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    (Original post by TheSownRose)
    I think it's her kid and there is obviously a reason she is doing it; if she believes she's acting in the kid's best interest then yes, it is the right thing.
    Finally...

    Despite the risks? The act of doing so is being debated but the risks associated with doing it? Do you still hold your stance?

    Final question.
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    (Original post by Milky Milk)
    I think it's disgusting.

    I can understand why black women do it, especially in America which is still highly racist and opressive, but I don't agree with it whatsoever.
    They believe that they will be more socially accepted because they are lighter? In reflection, it probably is true, but no matter how much they bleach they will still be black and that won't change peoples opinions. To try and squander the thought of lighter is beautiful and to try and oppose racism, these women shouldn't be bleaching.. It's admitting defeat in the eyes of racism. It's completely horrendous. Black people should be strong and proud of who they are. It's definately harder to be black than white in the USA, no doubt about it, but I don't think this should be the way of trying to rise up.

    Not to get too black panther up in here



    Firstly, Can you really prove that black men in London neglect their darker children over their lighter children? How do you even know that they have both?
    And besides, the main reason why there are a lot of mixed race kids with white mums and white dads is to put it plainly - black men see white women as very easy and don't hassle them as much as black women. Especially in this country, you can just look at working class areas and the type of white women who seethe from it tend to be those who seek after black men for mixed raced babies. This is NOT always the case whatsoever, this is just a generalisation of a small group of inter-racial couples. I don't know this for a fact but this is very apparent.

    Tyra probably does shows primarily on black women, because she is black herself and has a high black fanbase. She's not Oprah who is clearly just a white woman in black skin. There is nothing wrong with focusing on cases just for black people either, if you don't like how she generalises to that race then go and watch the jeremy kyle show and lap up all the white skin.
    Why is Oprah a white woman with black skin??

    Its obvious that society prizes lighter women, just look at the most famous black women around: beyonce, halle berry and rihanna who all have white heritage-beyonce even has blonde hair! Rihanna has blue eyes but obvs thats natural. It is quite annoying that its only these women who are recognised and deemed beautiful but at least it shows societys come a long way and the fact that some black women are viewed as beautiful.
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    (Original post by VansHalfCabs)
    Finally...

    Despite the risks? The act of doing so is being debated but the risks associated with doing it? Do you still hold your stance?

    Final question.
    If she's doing it in good conscience, then yes - I still hold my stance.
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    (Original post by loquita)
    Its the same thing. If there is nothing wrong with tanning then there is nothing wrong with bleaching both biological involve changing your skin
    yeah but tanning is natural-it happens when people are out during the warmer seasons. Bleaching on the other hand is unnatural.
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    (Original post by Naomiimoan)
    I +vely repped you by accident.
    'primitive'? You're disgusting.
    It's ok to have your preferences but the last part of your comment is plain racism.
    Are Kenya moore, Genevieve Nnaji and Gabrielle Union primitive looking? No.
    Get a life..all races/skin tones have different features.
    Exactly!

    Gabrielle Union as absolutely stunning
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    Taking pride in your skin colour is retarded. Going completely out of your way (i.e. tanning beds, bleaching, to an extent I'd say sunbathing too but I suppose people enjoy this and it's not quite on the same level) to alter it is retarded.
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    Watching this actually made me cry. I know how they feel like, I'm a black dark-skinned teenager, and although most people say I'm pretty and should model etc., I never believe them. The society we live in has made me feel so insecure about myself. When I was young I never used to be insecure, I didn't know about racism. Then I joined high school and discovered the malicious truth: many boys called me 'ape', 'man', I was even considering suicidal thoughts.

    Every time I saw a blonde girl I felt jealous of her. I would think 'Why can't I look like her? Why did I have to be born dark-skinned?', I even started having little resent for my parents as much as I love them, thinking 'I wish I was born to White parents.' Letting this all out now (this is the first time I'm speaking out on my insecurities of my race) makes me feel so ashamed of myself.

    And one time I was complimented by a popular white guy in my year, but it was an offensive compliment. He said I was 'Pretty for a dark skin girl'. Immediately I felt quite happy, but then later I realised it was almost an insult, and in turn it made me feel worse about my skin colour.

