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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ohhh I forgot to update!

    After 8 months of horrendous hyperemesis I had an extremely quick labour (2.5 hrs) and am now mummy to a beautiful baby boy who is one month old today. I'm loving being at home with him and after a few issues with feeding we're starting to get into our stride.
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    (Original post by Helenia)
    Mine has been big right from the start (he was 12lb three weeks ago, at 7w3d!) so it's not his overall size that I'm worried about, but the rate of gain - there's always something, isn't there?! I think I'll get him weighed at the local baby clinic on Weds to see how we're getting on. He definitely has good and bad feeding days, and on the bad ones I get worried...
    Aria still has good feeding and bad feeding days, even now and she's 6 months! On the bad days I'm always there wanting to pack it in, but I read something that stuck with me - "Never give up on a bad day". Also, don't get him weighed too often, it'll just worry you. As long as there's plenty of wet and dirty nappies then he's getting enough And don't forget that as they get older they get better at boobing! Aria can drain a boob in 5-10 minutes now (makes slobbing on the sofa feeding that much harder xD)
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    if it helps even at 2 we have good and bad eating days. some days we find she demolishes everything going and others she barely touches a thing. think it's somewhat normal.

    max is drifting around the 25th cantilever line, bit of a shock compared to 2 year old one sorted off on 9th and by this point was 98th!
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    Hi all, just checking in. How's life?

    My three year old has eaten everyone's advent calendars, pulled down the Christmas trimmings, smashed up the Christmas dessert for Christmas day, and half broken the star from our new Christmas ornament.

    My seven year old won't stop moaning.

    My nine year old I never see as he's outside constantly but when he's in all he does is back-chat and refuse to help with anything.

    My eleven year old hates the entire family.

    Let's top that off with a marriage that is failing, a dog that keeps peeing on the floor because she refuses to go out in the cold, and just to put the icing on the cake my best friend in the entire world fell out with me over a week ago and refuses to speak to me and without him I'm ****ing lost.

    Merry bloody Christmas.
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    Hi PMP

    I'm really sorry that things have been so rough. That is a huge amount for anyone to deal with. How are you holding up now?

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    Hi all, just checking in. How's life?

    My three year old has eaten everyone's advent calendars, pulled down the Christmas trimmings, smashed up the Christmas dessert for Christmas day, and half broken the star from our new Christmas ornament.

    My seven year old won't stop moaning.

    My nine year old I never see as he's outside constantly but when he's in all he does is back-chat and refuse to help with anything.

    My eleven year old hates the entire family.

    Let's top that off with a marriage that is failing, a dog that keeps peeing on the floor because she refuses to go out in the cold, and just to put the icing on the cake my best friend in the entire world fell out with me over a week ago and refuses to speak to me and without him I'm ****ing lost.

    Merry bloody Christmas.
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    (Original post by randdom)
    Hi PMP

    I'm really sorry that things have been so rough. That is a huge amount for anyone to deal with. How are you holding up now?
    Honestly I feel like dying. If I wasn't so scared of death, and the fact that there's no way I could bring myself to do that because my family would just see me as a selfish cow and that's a *****y way to be remembered, I'd see sod all reason for me to still be on this earth.

    I'm a terrible wife.
    I'm clearly not somebody worth being friends with.
    I'm a useless mother.
    I'm a *****y author.
    I'm a dire convention organiser.
    I'm a disappointment of a daughter.
    I'm fat and out of shape with a nose the size of a beak.
    I'm a dreadful housekeeper.
    I'm a crap piano player.

    What actual use am I to anybody?

    I'm crying again now. I can't even take it on the chin and be ****ing brave about it. Nobody would give a toss if I jumped under a bus to be honest. (No don't worry I have no intention of doing it. I'm thanatophobic which is ****ing hilarious given the circumstances.)

    I've never in my life suffered from clinical depression but I feel like something inside me is broken right now.
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    (Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
    Honestly I feel like dying. If I wasn't so scared of death, and the fact that there's no way I could bring myself to do that because my family would just see me as a selfish cow and that's a *****y way to be remembered, I'd see sod all reason for me to still be on this earth.

    I'm a terrible wife.
    I'm clearly not somebody worth being friends with.
    I'm a useless mother.
    I'm a *****y author.
    I'm a dire convention organiser.
    I'm a disappointment of a daughter.
    I'm fat and out of shape with a nose the size of a beak.
    I'm a dreadful housekeeper.
    I'm a crap piano player.

    What actual use am I to anybody?

    I'm crying again now. I can't even take it on the chin and be ****ing brave about it. Nobody would give a toss if I jumped under a bus to be honest. (No don't worry I have no intention of doing it. I'm thanatophobic which is ****ing hilarious given the circumstances.)

    I've never in my life suffered from clinical depression but I feel like something inside me is broken right now.
    There are people on this thread who care PMP.

