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    My big brother says your 20's are the best years of your life so just get on with enjoying them.

    As some great author who I can't remember said "Look not mournfully into the past, it comes not back again".

    I know this doesn't technically apply but how good are your teen years going to be really ? I mean your 18 by the time you can really start doing fun things (legally).
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Best experiences of your life - no, that's your opinion, it won't be true for everyone
    May regret missing out on that - why would they? Because other people are saying that?
    ok then 'im so academic' what social experiences have you had? im guessing none.. otherwise you would understand that they can be the most amazing times of your life. i have traveled all over the world with my family, but none of those holidays could beat a night sitting by a campfire with my friends, then going home at around 8am, or skinny dipping in the lake on a really hot day, or even just getting wasted in a wood / park / field somewhere.

    and yes, obviously they would regret missing out, because other people have had those experiences with friends that will never be forgotten.

    sometimes making the most of the simple things in life can be the most rewarding.
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    (Original post by daisydaffodil)
    I've not done any of that either - and I'm twenty in three months! I've never had more than maybe a mouthful of alcohol with my friends; I've never been to any proper parties and I've never had a really good friend. I know people, talk to people and have a good laugh with people but I've never had a best friend. I've spent the vast majority of my teenage years with my mum and sister.. Never had a relationship/kiss or anything close to it either - the only time a boy touched me was when they sexually assualted me! So you aren't alone OP I reckon there's a lot of people who've had similar teenage years!
    This has made me feel a bit better, I thought i was the only one.:cool: Harsh that you were sexually assaulted though!
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Don't worry pal, you haven't missed out on anything till you've lived with chronic illness for a decade :rolleyes:
    Speaking from experience?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey,

    I'm 19 years old male, in my first year at uni and have found a girl who stuff is starting to happen with.
    But when I look back over my teenage years I feel like I've missed out on a lot... I've never been in a relationship or even kissed, never really went to parties / got drunk and didn't have a solid group of friends (more just good friends with individuals). Its not that I haven't enjoyed the past 5 or so years of my life - I really have - its just that I feel that I may have missed out on some stuff
    I don't really know what I'm hoping to get by posting on here, I just wanted to put it out there!
    Pretty much everyone will have this at some point in their life, whether it be in the teenage years or in mid-life. But hey no point looking back, might as well look forward and try not to miss out on anything else!
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    (Original post by MutantGecko)
    ok then 'im so academic' what social experiences have you had? im guessing none.. otherwise you would understand that they can be the most amazing times of your life. i have traveled all over the world with my family, but none of those holidays could beat a night sitting by a campfire with my friends, then going home at around 8am, or skinny dipping in the lake on a really hot day, or even just getting wasted in a wood / park / field somewhere.

    and yes, obviously they would regret missing out, because other people have had those experiences with friends that will never be forgotten.

    sometimes making the most of the simple things in life can be the most rewarding.
    For you they may be the most amazing experiences of your life - but that does not apply to everyone.

    Why can't you appreciate that people have a different way of living and that it's not all about the "friends"?

    Oh wow.
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    (Original post by Guy Secretan)
    Speaking from experience?
    Aye, makes me giggle the amount of self-centric wingetastic self-pitty that goes on up in here :rolleyes:

    "Life isn't like Hollywood said it would be, it's not fair "

    ..one moment while I fetch my violin
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    I dont understand why people are saying 'teenage life' is just **** churned out by the media. I thought skins was semi-acurate in season 1 and 2, the parties WERE realistic.

    Year 10 and 11 were awesome and I wish i could redo them again and again. House parties every weekend, weed coming out of my ears, lots of flirty girls and tons of chilling around town with mates. However, although I'm only just about to turn 18 I am most definately sick of 'teenage life'. It does get boring, it does get old and yes I think you have missed out.

    It was awesome when I'd go to a party on friday night, end up in the park at 5am waiting for buses and then run into mates, find out there is another party the next night, chill at mates house for dinner then go out again (I lived in the city next to the town where my school is so all my mates were in this town, so i rarely went home on the weekend).

    I feel more mature than a lot of people I know now at my current college and I feel the reason why is the experiences I had at 15/16. Been there done that. I couldnt care less about the parties at uni, I personally cant wait to get a degree and move to the states.

    tl:dr I believe you have missed out, the memories are incredible and I experienced so much. Its a shame you didnt
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    (Original post by im so academic)
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    Oh hey im so academic, if you hate socializing so bad, why do you spend your free time on forums talking to people?
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    (Original post by wactm)
    I dont understand why people are saying 'teenage life' is just **** churned out by the media. I thought skins was semi-acurate in season 1 and 2, the parties WERE realistic.

    Year 10 and 11 were awesome and I wish i could redo them again and again. House parties every weekend, weed coming out of my ears, lots of flirty girls and tons of chilling around town with mates. However, although I'm only just about to turn 18 I am most definately sick of 'teenage life'. It does get boring, it does get old and yes I think you have missed out.

    It was awesome when I'd go to a party on friday night, end up in the park at 5am waiting for buses and then run into mates, find out there is another party the next night, chill at mates house for dinner then go out again (I lived in the city next to the town where my school is so all my mates were in this town, so i rarely went home on the weekend).

    I feel more mature than a lot of people I know now at my current college and I feel the reason why is the experiences I had at 15/16. Been there done that. I couldnt care less about the parties at uni, I personally cant wait to get a degree and move to the states.

    tl:dr I believe you have missed out, the memories are incredible and I experienced so much. Its a shame you didnt
    Reading that, it seems the memories aren't worth it and the experiences are pathetic. So, for me, I haven't missed out on anything.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    For you they may be the most amazing experiences of your life - but that does not apply to everyone.

