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    So, to get straight to the point, I was talking to my ex and it got onto the subject of sex. I told her Id had sex with a girl a few months ago. It was more like a year ago, before me and my ex were dating, but I decided to see her reaction if she thought it was when we were together. She seems genuinely hurt, but I don't get it. She's moved on, said she hasn't loved me for about 2 months and has no feelings for me other than friendship. Also, she has a new boyfriend.

    So, TSR, I need opinions. Does she still love me, have feelings for me, or just hurt at the thought Id cheat on her? Discuss. As the title says, probably a dumb question, but humour me anyway?
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    What she says to you in words isn't necessarily what she feels in her heart. It would be normal for her to still care about you.
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    If you broke up with this girl, then its clear why she's upset. Not only did you break up with her, you thought you'd lie and tell her you cheated on her. Well of course she's going to feel ****!

    If she broke up with you, and it wasn't a bad breakup, its only natural that she may still retain some feelings for you.

    Either way, you're a fool for saying such a stupid thing. :facepalm: If it was the former situation, I hope you do feel bad.
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    I'll be honest, I don't feel bad. Mostly because while I'm only creating the illusion I cheated on her, she actually did cheat on me. And then she broke up with me. The thought of my cheating for an hour or so doesn't compare to the thought and knowledge and pain of it defintiely happening for 3 months.
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    (Original post by TheApex)
    I'll be honest, I don't feel bad. Mostly because while I'm only creating the illusion I cheated on her, she actually did cheat on me. And then she broke up with me. The thought of my cheating for an hour or so doesn't compare to the thought and knowledge and pain of it defintiely happening for 3 months.
    Ahh, that kind of balances it out then.

    So, she cheated on you, and then dumped you, and you pretended you slept with someone when you two were together?

    Well, gonna be a MASSIVE change of tone here, but then she's not only a hypocrite, but a ***** too.

    My bad for insinuating you were in the wrong then.

    But then you said it and she was upset? This is far too complex for me...
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    No one like to be told that they aren't/weren't enough. Which is essentially what cheating is a result of; wanting something more. Whether she has feelings for you or not, it's still going to knock her down a peg.
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    I think you just dented her pride. It sounds like she's moved on, and as hard as it may be, it sounds like you should stop trying to wind her up/win her back and do the same.
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    I think it just wounded her pride, but given the things she did to you I can only say you gave her what she deserved!
 
 
 
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