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    I've been going out with my partner for over a year now. The first six months of our relationship were fantastic - we were constantly going out, going to parties, having fun with friends and, of course, having a lot of sex.

    After that initial period, we stopped going out so much, but we still spent all our time together. She practically lived in my halls for the year. During that time, the amount of sex we were having steadily declined, which is fine considering that's just what happens in a relationship over a long period of time.

    I stayed with her at her parents' place last Summer, and got a job in her home town. The Summer was insane. We worked incredibly long hours and came back at the end of the day to a house in the middle of nowhere, with nowhere to go and nothing to do. It wasn't long before we were at each other's throats over the tiniest things, constantly arguing every chance we got. In honesty, the only thing that stopped me breaking up with her during that time is that we'd agreed to live together next year and had already put the deposit down on a house.

    Now I'm most of the way through my second year of uni. She's in her third, and has spent most of the year buried under her dissertation. We don't go out. We rarely have any fun. We certainly never spend time alone, hanging out in bed and watching movies any more. We live with some friends of ours, and whenever I suggest spending time alone she tells me that she'd rather we hung out downstairs with them. We have sex around 3 or 4 times a month now. We argue a lot.

    For some reason, after all this, the plan is for us to get a flat together next year. Just the two of us.

    I can see this going one of two ways. Either being alone with one another will rekindle what we had, or we'll break up and live in awkward hell for my final year of university.

    After writing this all out, the answer seems a bit obvious, doesn't it? What are your thoughts? Detailed suggestions are very much welcome.
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    If you're having to ask us this, you probably already know the answer.
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    The fact that you are thoughts about breaking up answers your question and it doesn't seem like either of you are happy in the relationship...
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    Whatever you do, don't let the fact that you put down a deposit ultimately decide whether you should stay together or not. That's not fair on her or yourself.
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    Can't kick a dead horse back to life, and that's what the flat would be doing.
    Save yourself a load of hassle and break up as soon as possible. Sounds like the fire burned out a long time ago.
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    (Original post by Mazty)
    Can't kick a dead horse back to life, and that's what the flat would be doing.
    Save yourself a load of hassle and break up as soon as possible. Sounds like the fire burned out a long time ago.
    Agreed.

    When you have to ask a bunch of strangers on a forum whether your rekationship is working, you know the answer to it, you just need to get used to the idea yourself.

    ps. the bunch of strangers thing isnt meant offensivly, just well, thats what tsr is really!
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