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Let's say a guy has vague interests i.e. he likes a good film, watches tv, watches the footy, go's to the gym and goes out with mates. I mean would this make a guy seem boring with no attractive attributes if it is the same as most others?
On the other hand, you have a guy who likes to do all the above but has a harcore passion for woodwork (I myself am a bit of a craftsman). Would this be important in attraction. I mean now there's distinctive attributes between this guy and other guys.
Basically you wouldn't go for a guy who was quite plain and boring with nothing to offer. Am I along the right lines girls?
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- Thread Starter
- 06-04-2011 01:38
- 06-04-2011 01:41
Well apparently according to TSR girls, they don't like guys who spend their lives in the gym, even though it takes about a mere 4 hours in the gym a week to keep a good body. So watch out for that.Last edited by sil3nt_cha0s; 06-04-2011 at 01:42.
- 06-04-2011 01:41
I suppose it makes a guy more unique...
- 06-04-2011 01:44
Shared interests are attractive, even if that is something as 'vague' and 'boring' as liking similar films.
- 06-04-2011 01:46
I love guys who have a passion for something, especially a sport. Like a guy who likes mountain climbing really attracts me...I don't know why.
- 06-04-2011 01:48
Enjoying a movie, wathcing tv and going out with freinds aren't " interests" in my opinion
I'd imagine many girls would see these things as normal things to do
In response to your question, however, participating in something more unusual, like part of a charity, or participate in sports at a higher level, are things some women may find attractive.
Some women i find are conditioned to considering certain things attractive though...if you listen to girls talking about a guy, they often will say stuff like " oh , and he is captain of the football team" etc as a way of impressing their friendsLast edited by Carpediemxx; 06-04-2011 at 01:49.
- 06-04-2011 01:49
Yep, if a guy has a passion/hobby thats definately more attractive than something who enjoys vague stuff like you mentioned - films, pubs, hangng out with friends etc. Even better if we have similar interests.
- 06-04-2011 01:50
Yeah having interests other than video games and football is an attractive quality in a man, for me.
I'm on a dating site and the amount of guys who have no interests other than the two I've mentioned, is shocking.
But, on the other hand, there are girls out there who find this to be enough for them, and that's fair enough. I however, prefer guys to be into different things, like seeing live music, going to festivals, visiting castles, travelling to different places, trying new and interesting foods, cooking, art, culture etc.. those to me, are interests.Last edited by Ilora-Danon; 06-04-2011 at 01:52.
(Original post by sil3nt_cha0s)
- 06-04-2011 01:51
Well apparently according to TSR girls, they don't like guys who spend their lives in the gym, even though it takes about 4 hours in the gym a week to keep a good body.
Anyway....on topic again, sorry about that.
Most women are probably more interested in men who have some sort of overlap in interests. This suggests that there are hints at connecting thoughts and you do realise we rate the emotional connectivity biz, yeah?
However being interested in a man doesn't always equate to being attracted to a man. Attraction is less logical and more about chemical spark. You really can't quantify that or 'make it happen'. A spark can make the difference between overlooking the less attractive things about a man (with spark) and not really feeling a man despite him ticking all the boxes on paper (without spark)
To be honest, all that lad type stuff doesnt really interest me. I kind of expect it to some level but it's not 'attractive' per se. If a girl really doesnt like football, she might find it a bit irritating if you are a major, committed, football fan. I know personally it would bore me to tears to hear about it, but then guys probably don't want to hear about my shopping expeditions do they.
If it's something a bit out of the ordinary then yes, it makes a man more interesting.
Just common sense really.
- 06-04-2011 02:13
I think there's a difference between interests and hobbies.
Interests - literature, politics, astronomy, stuff like that
Hobbies - snowboarding, skiing, salsa dancing, stuff like that
Some people are more 'hobbies' people and they want to see others who have 'hobbies' as in do stuff. This is good because it shows the other person gets out and off their backsides. However unless the hobbies are shared, it doesn't make for much of a talking point.
Interests, when they are shared, make for much more of having things in common. Even when they aren't shared, you can pick things up off the other person. I find in general more people have hobbies than interests, but in girls I prefer girls who are interested in certain things and know a lot about them, I find that easier to latch on to than if a girl just has hobbies that I'm not interested in.