him so much, hes the first guy I've ever been serious with and we've been together over a year now. The reason i'm checking his emails is because he is getting stupid emails from a girl who is declaring her love for him ALL the time and keeps saying she would be a better girlfriend than I am. Now, again, I do trust him and know he would never do anything with her, but he won't tell me what is in her emails because, well, he likes to be the gentleman and 'protect' me. So because we both have each others passwords for everything, I've been checking the emails and reading them so I know what is going on.

And now I feel very very guilty. He knows I go on his email, and he goes on mine and we are open with that but he doesn't know why I log onto his... if that makes sense.

is your bf ***** filan? ^o)

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(yes, i know he's married, and this isn't a serious comment....)[since when was s h a n e filtered?^o)]

Reply 13

naelse

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visesh

is your bf ***** filan? ^o)

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(yes, i know he's married, and this isn't a serious comment....)[since when was s h a n e filtered?^o)]

seriously, ***** is filtered?

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omg this is so wrong...

Reply 14

The Albatross

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haha thats ridiculous! ***** *****

anyway, OP it sounds like you had a legit reason for looking at his emails, and i'm sure he'd understand. You should probably let him know you have seen them, but don't let it become a big issue, if he isn't going to do anything about this girl.

Reply 15

lady_daisychain

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beanie

um, has anyone else done it?

I'm feeling so guilty at the moment.... and so I should be I guess....

yes i've done it...not good results i can tell you!

dont do it..because you'd hate it if he did it to you.

in hindsight, i regret doing it. oh well..

Reply 16

PaperMoon

We dont know each other's passwords. Not because we dont trust each other, but I'd feel weird him reading all my silly emails if I'm not there, I really dont see the need to exchange email passwords really. Why would you really need to know what your bf or gf writes, unless its out of curiosity of jealousy or suspicion. I really dont have any of those, he often writes emails when I'm next to him so its not an issue.

Reply 17

ciara

13

I know my boyfriend's password and he knows mine, I sometimes go onto his MSN and check his emails...generally just delete all the stupid junk he gets every day (don't worry, I keep his FHM ones). I did read some of his emails from his ex (not very serious) girlfriend, just because I've never met her and was really curious. I am nosey though, I hope he doesn't mind. However, I wouldn't mind in the slightest if he did it to me.

Sounds like you have a legit reason to me, but it would be better, and easier on your conscience, if you just talk to him cos you're worried and clearly despite trusting him need some reassurance.

Cxx

Reply 18

The Albatross

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ciara

I know my boyfriend's password and he knows mine, I sometimes go onto his MSN and check his emails...generally just delete all the stupid junk he gets every day (don't worry, I keep his FHM ones). I did read some of his emails from his ex (not very serious) girlfriend, just because I've never met her and was really curious. I am nosey though, I hope he doesn't mind. However, I wouldn't mind in the slightest if he did it to me.

same.
like often, i get up before he does, so i just check his when i check mine, and he'll ask (from bed - the lazy bugger!) if he's got any emails.
or like i said, i forget the time of a tutorial and he's at home, i can call and say can u check what time my meeting with X is?
it can be useful, and its a sign of our trust for each other

Reply 19

happydinosaur

15

I was once really tempted to do it because I saw a girl who I really hated at school had emails to him in her sent box. I trusted him though but I just really wanted to know what she had been saying. I didn't know his password though so even if I had wanted to I couldn't

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