virgin

sounds like you're just being really picky or judging people far to harshly!

from experience the relationships where, at the beginning i thought i'd found the perfect person are no better than the ones which seem to happen out of the blue with random people

if you are attracted to somebody and enjoy being around them, just go for it and see what happens. stop trying to find the perfect guy.

I'm sick of some girls mentality towards guys these days.

If there not an "Edward Cullen," there not good enough.

No-one is perfect. Girls, get that into your head.

A relationship is never perfect. If it was, it would not be natural. A relationship revolves around not just your compatibilities, but also reconciling your differences with each other.

To the OP; Your standards are too high. Read my above post and realise that next time a good guy asks you out.

Disclaimer: No, I'm not telling you to become a slut.

Lots of people are in your postition, myself included (but aged 21, not 22). Its so much more common than you think.

I've never had a boyfriend, been on a single date, been asked out. Literally nothing. My first kiss only happened a few months ago when a friend drunkenly snogged me. It doesn't bother me and it never has done. If I wanted just plain sex, I could get it from any number of horny boys in my union/ club, but thats not what I want. So I'll wait however long it takes for someone I love to come along. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen; but I'm fairly sure it will. I mean I'm in love with a guy from uni at the moment, but would never ever tell him.

You say you are surprised that you are still a virgin. Maybe you are being a bit too picky. Its not necessarily a bad thing, but the lack of a bf if obviosuly getting to you a bit, so maybe try to let your guard down a bit.

Lol blunt but good advice i guess haha.
p.s. liking the disclaimer though thank you lol

hi everyone, I'm a 22 year old girl at uni, i'm a virgin and starting to worry about it !

i've never had a boyfriend but have been asked out by various guys in uni and sixth form etc, kissed lots of boys, get attention from guys on nights out, get asked for my number etc etc. all the boys that have asked me out are just not right for me...i know that sounds fussy but they genuinely are not the guys that i would want to be the girlfriend of.

when i came to uni i never thought i would be leaving as a virgin and i'm pretty shocked at myself for staying one and now that my 3 years are over...i'm scared that i'm just a frigid boring girl ! i never have guys stay round at my house, never go back to anyone elses, at the most i will flirt and maybe kiss on a night out or get someone's number and text them a few times but never really have the intention of eventually going out with them and becoming their girlfriend etc.....i'm worried that there's something wrong with me !

almost everybody i know has been out with someone and i'm shocked at myself that i literally have no ex's because i've never been out with anyone without sounding arrogant, i'm not disadvantaged in the looks department or anything, i get lots of attention off guys anyway but i'm just scared that i'm never going to lose my virginity ! am i doing something wrong?
any help/advice would be appreciated please! XXX

Titles are too long!

first fat, then virgin, next... ugly?

that's good advice ! yeah i do think i am pretty picky but i only plan to lose it with someone that i'm going out with...but if i can't find someone to go out with then that's probably my problem?!

Lol blunt but good advice i guess haha.
p.s. liking the disclaimer though thank you lol

I think 17th century satirist and poet, Alexander Pope, can help us with this: 'But since, alas! frail Beauty must decay, / Curl'd or uncurl'd, since Locks will turn to grey; / Since painted, or not painted, all shall fade, / And she who scorns a Man, must die a Maid'.

She's 22...not 72...

I don't agree with him at all. I think many girls are like that because they aren't ready yet; perhaps it's easier to lust after a figure you know you'll never be with because it's safe and distant. If you were desperate for the closeness and sexual intimacy of a relationship I'm pretty sure you would have tried to actively seek one out by now.

Do you want to have sex at all? Perhaps you are asexual; many people go through the whole of their life without any desire...there is more to life than sex and relationships. Of course you could just not be ready, which is completely fine too. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

My girlfriend didn't lose her virginity until she was 22, and I lost mine a LOT earlier than that. Either way we're both (relatively) normal people (apart from the fact we're in a lesbian relationship ) in a happy relationship and it doesn't seem to have massively shaped our lives. I really respect you for not feeling you have to throw yourself at men for attention or to feel pretty or normal like many girls our age (and some of my female friends) do!!

just don't be so picky with who you go out with. i reckon you could pair me up with maybe a quarter of the girls in my uni and i'd be able to have a pretty decent relationship for a few months before it started to break down.

obviously don't just go out with whichever guy you seem first, but i don't think you can write somebody off so quickly without properly getting to know them. personally i do most of that in a relationship as i think its a bit weird becoming friends and then going out.

also you have to come to terms with the fact that the majority of your relationships will fail. only 1 will ever succeed. you cant go into a relationship looking for your husband as i guarentee you'll never find him that way. just go into a relationship because you enjoy spending time with someone