    Watching this video has made me learn to accept myself for who I am. I mean look at all the gorgeous dark-skinned celebrities like Gabrielle Union, Jessica White and Naomi Campbell. I mean I still feel a little insecure, but I feel with some gradual confidence build-up I may really accept my skin colour, and try and learn to listen to compliments too instead of listening to criticism.

    Sorry this was probably unnecessary, I just thought I'd share my experience and get it off my chest. OP thank you for making this thread and making me realise how stupid I have been. Take care.
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    (Original post by FutureMedicalDoctor)
    ...Take care.
    Maybe you should talk to someone about this. It is not normal to hate feel like that. Do you read a lot of magazines? If so maybe you should try not to read them as much. If there is anyone that you trust you shoukd talk to them.
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    (Original post by FutureMedicalDoctor)
    Watching this actually made me cry. I know how they feel like, I'm a black dark-skinned teenager, and although most people say I'm pretty and should model etc., I never believe them. The society we live in has made me feel so insecure about myself. When I was young I never used to be insecure, I didn't know about racism. Then I joined high school and discovered the malicious truth: many boys called me 'ape', 'man', I was even considering suicidal thoughts.

    Every time I saw a blonde girl I felt jealous of her. I would think 'Why can't I look like her? Why did I have to be born dark-skinned?', I even started having little resent for my parents as much as I love them, thinking 'I wish I was born to White parents.' Letting this all out now (this is the first time I'm speaking out on my insecurities of my race) makes me feel so ashamed of myself.

    And one time I was complimented by a popular white guy in my year, but it was an offensive compliment. He said I was 'Pretty for a dark skin girl'. Immediately I felt quite happy, but then later I realised it was almost an insult, and in turn it made me feel worse about my skin colour.

    Watching this video has made me learn to accept myself for who I am. I mean look at all the gorgeous dark-skinned celebrities like Gabrielle Union, Jessica White and Naomi Campbell. I mean I still feel a little insecure, but I feel with some gradual confidence build-up I may really accept my skin colour, and try and learn to listen to compliments too instead of listening to criticism.

    Sorry this was probably unnecessary, I just thought I'd share my experience and get it off my chest. OP thank you for making this thread and making me realise how stupid I have been. Take care.
    I hate to say this but you're actually right. They always say that you're pretty for a black girl. One had the cheek to say I just looked like a white girl painted black :mad: :mad2: I think that's the most offensive thing someone's ever said to me Racism among blacks is even worse imo.
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    (Original post by QStah)
    Ahh that songs well nice .. & Kartel looks horribly pasty there lol
    What is still baffling me is how can a piece of soap make you're skin lighter is it some sort of magic soap :confused::confused::confused:
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    (Original post by aprilterri)
    Maybe you should talk to someone about this. It is not normal to hate feel like that. Do you read a lot of magazines? If so maybe you should try not to read them as much. If there is anyone that you trust you shoukd talk to them.
    My low self-esteem is mainly stemmed from boys at my school really. They don't believe dark-skinned girls are pretty and it really gets me down.
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    (Original post by FutureMedicalDoctor)
    My low self-esteem is mainly stemmed from boys at my school really. They don't believe dark-skinned girls are pretty and it really gets me down.
    :ditto:
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    (Original post by FutureMedicalDoctor)
    My low self-esteem is mainly stemmed from boys at my school really. They don't believe dark-skinned girls are pretty and it really gets me down.
    I see. You have to remember that at school age boys (and girls) can be really superficial. They haven't yet fully developed their individualism and so are more likely to conform to what the media tells them is beautiful. (Another example is boys expecting a girl to look a certain way a their only view of a naked female comes from porn) In my school the most popular girls and prettiest girls were dark skinned. I am not just saying this to make you feel good its true. I hear so many people say oh light skinned girls are prettier or dark skinned girls are better but instead of saying 'what about us inbetweenies' and getting a complex from this. I learn that everyone has different tastes. A lot of people say this but confidence is attractive. Learn to find the things that are good about the way that you look. For example if you like your nose, figure or your eyes. Enhance your good features and try and put what you don't like out of your mind. If you have confidence and a great personality the only guy who will turn you away because of your shade is not worth your time.
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    How else are they going to blame someone else when they realize that it's their own damn fault for not succeeding in life? Now of course I can argue that skin color does play a part African American lives, although this varies. Greatly.