    Perhaps you could phone a helpline to talk things through or make an appointment to see your GP & show them your posts here as a starting point..? Or keep posting here with us?

    Christmas can be such a rough time of year with pressure we put on ourselves!

    Our children test our boundaries because they feel secure with us.
    My husband's grandmother committed suicide when her youngest was about 5 - it still has a massive impact on all of her children - even the ones who now have children & grandchildren of their own. My uncle also committed suicide while I was at University. It is so horrible to know someone was in such pain & also for the people left behind dealing with the aftermath.
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    (Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
    Honestly I feel like dying. If I wasn't so scared of death, and the fact that there's no way I could bring myself to do that because my family would just see me as a selfish cow and that's a *****y way to be remembered, I'd see sod all reason for me to still be on this earth.

    I'm a terrible wife.
    I'm clearly not somebody worth being friends with.
    I'm a useless mother.
    I'm a *****y author.
    I'm a dire convention organiser.
    I'm a disappointment of a daughter.
    I'm fat and out of shape with a nose the size of a beak.
    I'm a dreadful housekeeper.
    I'm a crap piano player.

    What actual use am I to anybody?

    I'm crying again now. I can't even take it on the chin and be ****ing brave about it. Nobody would give a toss if I jumped under a bus to be honest. (No don't worry I have no intention of doing it. I'm thanatophobic which is ****ing hilarious given the circumstances.)

    I've never in my life suffered from clinical depression but I feel like something inside me is broken right now.
    Another one here to say that there are people here who care, and in real life too. You sound like you're under a lot of pressure from many different directions, and it's overwhelming you - which is completely understandable! Your kids do love you, they're testing you because they can and because they feel safe. I can't answer for your friend or your husband but I hope you can sort things out one way or another with them. Don't ever feel like you can't talk about it, either on here or to your GP or a helpline like the Samaritans.

    We're getting on ok, Sam didn't really know what was going on with Christmas but got fawned over by all the relatives. Unfortunately I fell coming down the stairs on Christmas Eve and have badly sprained my foot, so am on crutches and can't carry him, making me dependent on Mr Helenia for lots of stuff. Fingers crossed it gets better before he goes back to work!
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    Hi, can I join in the soc? I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my first baby. It's terrifying but really exciting!
    I've had a pretty smooth ride so far, no morning sickness (just constant nausea for the first couple of months, but that's worn off now). I fainted at work yesterday though (I'm a trainee anaesthetist), luckily the patient was already asleep and there was another trainee and consultant available. I've felt a bit fainty on & off for the last few weeks but this is the first time I've actually lost consciousness..... it was pretty embarrassing to wake up sprawled out on the floor with my consultant holding my head, and soooo many people in the room! Oh well, extra long weekend for me.
    Also, I felt a little kick for the first time over the weekend..... it was like something knocking from inside. It was awesome!
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    (Original post by dances_with_lamposts)
    Hi, can I join in the soc? I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my first baby. It's terrifying but really exciting!
    I've had a pretty smooth ride so far, no morning sickness (just constant nausea for the first couple of months, but that's worn off now). I fainted at work yesterday though (I'm a trainee anaesthetist), luckily the patient was already asleep and there was another trainee and consultant available. I've felt a bit fainty on & off for the last few weeks but this is the first time I've actually lost consciousness..... it was pretty embarrassing to wake up sprawled out on the floor with my consultant holding my head, and soooo many people in the room! Oh well, extra long weekend for me.
    Also, I felt a little kick for the first time over the weekend..... it was like something knocking from inside. It was awesome!
    18 weeks already? Wow! Sorry you fainted - did you get someone to check you over? Don't be afraid to ask for help/breaks etc if you need it, nobody will thank you for making yourself ill.

    S is 4 months old now, have hit a few bumps with colds/sleep regression but overall things are pretty good. I'm staying at my parents this week while my husband is away skiing, so lots of free babysitting, though he's getting more unhappy about being held by anyone but me :s:
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    (Original post by Helenia)
    18 weeks already? Wow! Sorry you fainted - did you get someone to check you over? Don't be afraid to ask for help/breaks etc if you need it, nobody will thank you for making yourself ill.

    S is 4 months old now, have hit a few bumps with colds/sleep regression but overall things are pretty good. I'm staying at my parents this week while my husband is away skiing, so lots of free babysitting, though he's getting more unhappy about being held by anyone but me :s:
    Yeah, time has flown by, 19 weeks on Monday.
    No, I wasn't hurt so I just got my fiancé to come and take me home. I won't make myself ill, it was only 9.30 in the morning, we'd just got the first patient on the table and I was drawing up drugs for the next when I felt lightheaded so I sat down (on the bin) and asked the trainee OPD to check my bp....... that's the last thing I remember. My bp was fine afterwards, I'd had a good breakfast so I don't think it was my bm, but I didn't check. I'm really lucky in my department in that everyone is pretty supportive, I've never felt pushed beyond my competence or felt like I can't ask for help when I need it.

