Pregnancy and Parenting Society Mark II

Your situation sounds very complicated - sorry to read what you have been going through. I hope you're getting lots of support IRL - were you honest with the GP and midwife about the circumstances of conception..? They should be able to offer you additional support regarding this and also being a younger and solo mother etc. Usually the psychology services have special targets to see women who are pregnant ASAP.

But just wanted to mention - abortion is not the only option - adoption could be an option too if you don't feel ready/able to cope with this baby but would not want an abortion? My perspectives on abortion and adoption have changed significant since having my own children - and meeting quite a lot of parents who have adopted at toddler groups etc.

It would be difficult to have a baby at medical school - I took at least a year away from work with all my children and in many ways work is easier than being a medical student as you can do it part-time. There were a few medical students (mostly graduate entry) in my year who took time off to have a baby and then rejoined - they usually needed to time it to restart at the point they had left of the academic year to fit with the exam schedules - so if you make the grades and are due November/December then deferring might be the most straightforward option but the medical school should be able to give you options.

I had my baby
I didn't get in university....missed the grades.
I don't know what to do with myself. I don't have the heart to give my daughter up for adoption. But I cannot make a good mother either.
Too depressed to ask for help i just don't have strenght to explain anything

I now have a 11 week old and an almost 5 year old - can't believe how quickly they grow up!

(oops, auto anon - clearly out of practice on TSR!)

That must have been stressful being pregnant during lockdown. How are you doing?

How is everyone doing? It's a bit dead in here isn't it.

My eldest just turned 15 yesterday which kinda means it has been a very very long time since I set up this society!

Definitely wasn’t much fun!! Having a (2nd) section with no help on the ward afterwards or when baby went to special care (2nd growth restricted 36 weeker) was incredibly difficult and not being able to have family to visit etc.

How old’s your youngest now?

Plodding on! Big one just turned 4 and littlest is 16 months, they're back in nursery 3 days while I'm at work but all our usual groups pre-lockdown are no longer running so I'm struggling to find things to do that are fun for both of them (small one can't walk so parks etc aren't great) and don't cost £££. But they're a smashing pair really!