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    (Original post by lazyswot)
    Oh my god! OP, and the people who have added similar stories, are you still friends with these people??
    And it just baffles me why on earth they wanted you to come in the first place if they're going to act like that.
    I'm not friends with her anymore. I've still got her added on facebook, but I've blocked her on fb chat and msn. Won't be going out with her again, and won't make any efforts to contact her until she makes the first move. She can text me when she decides not to be a ****.
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    I feel you Muffinz.

    Only I didn't actually go to visit my friend because her boyfriend is a racist **** and he lives with her.
    Making me feel uncomfortable even to visit her because he will forever shout insults at me thinking that he is being funny.

    People at uni live in a completely different world, it seems.
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    I just got back from a long weekend of seeing one of my "friends" at university - she was a ***** the whole time and I'm never talking to her again.

    I'll preface this with a bit of background: we've been friends since the beginning of secondary school and kept in touch, met up and stuff despite doing different courses, so we've made an effort for eachother. Ever since she left for university in September (Northampton, History, for those wondering) she's been begging me to come up and see her.

    Last week she asked if I could "please come up and see [her] this weekend (2nd/3rd April)". I said yes, booked the tickets (~90 pounds), booked some time off work and went up to visit her on Saturday.

    On the Friday night before I left she texted me and asked if I could bring her some fairy liquid, as she had ran out. I was immediately offended, as you know, washing liquid is cheap as chips and I'm coming to see her as a guest, not as her Mum to bring her supplies. Nonetheless I packed some of the stuff and took it up with me. (Oh, and she didn't say thank you for it).

    I got on the train and went up to see her on Saturday, and was concerned about where to meet her once I got there. She originally told me to meet her in town, but as I had never been to Northampton in my life I asked her to meet me in the station off the train. She didn't, instead leaving me to flip my **** when I got out the place without finding her.

    She finally showed up and we got home, no problems there. We dumped our stuff, got ready to go out and hit the town. We went into this amazing club called Embargos with one of her friends, and we were having a good time. About halfway through the night, she sits down in a corner and refuses to get up and dance anymore, simply claiming that it "wasn't [her] scene". I felt awkward leaving her there so I sat down too. As she said she was skint, I bought her drinks all night too.

    Actually this is taking too long to go through everything so I'll bullet point.

    After that;

    - Refused to go for a walk or anything the next day, saying she was too tired.
    - Didn't have enough food in her flat for her, let alone both of us. Initially refused to take me to Asda because she was skint.
    - Seemingly expected me to sit in her flat doing nothing for hours on end.
    - Had no clean towels, no milk or bread, no hairdryer, basic things. I had to use a handtowel she had used about 4 or 5 times because she said she was too skint to do laundry... although she could afford to handwash a dress for going out on Monday night. Funny, that.
    - Had us sit in her flat for about 3 hours on Monday night waiting for her friends to come over, despite them just being a short walk over at the Student Union. I suggested we go meet them there, she said she couldn't be bothered to walk.
    - Left me alone at the club we went to on Monday with her bag and her shoes while she snogged a random boy outside.
    - Suggested that I cheat on my boyfriend with one of said boy's friends.
    - Told me to move my lilo when I wanted a short nap on Tuesday afternoon so she could use the computer.
    - Refused to let me **** off to a Travelodge.

    All in all I had a pretty ****ty time despite tolerating her and trying to be fun, and I'll never talk to her again.

    tl;dr: **** friend at a **** uni in a **** town. **** trip.
    Ah Muffinz, this all went wrong because you were female.
    Here's how it would have panned out if you were lads.

