A Girl being out of your league.....

ever felt that way guys about a girl you really like.

just asking because ive felt attraction to certain girls I know are to good for me so don't make a move.

maybe its knowing my level.

Reply 1

recneps

10

Yes - but normally in my experience the problem is that the girl already has a boyfriend!!

Reply 2

Higgy

2

If she appears to be out your league then your better off without her, she'll probably be stuck up anyway lol

Reply 3

tbm

13

Cluedo89

ever felt that way guys about a girl you really like.

just asking because ive felt attraction to certain girls I know are to good for me so don't make a move.

maybe its knowing my level.

Why do you think these girls are out of your league, and how do you know that they are 'too good' for you?

If you never try, you never know!

Reply 4

Checking for Spies

10

I don't think you should think like that, go for it!
I've been out with guys who my friends have said are 'beneath' me looks wise (God that sounds so big-headed!)...personality does help a little you know :smile:

Reply 5

fruitcake

2

in what way is she "too good for you"??, some girls you might think are out of your league i.e pretty , popular etc if they're nice and not pretentious bitches will probably be sick of the guys that are supposedly "in their league" as the hot popular guys tend to be arseholes in my experience! if you seem to get on etc, go for it! if she is totally rude shes obviously a bitch and youre better off without her!

Reply 6

OppressedMass

13

Yeah just go for it. Pretty girls are just as liekly to find you attractive as less pretty girls.

Reply 7

recneps

10

The particular girl i was thinking of was really kind and friendly, but she was also popular, pretty etc. She had a boyfriend who slept with another girl a couple of times, and each time she forgave him eventually - but even during the times when they weren't going out I knew that she was too popular and, as she could just about had any guy at my school, there was no reason why she would go out with me.

Reply 8

fruitcake

2

mmmm well if her boyf cheated on her shes probs a nice girl if that makes sense(??!!) but also feeling vulnerable. she'll probs really want a nice relaible guy tat is less likely to run off!! id go for it!! she might really like you and be thinking the same thing. girls are strange creatures, even the pretty popular ones often think theyre worthless, if youre nice to her and she seems to have at least noticed you im sure you have a chance. go for it!

Reply 9

Cluedo89

OP

maybe your right, I think confidence plays a part.

girls ive been with before, always tell me I should have more self belief.

Reply 10

recneps

10

fruitcake

mmmm well if her boyf cheated on her shes probs a nice girl if that makes sense(??!!) but also feeling vulnerable. she'll probs really want a nice relaible guy tat is less likely to run off!! id go for it!! she might really like you and be thinking the same thing. girls are strange creatures, even the pretty popular ones often think theyre worthless, if youre nice to her and she seems to have at least noticed you im sure you have a chance. go for it!

This was just an example - I havent seen / heard from her for several months now. Just using it to illustrate my answer to Cleudo's question really.

Reply 11

Dude

14

Nearly every girl I know is out of my league

Reply 12

zooropa

Why not make a move? If they turn you down, then they turn you down.

I don't even think I believe in leagues. If you're considered good looking, then yes I can understand why you'll only want to date other good looking people. But to me physical attractiveness is not so rigid and absolute.

Reply 13

L i b

19

If you don't think they're out of your league before you start going out with them, there's no bloody point in the proceedings. You'll just get distracted by someone else who is.

Reply 14

Ferrus

19

zooropa

Why not make a move? If they turn you down, then they turn you down.

That is easy to say but thier is humilation involved with not knowing "your place" in the social heirachy.

But on one point you are correct, girls tend to find confidence as more an indicator of attractiveness than looks.

Reply 15

thefish_uk

14

I think it's all relative, yeah. You only think she's out of your league because you think so highly of her. In fact, to other guys, she might not be that attractive.

Having said that, I'm hardly one to talk about girls.

Reply 16

Traum

sometimes some people are just out of your league...e.g. Johnny depp is out of mine at the moment~lol

Reply 17

Mcin

Oh yeah. Feel this all the time. Most women are out of my league. Even some of the ones where the only way you can tell they're female is by looking at their birth certificate (which often has 'sex' corrected a couple of times) are out of my league.
I also like the 'why not make a move' thing. I say it to people all the time. 'What have you got to lose? If you don't ask you'll never know.' I never take my own advice because I know extreme humiliation is on the cards, and plus, I'm always friends with some before I start to think about wanting to take it further. And I've seen how weird it gets when one friend finds out the other one likes them more than they thought. Too weird.

Reply 18

Hashshashin

13

I've managed to delude myself into thinking that I'm good enough for any girl, and if they think otherwise they are clearly insane. I've done this so effictively that it's actually true, as shown by my complete lack of a girlfriend for over 10 years. :rolleyes:

Reply 19

JonnyB

2

Hashshashin

I've managed to delude myself into thinking that I'm good enough for any girl, and if they think otherwise they are clearly insane. I've done this so effictively that it's actually true, as shown by my complete lack of a girlfriend for over 10 years. :rolleyes:

I didn't want a girlfriend when I was five.

A Girl being out of your league.....

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