    I'm glad things are pretty good with you, did the house move go smoothly in the end?
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    (Original post by dances_with_lamposts)
    Yeah, time has flown by, 19 weeks on Monday.
    No, I wasn't hurt so I just got my fiancé to come and take me home. I won't make myself ill, it was only 9.30 in the morning, we'd just got the first patient on the table and I was drawing up drugs for the next when I felt lightheaded so I sat down (on the bin) and asked the trainee OPD to check my bp....... that's the last thing I remember. My bp was fine afterwards, I'd had a good breakfast so I don't think it was my bm, but I didn't check. I'm really lucky in my department in that everyone is pretty supportive, I've never felt pushed beyond my competence or felt like I can't ask for help when I need it.

    I'm glad things are pretty good with you, did the house move go smoothly in the end?
    As smoothly as these things can go with a tiny baby! We're pretty settled in now, there are a few remaining bits of unpacking/sorting out, but the important bits are done. Just had a week at my parents while my husband was away skiing, so had lots more help than I normally would!
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    Baby says hello! 20 week scan all done, everything looks good. Gave the radiographer a hard time - wouldn't stay still.
    We didn't find out the gender, I'm thinking girl, my OH is thinking boy. Any ideas? It'll be awesome to find out when the baby is born, but it's so hard not knowing. (A boy would be easier though..... we have a boys name sorted, but we're struggling for a girls name that we both like).
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    (Original post by dances_with_lamposts)
    Baby says hello! 20 week scan all done, everything looks good. Gave the radiographer a hard time - wouldn't stay still.
    We didn't find out the gender, I'm thinking girl, my OH is thinking boy. Any ideas? It'll be awesome to find out when the baby is born, but it's so hard not knowing. (A boy would be easier though..... we have a boys name sorted, but we're struggling for a girls name that we both like).
    Glad the scan went well! I'm not making any gender guesses, but if you stick it on Mumsnet there's a bunch of nutters will talk about "skull theory" or "nub theory" and tell you. But I expect you also have access to ultrasound at work and might be able to sneak another peek at some point... Not that I ever did that...

    We had a girl name picked out all along, found out it was a boy at the 20 week scan and STILL didn't come up with a name until he was about 8 days old!
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    (Original post by Helenia)
    Glad the scan went well! I'm not making any gender guesses, but if you stick it on Mumsnet there's a bunch of nutters will talk about "skull theory" or "nub theory" and tell you. But I expect you also have access to ultrasound at work and might be able to sneak another peek at some point... Not that I ever did that...

    We had a girl name picked out all along, found out it was a boy at the 20 week scan and STILL didn't come up with a name until he was about 8 days old!
    Haha, yeah I've seen some of those skull theory posts, I don't get it. I can't tell the difference.
    I've definitely never had a sneaky look with the ultrasound while I'm having a quiet moment on call! I may just had see to have another peek sometime. :blush:

    I've emailed my Deanery about being pregnant, I'll have to miss my ARCP as it's supposed to be 5 days before I'm due, and it's in Cardiff. So they said they'll do it without me if I send my portfolio down with a colleague. Oh what a shame! I was looking forward to the 4 hour trip to Cardiff for a 5 minute meeting!
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    Is it possible to get PND second time round if you didnt first time round?

    Bare in mind max spent 8 weeks in and out of hospital plus my life has gone to hell so it may just be that.

    Feel completely awful and have anxiety that is borderline out of control
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    Is it possible to get PND second time round if you didnt first time round?

    Bare in mind max spent 8 weeks in and out of hospital plus my life has gone to hell so it may just be that.

    Feel completely awful and have anxiety that is borderline out of control
    I had it after my second baby, but not with any of my others.
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    (Original post by letsdothetimewarpagain)
    Is it possible to get PND second time round if you didnt first time round?

    Bare in mind max spent 8 weeks in and out of hospital plus my life has gone to hell so it may just be that.

    Feel completely awful and have anxiety that is borderline out of control
    Absolutely possible. So sorry you've been having such a rough time - what's been happening with Max? Definitely talk to your HV/GP about what support you might be able to get.
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    (Original post by letsdothetimewarpagain)
    Is it possible to get PND second time round if you didnt first time round?

    Bare in mind max spent 8 weeks in and out of hospital plus my life has gone to hell so it may just be that.

    Feel completely awful and have anxiety that is borderline out of control
    Definitely possible. If you are struggling then speaking to both your health visitor and GP would be sensible. Between them they will have access to a good range of options to support you.
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    Definitely possible. If you are struggling then speaking to both your health visitor and GP would be sensible. Between them they will have access to a good range of options to support you.
    To be honest between everything else going on i have about as much support as i can get..i have outreach workers, IDVAs, the lot and im still failing miserably. Things are pretty rock bottom right now so the HV is coming in the morning but my anxiety is so out of control i dont think i can admit anything to her
 
 
 
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