    - Wouldn't have realised that there was no Fairy liquid until Sunday lunchtime when you wanted to eat something and then realised there were no clean plates. A trip down the local corner shop would have solved this problem.
    - It would have been expected that you found your own way to your mates house, you would have known how to find directions with compass and map from watching war films.
    - If your mate was being a ****** at the club not enjoying himself you would have had the right to leave him on his own.
    - If you mate had no money for drinks you'd have bought him one and told him "make it last lol"
    - Refusing to go for a walk the next day would have been standard if it had been a good night. But there would have been some trash on TV to watch or if not Pro Evo would have come out.
    - Not having enough food in the flat would also have been standard. This problem would probably have been solved at the time of the Fairy liquid, down the corner shop. A multipack of Doritos would have taken the edge off the munchies then when it came to dinner you could have just rooted around under the letter box there would be bound to be some menu from a curry house.
    - Seemingly expected you to sit for hours in the house doing nothing...yeah, you came over to relax not to work, what are you supposed to do with your mates, make them clean the bathroom?
    - Clean towels, hairdryer, laundry would not be words in your vocabulary so this would not have been an issue. And who washes their clothes before going out??
    - The 3 hours in the flat waiting for your mates to come over would have gone quickly because you would have done interesting stuff like watched MTV and made vulgar comments at all the female singers / dancers
    - If he had left you with his bag and shoes while he went to get off with a girl you would have hidden them, then when he came back for them, you would have said "dunno, not seen em mate lol"
    - When you'd been requested to take one for the team you would have done so regardless of your relationship status. Bros before hos.
    - When you were told to move your lilo so he could use the computer, it would have been kicked dismissively with his foot, and referred to as "this f-in piece of s-t"
    - If you wanted to go to a Travelodge he'd have offered to come with you and go halves with you on some escorts

    You would have come back and told TSR what a legendary weekend you'd had, and uploaded the photos to a facebook album called "proper good times"
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    You sure got a lot of rep for a personal story/rant O_o
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    The quick and easy guide to revenge:

    1) Treat her like a queen & apologise for your outburst.

    2) Go to uni

    3) Invite her over for a weekend

    4) Tell her you're too p***** out of your face to pick her up from the train station and that you'll get a friend to pick her up instead.

    5) Having snooped around your preferred university's city/ town and having located and stalked the local pervert/village idiot, give him/her a free Big Mac in exchange for his/her services picking up your friend (Big Mac comes after he/ she fulfills their duty)

    6) Have the VI steal all of her towels and sporadically spray her with vast quantities of washing up liquid (I'm pretty sure you don't need a VI here, any dude from the student union would probably be up for it)

    7) VI can run off now, and you, m'friend, can snap away with your camera and f*** her up (post it on FB, FML, Myspace, Bebo...)

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    (Original post by Liam 09)
    You sure got a lot of rep for a personal story/rant O_o
    Yep :/
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    Standard, I'd hate to entertain friends from home in my flat. You do get in the sort of mindset where you wash plates in warm water so you don't have to waste money on **** like washing-up liquid.
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    (Original post by Prose Before Hoes)
    The quick and easy guide to revenge:

    1) Treat her like a queen & apologise for your outburst.

    2) Go to uni

    3) Invite her over for a weekend

    4) Tell her you're too p***** out of your face to pick her up from the train station and that you'll get a friend to pick her up instead.

    5) Having snooped around your preferred university's city/ town and having located and stalked the local pervert/village idiot, give him/her a free Big Mac in exchange for his/her services picking up your friend (Big Mac comes after he/ she fulfills their duty)

    6) Have the VI steal all of her towels and sporadically spray her with vast quantities of washing up liquid (I'm pretty sure you don't need a VI here, any dude from the student union would probably be up for it)

    7) VI can run off now, and you, m'friend, can snap away with your camera and f*** her up (post it on FB, FML, Myspace, Bebo...)

    Love this.
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    Many friendships don't last once one or both of you have moved, only a pity it ended so badly.
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    (Original post by Muffinz)
    I just got back from a long weekend of seeing one of my "friends" at university - she was a ***** the whole time and I'm never talking to her again.

    I'll preface this with a bit of background: we've been friends since the beginning of secondary school and kept in touch, met up and stuff despite doing different courses, so we've made an effort for eachother. Ever since she left for university in September (Northampton, History, for those wondering) she's been begging me to come up and see her.

    Last week she asked if I could "please come up and see [her] this weekend (2nd/3rd April)". I said yes, booked the tickets (~90 pounds), booked some time off work and went up to visit her on Saturday.

    On the Friday night before I left she texted me and asked if I could bring her some fairy liquid, as she had ran out. I was immediately offended, as you know, washing liquid is cheap as chips and I'm coming to see her as a guest, not as her Mum to bring her supplies. Nonetheless I packed some of the stuff and took it up with me. (Oh, and she didn't say thank you for it).

    I got on the train and went up to see her on Saturday, and was concerned about where to meet her once I got there. She originally told me to meet her in town, but as I had never been to Northampton in my life I asked her to meet me in the station off the train. She didn't, instead leaving me to flip my **** when I got out the place without finding her.