    Why can't you appreciate that people have a different way of living and that it's not all about the "friends"?

    Oh wow.
    dont knock it till you've tried it
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Reading that, it seems the memories aren't worth it and the experiences are pathetic. So, for me, I haven't missed out on anything.
    What you haven't missed out on is being condescending.
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    Those things aren't exclusively teenage activities, you have plenty of time - at the end of the day, it might of been nice to have done some of those things, but as long as you've enjoyed the last five years i wouldn't hold too much regret
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    For you they may be the most amazing experiences of your life - but that does not apply to everyone.

    Why can't you appreciate that people have a different way of living and that it's not all about the "friends"?

    Oh wow.
    Humans are inherently social beings, whether you like it or not social interaction is quite integral to personal development - yes you don't have to conform to conventional standards or means of socialisation, but it does make you a richer, more confident and understanding (of self and others) person. Usually.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Reading that, it seems the memories aren't worth it and the experiences are pathetic. So, for me, I haven't missed out on anything.
    The memories are awesome, keep in mind I hate people, as soon as I left secondary school I distanced myself from like all but 2 people and I still enjoyed it. I mean even now if I go to my schools town I get crazy nostalgia visiting the 'stoner stones' or 'boggly' or even 'the far bench'. **** even 'piss hill'.

    And when it comes to experiences, well I dont know how to answer. Maybe an example or something? I dunno, I just feel so much more mature than a lot of people. Less naive, more self-aware and most definately tons more confident. You cant possibly understand the hilarity of having to explain to your mum why you came home with a new puppy after a weekend at a camp-out. Have you ever been stuck in the middle of a large pond in a boat with everyone to stoned out of their minds to row the boat back to land? Or what about tricking people with 'the magic helmet'? We made tons of people cry and bug out like crazy. I have those stories to tell, what do you have apart from an obsession with Oxbridge.
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    Oh my god OP i feel for you, it must be really hard NOT living in a third world country, NOT being swept away by a tsunami or swallowing radioactive seawater...

    Jesus ****ing chist some people on here don't know how good they have it... I seriously wish I had your problems in life.
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    You are so annoying. You are young and you think you are a genius, so you go around confidently sounding off on ideas that people a few years older than you have already thought of and dismissed.


    Edit: Also you are SO bitter.
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    I think it's normal for heavily introverted people to think that they've "missed out" somehow on the typical teenage lifestyle - I do, at times. But ask yourselves this: were you even capable of living such a lifestyle? Is it what you desired at the time? If the answer is no, then you may be lusting after something you never really wanted to begin with (obviously this doesn't apply to those who were ill, bullied, or repressed). Back in my teens I simply preferred solitary activities. I didn't want to drink, take drugs, go to parties or have a girlfriend, and I didn't fit in with most people my age - I just wanted to stay home, read, watch TV, play games, and browse the Internet. Is that so bad? I enjoyed my teen years, and certainly didn't feel like I was missing out at the time, so why should I feel unfilled now that I'm in my early 20s? It makes no sense. I may not have any memories or stories to tell about parties/drinking/sex/etc., but what I do have is an extremely well developed sense of individuality. A lack of social interaction leaves plenty of time for introspection and personal development; I've never felt the need to follow any herd, and I'm pretty much immune to peer pressure. There's no shame in having forgone a decade of high-risk behaviours and shallow relationships. It just doesn't appeal to some people.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think it's normal for heavily introverted people to think that they've "missed out" somehow on the typical teenage lifestyle - I do, at times. But ask yourselves this: were you even capable of living such a lifestyle? Is it what you desired at the time? If the answer is no, then you may be lusting after something you never really wanted to begin with (obviously this doesn't apply to those who were ill, bullied, or repressed). Back in my teens I simply preferred solitary activities. I didn't want to drink, take drugs, go to parties or have a girlfriend, and I didn't fit in with most people my age - I just wanted to stay home, read, watch TV, play games, and browse the Internet. Is that so bad? I enjoyed my teen years, and certainly didn't feel like I was missing out at the time, so why should I feel unfilled now that I'm in my early 20s? It makes no sense. I may not have any memories or stories to tell about parties/drinking/sex/etc., but what I do have is an extremely well developed sense of individuality. A lack of social interaction leaves plenty of time for introspection and personal development; I've never felt the need to follow any herd, and I'm pretty much immune to peer pressure. There's no shame in having forgone a decade of high-risk behaviours and shallow relationships. It just doesn't appeal to some people.
    great post. shame you're anon i would like to know who wrote this
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    (Original post by Dr Pressure)

    but i have been bullied at almost every stage of my life and never been allowed to get accustomed to normal teenage life without being bullied. its only at university did i start to properly drink and party and even then i havent partied or gone clubbing very much. my past bullying haunts me and doesnt make me trust people.
    Same, I'm 19 in a few weeks and i still don't trust people. I have a best friend who's stuck by me through it all, and an amazing boyfriend, but to some extent i don't trust them either cuz of everything.

    Op, what do you considor a normal teenager?? I didn't lose my virginity til november last year, i never go clubbing even though i'm at uni cuz i don't trust strangers and i'm claustraphobic.

    Just do what feels right now, don't regret the past because at the time it felt right.
 
 
 
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