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    This is why I always assume the girl is not interested unless she is really explicit with me, safest bet

    Am fed up of the current attitude of a lot of girls at my uni, who behave as if you are some sort of rapist if you dare approach them if they aren't interested. The rejection is bad enough, let alone having to put up with all that sh*t.
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    (Original post by lordash)
    This is why I always assume the girl is not interested unless she is really explicit with me, safest bet

    Am fed up of the current attitude of a lot of girls at my uni, who behave as if you are some sort of rapist if you dare approach them if they aren't interested. The rejection is bad enough, let alone having to put up with all that sh*t.
    i must admit girls can be a bit up themselves sometimes when all that's needed is a kind 'sorry i'm not interested, but i'm flattered you like me'..... but does a girl not seem a bit too full on if she goes all i really like you blah blah whatever it is she's trying to say?
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    (Original post by emmi_lou)
    i must admit girls can be a bit up themselves sometimes when all that's needed is a kind 'sorry i'm not interested, but i'm flattered you like me'..... but does a girl not seem a bit too full on if she goes all i really like you blah blah whatever it is she's trying to say?
    not really. unless she's ugly or very fat.
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    (Original post by sil3nt_cha0s)
    not really. unless she's ugly or very fat.
    so i suppose it's your own personal preference
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    (Original post by emmi_lou)
    i must admit girls can be a bit up themselves sometimes when all that's needed is a kind 'sorry i'm not interested, but i'm flattered you like me'..... but does a girl not seem a bit too full on if she goes all i really like you blah blah whatever it is she's trying to say?
    Well the trouble is, I suffer from the common problem shared by anyone who does science/mathematics/engineering -- that there is only one girl for every ten males. The few girls I know, I have known for ages as friends so it would just be weird to approach them (or they're taken). So I'm left with no alternative but to approach girls on nights out, hence a lot of the problems.

    It seems I either get the "how dare you even THINK about approaching me" type response, or they string me along so they can get some free drinks, after which they drop me. Hence being overly cautious with these sort of things, up to the point where I just don't bother. Plus I HATE it when girls infer that someone is a stalker/pervert just because they message/talk to them a few times, but don't make it clear to the person that they aren't interested.
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    (Original post by Pink Bullets)
    There's a solution to this: stop asking if they fancy meeting up. If they want to meet up, they'll ask you. If they never ask you, then you'll know that they just aren't bothered about seeing you. And you can stop wasting your time.
    And what if the other person is thinking exactly the same! Both of you want to ask the other, but is too worried / scared to.

    (Original post by emmi_lou)
    i'm a little confused byt he situation and am in limbo about what's going on..
    Now you know what we feel like!
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    [QUOTE=WelshBluebird;30700999]And what if the other person is thinking exactly the same! Both of you want to ask the other, but is too worried / scared to.
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    you have a point there....
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    (Original post by WelshBluebird)
    And what if the other person is thinking exactly the same! Both of you want to ask the other, but is too worried / scared to.



    Now you know what we feel like!
    The guy in this situation already knows that the girl wants to see him, because she asks every time. :confused: You really think a relationship (of any variety) should be one person making the effort 100% of the time?

    And why would a guy be "worried/scared" to suggest meeting up with a girl who regularly suggests meeting up with him? :lolwut: That... doesn't seem likely.

    (Original post by WelshBluebird)
    Now you know what we feel like!
    When did we not? Men giving out mixed signals is not some new thing.
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    (Original post by emmi_lou)
    this is my problem, i don't wanna make soo much effort it gets annoying so hope by dropping hints he'll make an effort to suggest things
    been a bit slow getting round to answer this but if he's not willing to put any effort in i don't see how it can work. if it's just this that he's not putting the effort into then talk to him bluntly. i know i've been guilty of this before and not realised.
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    (Original post by Pink Bullets)
    The guy in this situation already knows that the girl wants to see him, because she asks every time. :confused: You really think a relationship (of any variety) should be one person making the effort 100% of the time?

    And why would a guy be "worried/scared" to suggest meeting up with a girl who regularly suggests meeting up with him? :lolwut: That... doesn't seem likely.



    When did we not? Men giving out mixed signals is not some new thing.
    hadn't thought of it that way, you both have a point......

    i agree that it shouldn't just be me making all the effort, and hoped that hinting would help but maybe not :banghead:
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    (Original post by Pink Bullets)
    The guy in this situation already knows that the girl wants to see him, because she asks every time. :confused: You really think a relationship (of any variety) should be one person making the effort 100% of the time?

    And why would a guy be "worried/scared" to suggest meeting up with a girl who regularly suggests meeting up with him? :lolwut: That... doesn't seem likely.

    When did we not? Men giving out mixed signals is not some new thing.
    1 - I was talking about general situations. Quite often you'll get a situation where a person likes another person, but is too worried or nervous to do anything about it. That does not mean they are not interested.

    2 - Its not the meeting up part. Its the part about "taking it further". I have no problems meeting up with female friends, I have quite a few. However, in the hypothetical situation that I was single and was interested in one of them, I would find it VERY hard to get the guts to push it any further. Even if she was trying to hint that she liked me.

    3 - Women are much more confusing. They prefer to "hint" rather than actually say.
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    (Original post by WelshBluebird)
    Women are much more confusing. They prefer to "hint" rather than actually say.
    But we don't like to be too forward because this is often/sometimes met by a negative response, so hinting seems a better option as it avoids such a reaction.
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    (Original post by emmi_lou)
    As the title suggests, what's up with you guys and taking a hint??

    If it's not "please leave me alone" or "i really want to see you" no matter how hard we try, you guys never seem to pick up on a hint.....

    Is this down to just bad hint giving skills, or just an inability to recognise them???
    Just leave now TBH
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    (Original post by zKlown)
    Just leave now TBH
    helpful
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    Forget hints, if you're interested in a bloke just tell him you like him and want to have lots of the sex. It's much quicker
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    (Original post by Count Stefular)
    Forget hints, if you're interested in a bloke just tell him you like him and want to have lots of the sex. It's much quicker
    have to keep that in mind haha
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    (Original post by Dr Pressure)
    would you be able to answer my response, please?
    was my response of any use by the way??
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    (Original post by WelshBluebird)

    3 - Women are much more confusing. They prefer to "hint" rather than actually say.
    How many men have you dated? I have seldom known a man to be straightforward about what he wants.
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    (Original post by Count Stefular)
    Forget hints, if you're interested in a bloke just tell him you like him and want to have lots of the sex. It's much quicker
    This girls knows what she's talking about.
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    (Original post by Pink Bullets)
    How many men have you dated? I have seldom known a man to be straightforward about what he wants.
    very true
 
 
 
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