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Depends on your Trust/Line Manager - in my Obstetric job the Boss couldn't really be bothered (!) & given after early stage there weren't any issues I just soldiered on without one being done.

My next job had a proforma (available on the intranet) that I went through with my Boss (who was awesome & had just come back from her 2nd Mat Leave!) & then submitted to Occupational Health... who filed it somewhere? & then proceeded to sit on the fence with my department with the issues that arose - like working at nights/shift working/working alone/vulnerable to disturbed behaviour from patients etc.

Often it's just a tick box to cover their arse and they don't care about actually implementing anything once a risk has been identified. So in reality, I just circumvented them - went directly to my GP & got a Fit Note for 'amended duties'! Pregnancy does make you rather single-minded/selfish...

37 weeks today! Term!

We must have similar EDDs - we were 29th May?

Just calculated that it was this time a year ago - little did I know & my waters broke in the evening.

So BabyElles is one today! Still feels surreal.


Went back to work last week so it was my first Monday morning at work. But she did plant a (probably very coincidentally) relevant figurine from one of her new toys into my work bag to help me out..!

Just had our 12 weeks scan. Only 11 weeks (we were worried it would be further along!), 2 days away from being able to actually take proper measurements so we're going to have it all over again in a week or so. I don't mind. Really weird experience, seeing it wriggle like that.

I feel I can relax a little more, now I know it's heart is beating!

And now, the names debate...

My partner's first name, middle name, and surname all have 7 letters in them, and so do his Dad's. Apparently this means he's wanted to give his kids 7 letter names since he was a kid.

Ohmigodwhatamigoingtodo.

So frustrating.

So, me and OH have decided we're going to start trying in about 6 months- although will be unoffically 'trying' from now on (just not actively going out of our way, if that makes sense...!) as he's going to be doing a fair bit of travel until November with up to 4 weeks at a time spent abroad etc.


However I let it slip in a friendly conversation to my manager a few weeks ago about this as she's just had a baby and was asking if I was feeling broody etc. I'm up for a deputy sister interview in a few days, with her interviewing me...and needless to say a bit nervous, but more nervous that this conversation will go against me and she might now want to employ me if I'll just go on mat leave in a years time. I've seen other colleagues who've announced a pregnancy, gone for a promotion and not got it for whatever reason..but feels a little too common for it to be a coincidence! Anyone have any experience with this? I get on very well with my manager and we've been friends for a number of years.

Secondly I had the implant removed last week and have spent the past 3 days feeling totally up and down with my mood, is this normal?!



Edit: Just another question, how soon to actually tell people? A few friends know as they've noticed pre-natal vitamins at the house and just generally telling people however my cousin told the family at only 5 weeks gone! I obviously work in a very physically exhausting job as a nurse and wondering if it's safe to tell work as soon as I know, or is it ok in this sector to wait till the 12 weeks scan?

Spent an hour away from Callie today while I was in uni for a meeting about my dissertation next year... god it was hard even though I knew she was just down the corridor, with my boyfriend, it was sooooo difficult. But the cuddles when we were reunited were lovely it's weird though, we technically haven't been apart for ten months, even if I didn't know about it for the first month

Re: telling people, we told families when we found out because we knew it wouldn't go down well (they wouldn't be without her now though, my parents adore their granddaughter!). Everyone else, we waited for after 12 week scan.


Here's my smiler!

37 weeks today! Term!

So BabyElles is one today! Still feels surreal.


Went back to work last week so it was my first Monday morning at work. But she did plant a (probably very coincidentally) relevant figurine from one of her new toys into my work bag to help me out..!

Just had our 12 weeks scan. Only 11 weeks (we were worried it would be further along!), 2 days away from being able to actually take proper measurements so we're going to have it all over again in a week or so. I don't mind. Really weird experience, seeing it wriggle like that.

I feel I can relax a little more, now I know it's heart is beating!

Nervously making an appearance here. Me and my husband will be TTC end of this month after finishing my last pack of pill. Technically can start from tomorrow as tomorrow is my last day of uni before graduation but have to see a midwife first for preconception appointment. Speaking of which, has anyone had it? Just don't know what to expect really..

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Congrats on your decision to TTC

Nope never had a preconception appointment. Not sure what you would expect them to say really.... "eat healthily and have lots of sex" ? haha

Thanks! Yeah just not really sure about what to expect. I think it's cos of medical issues that my GP wants me to speak to the midwife as he/she can write a letter to consultants if need be. Apparently I have to speak about birth options too (and I'm not even pregnant yet) so really nervous. Thank goodness my husband will be coming with me after all so won't be so bad.

Can I just ask to any of you, when you were TTC how often do you have sex?We barely manage once a week now and worried that won't help when TTC.

Can I just ask to any of you, when you were TTC how often do you have sex?We barely manage once a week now and worried that won't help when TTC.

Can I just ask to any of you, when you were TTC how often do you have sex?We barely manage once a week now and worried that won't help when TTC.

7 letters specifically? Wow that's not very broad lol.

Phillip?
Michael?
Dominic?
Gabriel?
Freddie?
Stephen?

I guess there's a fair few out there, but it rules out a lot! Has your partner made any suggestions?

Honestly I wouldn't go along with it - it's such a strange reason to base a name on. I have 2 middle names, and hubby has none, so I kinda leant towards wanting 2 middle names for our kids, whereas he thought they didn't need any, so we compromised and gave our kids 1 middle name.

Relationships and parenting is generally about compromising if you disagree on something. He's being a bit unfair forcing the 7 letter thing. Maybe tell him the child can have a 7 letter middle name, but that you should both just choose a first name based on how much you both like it, rather than how many letters it has.

Spent the day feeling tired & sick...only been off the implant for 3 weeks or so, must stop looking for symptoms....


I need to be rational and assume it's the ridiculous amount of night shifts I've done!

We're spending the weekend babysitting our lovely 4 month old nephew this weekend as his parents go on a little minitrip since baby arrived, which is rather exciting 'baby practice'. I've spent the day baby proofing our new house and didn't realise how many sharp and low corners there are! I've not looked after a young baby since, well...never really and neither has OH so, it will be an experience. Don't think I've ever even changed a nappy without supervision...!!!!