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    Hopefully someone can give me some advice.

    I've always felt pretty miserable, but it feels increasingly intensive recently. My old friends also decided they had a problem with me months ago and I still haven't gotten over it, despite knowing I'm better off without them. I've started uni this year and I have a small group I hang around with but really don't feel like I'm close to them or am ever likely to be. I don't go out to the pub or club, or shopping or anything, despite having tried to organise something because no one else can be bothered. I don't have a boyfriend and have never had anything close to one, and feel like it's because I'm not good enough for anyone. I don't like anything about my appearance or personality, and can't think of anything I'm good at or enjoy. I cry at least once a week about it all.

    Tl;dr: I feel like I'm worthless and no one likes me and it's making me miserable.

    Should I go to see a counsellor and could I have depression?
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    Possibly...though if you do have true Depression, it sounds likely that it's fairly mild. It's best to go see a doctor. It might feel awkward, but they have this questionnaire thing you have to answer, and they can grade how severe the Depression is (if you have it.)
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    I think you need to use your initiative and join various sports and social clubs. Focus on your uni work too, nothing like confidence in your grades to give you confidence in social situations!

    Also lot's of fitness and eating healthily (proteins! Fish, Eghs, CASHEW NUTS MMMMM)

    All the above helps to get you back on track!

    As Winston Churchill once said - 'If you are going through hell.... Keep going'

    GOOD LUCK!
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    (Original post by Insomnia)
    Sometimes being so ugly is a crime ...
    Uh, shut up?

    Anyway, it does sound like depression. I'd suggest you see a doctor, and ask for a referral for an assessment with your local mental health team. In the meantime, go and see your university counsellor. CBT might be quite effective in your case.

    If you want to talk about this, I'm really willing to lend an ear (or an eye, I suppose). Don't suffer in silence though - it seems you need to talk about it, and let it out in one way or another.

    I wish you well.
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    If u want an honest opinion .. try not give a **** about what other ppl think ... Chin up !! And hotten urself up .... U'll get the attention .. Its confidence u need to work on!!! ......
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    I feel like that sometimes, for different reasons though. Depression has physical symptoms such as sleeping problems and irritability as well as mental symptoms, so it might be depression if you have those symptoms as well.

    I hope you start feeling better soon
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    You may have depression but if you're feeling really down then I think it's best if you contact your school counselor about it now rather then later. I made the mistake last year by telling myself that other people suffered far worse than me so I should keep my problems to myself but that just made everything worse.

    I used to overlook depression because it was one of those words that got thrown around a lot but it's pretty serious. It may take a bit of time to feel better but I do hope you the best.
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    Why don't you join a few societies and socialise with random people. Don't be shy, just approach them! You'll feel good at the end of the day and meet new people.
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    (Original post by BigDanny)
    I feel like that sometimes, for different reasons though. Depression has physical symptoms such as sleeping problems and irritability as well as mental symptoms, so it might be depression if you have those symptoms as well.

    I hope you start feeling better soon
    I do have sleeping problems - I don't go to bed til 2/3am because I feel I won't sleep unless I'm too tired to keep my eyes open.
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    Go see a counsellor or a GP.. we can't diagnose you!!

    And it won't make any difference whether you have a diagnosis or not! it just depends on the treatment.
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    (Original post by ShengXin)
    Go see a counsellor or a GP.. we can't diagnose you!!

    And it won't make any difference whether you have a diagnosis or not! it just depends on the treatment.
    I thought it would be an idea to get a second opinion before doing so
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    If you have depression, then I think it would be quite a mild form. The majority of people with depression cry a lot more than just once a week. We all feel miserable some of the time, it's only natural to do so, but I'd suggest trying to socialise and meet new people so you can move on with your life before going to a GP. Also keep an eye on physical symptoms, such as unexplained aches and pains, trouble sleeping or sleeping too much, eating too much or too little and headaches.

    Best of luck.
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    I'd find someone who you can talk to, I can't say for sure but it doesn't sound like depression.
    I've had diagnoised depression for years, i feel like the inside of my brain is drowning, emotionally numb and worthless if it comes back. If you're somewhere where you should be happy and things may even be alright but you still can suddenly start crying then i'd say you were depressed.
    You can be depressed and not have depression though.
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    It doesn't really matter whether you're 'depressed' or not, the fact is you feel miserable and want to do something about it, right? So...force yourself to do something that makes you smile! Pick three things that you like doing and do them! Even if it's as simple as eating Millie's cookies watching the Lion King or something, I don't know, just do it! Tomorrow, as soon as possible, make the time for it.

    If you can't see the point in doing little things to make you happy, that's when you should think about talking to a counsellor - in my experience anyway. Everyone's different. The fact that you're questioning it though probably suggests that you should, just for your own piece of mind

    Also, if you feel a little worthless, try doing something that makes you feel valued. How about joining a non-serious sports team? Or something more serious - volunteer at a charity shop, the Samaritons, Childline...? Volunteer at a local primary school? I always find working with children a good morale boost because they're always so happy and aways so pleased to see you!

    Really though, if you think you need more help, I promise you (or very very nearly fully assure you) that you won't feel worse for going to talk to someone. If nothing else, you'll have made a productive step towards trying to feel better.
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    (Original post by Annonymous_47)
    It doesn't really matter whether you're 'depressed' or not, the fact is you feel miserable and want to do something about it, right? So...force yourself to do something that makes you smile! Pick three things that you like doing and do them! Even if it's as simple as eating Millie's cookies
    That sounds like a really good way to get fat.
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    Hey,

    It's no good being depressed and sitting in your flat (or wherever you live) get out and enjoy yourself, put yourself out there, sitting by yourself thinking about the situation is only going to make things worse. If you give yourself time to sit around and think deeply, it will just make you worse, but like i said earlier, get yourself known in the local, talk to people. Step outside your comfort zone, do things that are 'outside the box.' When you are alone, don't sit around and mope, relax, don't stress. Do things like yoga, or if your feeling energetic, start a dance class or maybe tai-chi? It would take the weight off your soldiers. But remember, there will be someone out there for you. Just because you haven't found them yet, doesn't mean that they aren't out there, and anyways, relationships can be difficult and could just add to the stress. Anywho, good luck, keep smiling, and remember, us ninjas will be sending happy vibes
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    i feel the same way, op. i went to see my doc about it last year and he diagnosed me with depression and now i see a counsellor. i'm only 17 and i start uni this year so i'm scared what's going to happen with that.
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    That sounds like a really good way to get fat.
    And it would be worth it...
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    Depression is a serious matter. I advice you to consult a counselor.

    Because any thing we will say here will not affect you much. instead we will be negged.

    good luck with depression though
 
 
 
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