    For one, education wise, it doesn't matter what race, color, ethnicity, etc. you are; your admission to most colleges and universities isn't done based on your physical features, only by your previous grades (and maybe other things depending on what school you're attending).

    When you're out in the work force trying to get a job, yes I think skin color might matter, although physical features matter in general, no matter what race you are.

    To solely blame it on skin color is.. well ignorant, and I don't agree with it, however that's just the way people are in this world.
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    (Original post by FutureMedicalDoctor)
    Watching this actually made me cry. I know how they feel like, I'm a black dark-skinned teenager, and although most people say I'm pretty and should model etc., I never believe them. The society we live in has made me feel so insecure about myself. When I was young I never used to be insecure, I didn't know about racism. Then I joined high school and discovered the malicious truth: many boys called me 'ape', 'man', I was even considering suicidal thoughts.

    Every time I saw a blonde girl I felt jealous of her. I would think 'Why can't I look like her? Why did I have to be born dark-skinned?', I even started having little resent for my parents as much as I love them, thinking 'I wish I was born to White parents.' Letting this all out now (this is the first time I'm speaking out on my insecurities of my race) makes me feel so ashamed of myself.

    And one time I was complimented by a popular white guy in my year, but it was an offensive compliment. He said I was 'Pretty for a dark skin girl'. Immediately I felt quite happy, but then later I realised it was almost an insult, and in turn it made me feel worse about my skin colour.

    Watching this video has made me learn to accept myself for who I am. I mean look at all the gorgeous dark-skinned celebrities like Gabrielle Union, Jessica White and Naomi Campbell. I mean I still feel a little insecure, but I feel with some gradual confidence build-up I may really accept my skin colour, and try and learn to listen to compliments too instead of listening to criticism.

    Sorry this was probably unnecessary, I just thought I'd share my experience and get it off my chest. OP thank you for making this thread and making me realise how stupid I have been. Take care.
    Why choose to live in a white country then ? :confused:
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    (Original post by Scottish)
    Why choose to live in a white country then ? :confused:
    WTF? How is it my fault that I live in a country made up dominantly of a White population? I'm only a teenager, it wasn't MY choice to live here. My family moved from Jamaica to UK when I was a baby. My dad had got a new job here as a surgeon, he admired UK at the time. My parents were brought up in a black-dominated Caribbean island so they wouldn't have experienced what I went through in school years, but don't freaking blame me for living in a white country.
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    (Original post by Jim Pansen)
    The names couldn't be blacker.
    what names?:confused:
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    (Original post by FutureMedicalDoctor)
    WTF? How is it my fault that I live in a country made up dominantly of a White population? I'm only a teenager, it wasn't MY choice to live here. My family moved from Jamaica to UK when I was a baby. My dad had got a new job here as a surgeon, he admired UK at the time. My parents were brought up in a black-dominated Caribbean island so they wouldn't have experienced what I went through in school years, but don't freaking blame me for living in a white country.
    I am not blaming or criticising. I just don't understand why people want to stay in a country where they clearly feel out of place. Personally if I was born and grew up in Kenya, I would do anything to live in Europe. I would go back to Europe where I am with my own people.

    And don't misinterpret me, I am not saying you should leave the UK. I was just asking an honest question.
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    (Original post by Scottish)
    I am not blaming or criticising. I just don't understand why people want to stay in a country where they clearly feel out of place. Personally if I was born and grew up in Kenya, I would do anything to live in Europe. I would go back to Europe where I am with my own people.

    And don't misinterpret me, I am not saying you should leave the UK. I was just asking an honest question.
    Initally my dad wasn't really aware of racism in the UK much since he was brought up in a country full of blacks, and I guess once he realised that we were 'out of place' here it was too late. Moving back to a previous country really isn't all that easy. If we were to move back to Jamaica now, he would have to start from the bottom as he would have lost all his contacts, so it would take a very long time to get back up to the top where he previously was, which isn't ideal when you're fathering three kids who are at an age where they need a lot of financial support. If it were that easy, we would have left ages ago.

    Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying all white people are racist, probably just a minority in the area we lived in. I've met many amazing and kind white people, I've only encountered racism a few times in my life, and everyone at school is fine with me, it's just that my case was that the boys at school didn't find dark skin attractive, but they weren't racist.
 
 
 
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