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    Hey! Anon or delete please.

    Tomorrow evening I'm meeting my boyfriend's parents for the first time. We're both going round to their house and they are cooking a meal. I'm pretty much petrified lol! Has anyone got any advice or tips?

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    Just imagine them in their underwear
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    uh stay chilled out don't be rude or too nice
    crap advice but good luck
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    Just be yourself, etc.

    Are they Asian parents?
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    be polite don't dress like a tramp.

    its really no big deal. first time i met my ex's parents I'd come straight from leeds fest so i stunk horrendouslyi briefly said hi as i walked in the door ran up to the shower, then when i came back down again i was wearing my gfs clothes as i didn't have any that didn't reek.... you can't do much worse than that unless you go out your way to do it on purpose
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    I remember my first time and the important thing is to be really nice and polite and offer to clear/lay the table and compliment the food
    Also talk about your future because they love that e.g. uni etc
    And more importantly just be yourself because they want to get to know you and they must be excited (and just as nervous as you are ) hope that helps
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    Firstly, a funny tale for you about the first/second time my boyfriend met my parents. We were coming home from a date, it was quite late and they weren't expecting him. So we walk past my parents room (to get to my room) and the door is wide open and my dad is standing there naked. Mortified isn't even the word haha, so remember nothing can be worse than that!
    Anyway, as cliched as it sounds, really do be yourself, because if you're going to be together for a fair amount of time then they will get to know you. Obviously you want to make a good impression, but try and relax and don't try too hard. I would ask your boyfriend a little about his parents likes/dislikes etc, again not so you can pretend to be someone you're not, but it might help the conversation flow a little more.
    Again obvious, but parents always appreciate please and thank you and offering to wash up after you've eaten will probably win you brownie points. Also, don't be afraid of silence- this may not be a problem for you, but I'm a bit of a motor-mouth and I get nervous when no one speaks, so I end up rambling about nothing just to fill the silences. I reckon everyone (your boyfriend included) will be a little nervous but I'm sure as the evening progresses you'll be fine.
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    They sit on the toilet just like the rest of us, so there's no need to feel intimidated! Be yourself, be polite and kind, be courteous, the basics. You'll be fine
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    Avoid swearing I'd say try to be confident, don't just curl up in a ball
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    Why petrified? You've met humans before right? Just talk to them like normal people (of course make sure you show some respect for them and everything will be finee)
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    (Original post by Jellybean91)
    Why petrified? You've met humans before right? Just talk to them like normal people (of course make sure you show some respect for them and everything will be finee)
    I suppose But these people may be my future family, so I care about what they think about me!
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    I suppose But these people may be my future family, so I care about what they think about me!
    But if your boyfriend likes you then why wouldnt they? just be polite, be chatty and you'll be fine!
 
 
 
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