    She finally showed up and we got home, no problems there. We dumped our stuff, got ready to go out and hit the town. We went into this amazing club called Embargos with one of her friends, and we were having a good time. About halfway through the night, she sits down in a corner and refuses to get up and dance anymore, simply claiming that it "wasn't [her] scene". I felt awkward leaving her there so I sat down too. As she said she was skint, I bought her drinks all night too.

    Actually this is taking too long to go through everything so I'll bullet point.

    After that;

    - Refused to go for a walk or anything the next day, saying she was too tired.
    - Didn't have enough food in her flat for her, let alone both of us. Initially refused to take me to Asda because she was skint.
    - Seemingly expected me to sit in her flat doing nothing for hours on end.
    - Had no clean towels, no milk or bread, no hairdryer, basic things. I had to use a handtowel she had used about 4 or 5 times because she said she was too skint to do laundry... although she could afford to handwash a dress for going out on Monday night. Funny, that.
    - Had us sit in her flat for about 3 hours on Monday night waiting for her friends to come over, despite them just being a short walk over at the Student Union. I suggested we go meet them there, she said she couldn't be bothered to walk.
    - Left me alone at the club we went to on Monday with her bag and her shoes while she snogged a random boy outside.
    - Suggested that I cheat on my boyfriend with one of said boy's friends.
    - Told me to move my lilo when I wanted a short nap on Tuesday afternoon so she could use the computer.
    - Refused to let me **** off to a Travelodge.

    All in all I had a pretty ****ty time despite tolerating her and trying to be fun, and I'll never talk to her again.

    tl;dr: **** friend at a **** uni in a **** town. **** trip.

    Lesson is: School friends do not automatically translate to adulthood friends.

    Her obvious failings were either covered over or more easily ignored due to you both being teenagers and being in a school environment.

    You are both older and different. You do not like how she has turned out.

    C'est la vie.
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    (Original post by Muffinz)
    about 5 foot 8, size 10/12, spanish colouring, easy lay.
    Well, if it makes you feel any better, i'd give her a good seeing to.
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    This is why I don't visit friends at other unis! I always make an effort when I have people to stay- Provide clean towels and bedding, do a yummy waitrose food shop, put us on the guest list for a club, books a nice meal at a restaurant one night, etc. This never gets reciprocated so I've just given up!
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    (Original post by ~Amy-Eliza~)
    This is why I don't visit friends at other unis! I always make an effort when I have people to stay- Provide clean towels and bedding, do a yummy waitrose food shop, put us on the guest list for a club, books a nice meal at a restaurant one night, etc. This never gets reciprocated so I've just given up!
    I want to be your friend! :love:
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    (Original post by Muffinz)
    I want to be your friend! :love:
    You can be my friend, you sound like you would appreciate the effort I make
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    (Original post by MagicNMedicine)
    Ah Muffinz, this all went wrong because you were female.
    Here's how it would have panned out if you were lads.

    - Wouldn't have realised that there was no Fairy liquid until Sunday lunchtime when you wanted to eat something and then realised there were no clean plates. A trip down the local corner shop would have solved this problem.
    - It would have been expected that you found your own way to your mates house, you would have known how to find directions with compass and map from watching war films.
    - If your mate was being a ****** at the club not enjoying himself you would have had the right to leave him on his own.
    - If you mate had no money for drinks you'd have bought him one and told him "make it last lol"
    - Refusing to go for a walk the next day would have been standard if it had been a good night. But there would have been some trash on TV to watch or if not Pro Evo would have come out.
    - Not having enough food in the flat would also have been standard. This problem would probably have been solved at the time of the Fairy liquid, down the corner shop. A multipack of Doritos would have taken the edge off the munchies then when it came to dinner you could have just rooted around under the letter box there would be bound to be some menu from a curry house.
    - Seemingly expected you to sit for hours in the house doing nothing...yeah, you came over to relax not to work, what are you supposed to do with your mates, make them clean the bathroom?
    - Clean towels, hairdryer, laundry would not be words in your vocabulary so this would not have been an issue. And who washes their clothes before going out??
    - The 3 hours in the flat waiting for your mates to come over would have gone quickly because you would have done interesting stuff like watched MTV and made vulgar comments at all the female singers / dancers
    - If he had left you with his bag and shoes while he went to get off with a girl you would have hidden them, then when he came back for them, you would have said "dunno, not seen em mate lol"
    - When you'd been requested to take one for the team you would have done so regardless of your relationship status. Bros before hos.
    - When you were told to move your lilo so he could use the computer, it would have been kicked dismissively with his foot, and referred to as "this f-in piece of s-t"
    - If you wanted to go to a Travelodge he'd have offered to come with you and go halves with you on some escorts

