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    When im with my bf, he thinks im too silent when we are having sex/fiddling with each other...

    He says its important to him but it makes me feel embarrased for some reason... plus he has flat mates

    why is it so important that a girl moans... he knows i enjoy it

    He even gets angry sometimes... help plz
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    Tell him to remember how he's lucky to be getting it in the first place, and then give him the best sex of his life :P
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    Lol at 'fiddling' :P

    As long as you aren't holding back on your...moaning... then it shouldn't really be a problem, just be yourself and don't worry about the housemates, enjoy yourself! Not all girls like to scream the house down, but I can see why it would be a turn off if a girl was like a rag doll.
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    He says it messes his ego or something... but i do like it.

    I just think its embarrasing moaning alot..

    do guys really find it important??
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    Having a girl moan during sex is a sign that she believes you are a high class male.

    If she doesn't moan, that means she views you as a lower class male, and will probably be mating with other higher class males when she wants a baby.

    This has been shown by studies on some sort of primate. The higher the social class of their mating partner the louder they moaned.
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    Well he doesnt moan either


    why does it have to be the girl, i dont understand and i think he's a great bf and dont think of him being lower class male lol...
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    (Original post by Nepene)
    Having a girl moan during sex is a sign that she believes you are a high class male.

    If she doesn't moan, that means she views you as a lower class male, and will probably be mating with other higher class males when she wants a baby.

    This has been shown by studies on some sort of primate. The higher the social class of their mating partner the louder they moaned.
    My boyfriend must be a first rate chap :sexface:
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    (Original post by reisen)
    My boyfriend must be a first rate chap :sexface:
    Yes. He is a king to you, and he's probably pretty happy about it. He probably feels extremely manly.

    To anon.

    Men don't moan to indictate their girlfriend is of higher social status. Having a girlfriend of higher social status is generally quite intimidating to a man. Men like to be dominant, broadly. There are exceptions as of all things, but broadly this is true. Some men moan, some don't.

    You not moaning indicates to him that he's just a temporary boyfriend and you will get a relationship upgrade. I don't know what's in your mind, and I don't know if you actually would moan. It's possible that due to some genetic abnormality you don't moan ever, or that you suppressed your moan in the past during masturbation. Whatever reason, you now know how he's feeling and so you know how to make him feel better.

    You can't beat genetics.
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    I can see why you'd be annoyed that he expects you to moan but he doesn't do it himself. I think it's more about showing you're enjoying it and making it more exciting than anything to do with choosing a mate. There's nothing to be embarassed about, you should relax and make whatever noises you feel like - but he shouldn't expect you to make more noise than is natural for you, that'd just be fake. He needs to man up
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well he doesnt moan either


    why does it have to be the girl, i dont understand...
    Porn. /thread.
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    If you don't feel the need to moan, you shouldn't have to force it - that would just be pointless and make the situation awkward for you. That said, if you're not feeling the need to make noise, he's not doing his job properly imo. I mean, not all girls are super vocal but he doesn't want to feel like he's sexing up a corpse. Unless he's into necrophilia, and lets just not open that door.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    fiddling with each other...
    Very sexy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    When im with my bf, he thinks im too silent when we are having sex/fiddling with each other...

    He says its important to him but it makes me feel embarrased for some reason... plus he has flat mates

    why is it so important that a girl moans... he knows i enjoy it

    He even gets angry sometimes... help plz
    He wants his mates to think he's some kind of sex god and the only way they'll believe him is if he makes you scream his name in ecstasy.
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    I don't blame you if there's people in the house....could be embarrassing.

    But when you're totally alone it's better to have a bit of noise....guys like girls to enjoy it and noise is an obvious way to let them know.
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    Maybe it just helps him get turned on a bit more, not meant to be taken badly. Even if you were to just moan in his ear - nothing to loud, would probably do it for him.
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    I don't usually make noise either.

    If I do, it will be really quiet. Mainly because his sisters and mum are always around in the house.

    Maybe, make some noise anyway, very very quietly just so he can hear it.

    And say to him he is the best etc.



    (I can't believe what I am typing. )
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    We had sex wednesday and i moaned for him and it seemed to give him more energy cause he was thrusting harder and faster when i started...

    But i was soooo embarrased and nervous afterwards... I hope the room-mates didnt hear us
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    When im with my bf, he thinks im too silent when we are having sex/fiddling with each other...

    He says its important to him but it makes me feel embarrased for some reason... plus he has flat mates

    why is it so important that a girl moans... he knows i enjoy it

    He even gets angry sometimes... help plz
    Why is it embarressing to vocalise that you are enjoying it?

    I can relate to your boyfriend OP, men arent psychic so if your lying there still as a board we dont know if your enjoying it or figuring out how to pay your next credit card bill.

    And dont worry about the housemates, the fact that you are worried about the housemates shows your not into the experiance as much as you should be.

    Your really going to start making him feel bad if you dont make any noise (i still dont get why making noise is a problem if your enjoying it guess im just used to more liberated people) and keep saying what if your house mates think
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    You really don't need to "moan" just do some "heavy breathing" so he knows he's doing it right... But for the love of god don't start panting at him lol

    Also... He might just find it annoying that you not reacting makes him feel inferior because he can't please you enough to make you react... Your not one of them girls that just lies there are you? like a corpse? Cause that's pretty off putting...
    "Damn this is good and... Oh... Has she died...? Check her breath..."
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    This happened to me just the other night lol just tell him you're considering the people around you, and next time they're out suggest sex to him and let your hair down
 
 
 
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