Love shy guys :)

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When I was reading the "I'm too ugly" thread and OP mentioned BDD I was wondering if I had that since I have depression, anxiety and low self esteem when it comes to the way I look I hate looking at the mirror and taking pictures with friends because I always look like crap even though people say I'm pretty but I don't believe them since I've never had a boyfriend.
But the guy I like is painfully shy, I'm shy too but I do talk to him mainly about work but sometimes he looks pissed off so I don't talk to him then (so I wanted to know more about his behaviour)

Anyway I was searching about it and came across "Love shyness" because it's linked with anxiety and came across points that might be linked to it.

-mainly have female siblings (I thought it would be the opposite but maybe because they are likely to be more sensitive)
-more violent fantasies
-were very pessimistic and cynical about the world
-were much more likely to believe that nobody cared about them
-Some might stare compulsively at women with whom they were infatuated or even stalk them
-More likely to be friends with females
-frequent feelings of depression, loneliness and alienation
-addictions of various types
-School bullying
-Parental upbringing including verbal abuse, criticism, 'put-downs', negative comparisons
-love shy heterosexual males are assumed to be homosexual, so homosexual guys are likely to make advances on them but they get rejected.

The guy I like even though I don't know anything about his personal life but the things I do know is
- He stares all the time when I see him, where ever we are he's always staring, even though I assume I have something on my face (But I don't mind because I like him anyway )
-He is mainly friends with females even though he does have male friends but more female ones
-He always looks pissed off, and he normally is on his own which makes my eyes sad But he looks pissed off so I don't know if he wants me to go and talk to him even though I do if he's next to me.
-He smokes a lot but could just be the nicotine
-I did thought at first that he was gay but now I realised he's just painfully shy and his gay friend tried it on with him, but he rejected him and stopped talking to him

But I wanted to know if any other love shy guys especially from painfully shy guys are similar to the points above.

If you're a girl who knows a love shy guy or painfully shy guy your comments are welcome.

Please no trolls including comments like "Cool story Bruh" or "Pics or GTFO"

The guy I like even though I don't know anything about his personal life but the things I do know is
- He stares all the time when I see him, where ever we are he's always staring, even though I assume I have something on my face (But I don't mind because I like him anyway )
-He is mainly friends with females even though he does have male friends but more female ones
-He always looks pissed off, and he normally is on his own which makes my eyes sad But he looks pissed off so I don't know if he wants me to go and talk to him even though I do if he's next to me.
-He smokes a lot but could just be the nicotine
-I did thought at first that he was gay but now I realised he's just painfully shy and his gay friend tried it on with him, but he rejected him and stopped talking to him

Haha no you don't, thats understandable if you like him. I actually smiled reading that, who sounds like a loser now? Do you ever talk to him outside lessons? Some people become far more confident when they're outside the classroom.. another reason to get his number!

Nope, she went off to uni and we briefly tried an LDR which didn't really work out. As you'd expect we drifted apart but i'd say we're rather good friends again now. Was rather wierd at first but we've spent so much time together while she's been back home for easter... its been great having her around again.



Yeah i definitely agree with this as well.

Its nothing you've done. He might have had a bad experience previously, never had it myself but i know some girls can be very nasty when it comes to rejection. Or if he's rather self conscious about his appearance he'll struggle to understand why you, or indeed anyone, would be attracted to him.

Sounds like me..............WHO ARE YOU!!!

hey the interesting facts is that i too conyain all ur requires

but sometimes he looks pissed off so I don't talk to him then

-He always looks pissed off, and he normally is on his own which makes my eyes sad But he looks pissed off

ForeverGold

And those points are really common in the majority of male students are you sure you get mistaken for being gay?

Once someone tried to set me up with a dude and I met a gay friend when he tried to hit on me.....so yes quite sure.

i want tosay that i also got all the features of ur shy guy

hey can u help me gal?

lol have you got green eyes?

Maybe, I hate mean girls and guys (I just wanted a reason to use that face)

He really isn't ugly and I would be surprised if others thought so, maybe he has BDD I don't know.

Im really outgoing and have been chasing this really shy guy for years, eventually he realized that he didnt have to be shy around me because i made him feel good and we ended up together at the weekend and since then he has turned out to be a real dark horse