    You would have come back and told TSR what a legendary weekend you'd had, and uploaded the photos to a facebook album called "proper good times"
    I wish I were a guy sometimes :moon:


    Seriously, though - how many people on TSR have second rate friends like this? Every time I come on here there's a new thread with something like this on it :/

    My friend invites me to stay a lot and always makes such an effort; buying in stuff I like that she doesn't usually have herself, having clean bedding and then proceeding to essentially be my slave when I'm over (cooking for me an making me many cups of tea :p:) I'm so lucky to have her :love:
    Anyway, it just seems so odd that someone would invite you round and just put such a downer on things and make so little effort...it's the attitude more than anything else!
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    (Original post by Muffinz)
    I just got back from a long weekend of seeing one of my "friends" at university - she was a ***** the whole time and I'm never talking to her again.

    I'll preface this with a bit of background: we've been friends since the beginning of secondary school and kept in touch, met up and stuff despite doing different courses, so we've made an effort for eachother. Ever since she left for university in September (Northampton, History, for those wondering) she's been begging me to come up and see her.

    Last week she asked if I could "please come up and see [her] this weekend (2nd/3rd April)". I said yes, booked the tickets (~90 pounds), booked some time off work and went up to visit her on Saturday.

    On the Friday night before I left she texted me and asked if I could bring her some fairy liquid, as she had ran out. I was immediately offended, as you know, washing liquid is cheap as chips and I'm coming to see her as a guest, not as her Mum to bring her supplies. Nonetheless I packed some of the stuff and took it up with me. (Oh, and she didn't say thank you for it).

    I got on the train and went up to see her on Saturday, and was concerned about where to meet her once I got there. She originally told me to meet her in town, but as I had never been to Northampton in my life I asked her to meet me in the station off the train. She didn't, instead leaving me to flip my **** when I got out the place without finding her.

    She finally showed up and we got home, no problems there. We dumped our stuff, got ready to go out and hit the town. We went into this amazing club called Embargos with one of her friends, and we were having a good time. About halfway through the night, she sits down in a corner and refuses to get up and dance anymore, simply claiming that it "wasn't [her] scene". I felt awkward leaving her there so I sat down too. As she said she was skint, I bought her drinks all night too.

    Actually this is taking too long to go through everything so I'll bullet point.

    After that;

    - Refused to go for a walk or anything the next day, saying she was too tired.
    - Didn't have enough food in her flat for her, let alone both of us. Initially refused to take me to Asda because she was skint.
    - Seemingly expected me to sit in her flat doing nothing for hours on end.
    - Had no clean towels, no milk or bread, no hairdryer, basic things. I had to use a handtowel she had used about 4 or 5 times because she said she was too skint to do laundry... although she could afford to handwash a dress for going out on Monday night. Funny, that.
    - Had us sit in her flat for about 3 hours on Monday night waiting for her friends to come over, despite them just being a short walk over at the Student Union. I suggested we go meet them there, she said she couldn't be bothered to walk.
    - Left me alone at the club we went to on Monday with her bag and her shoes while she snogged a random boy outside.
    - Suggested that I cheat on my boyfriend with one of said boy's friends.
    - Told me to move my lilo when I wanted a short nap on Tuesday afternoon so she could use the computer.
    - Refused to let me **** off to a Travelodge.

    All in all I had a pretty ****ty time despite tolerating her and trying to be fun, and I'll never talk to her again.

    tl;dr: **** friend at a **** uni in a **** town. **** trip.

    :lol: ..i know d type...i am pretty sure when u try to talk your issues with her...she is going to say ....."oh that's what friends are for....friends can talk/behave rudely with each other and they don't have to be careful as to what they say/behave with each other"....doest not mean you have to be rude!!! :stomp:
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    (Original post by baffled_mathman)
    No, it's not just that, it's your general use of language. And the fairy liquid thing, and the way you describe Northampton as a "**** town" and describe it as a "**** Uni" etc etc etc...
    Well it is, and it is.
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    (Original post by ~Amy-Eliza~)
    You can be my friend, you sound like you would appreciate the effort I make
    Okay, you can come see me in Cornwall and I can come visit you.
 
 
 
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