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    (Original post by flubadiblam)
    Rarely do what you're told/advised
    Oh right, I took it as something else. Yeah I have a tendancy for that, but I don't see that being a problem in a relationship. If he loves and respects me, he won't try to tell me what to do.
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    (Original post by .Ali.)
    Lulwut to the first part
    = Don't get where sarcasm came into it and I hope you don't use 'babes' in normal conversation doll-snatch
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    (Original post by TitanicTeutonicPhil)
    Glad I could help Invoice for psychological counselling is in the mail lol

    If it's a bad thing depends on your standpoint. Most 'normal' men do not like these traits in women, as they can be quite intimidating, and they prefer more 'toned-down', feminine women. Equally strong/dominant men might enjoy seeing themselves being mirrored by you, but in a relation there would be a lot of friction. Often strong women end up with wussies, who they can boss around - and usually the guys don't even mind; those relationships actually work lol
    In career terms, these traits are absolutely fantastic. People will take you more seriously, listen more closely, and you will more likely get your way.
    There is no way I can date a "wussie". I'm for equality in a relationship, so being with someone I can order about doesn't seem all to appealing. Also, I'm not one to boss anyone about really... I'm just assertive in my views but equally that doesn't mean I won't listen to my partner or compromise. I think its quite sad that this would be seen as intimidating. Thanks for the outlook though, its interesting to hear a guy's opinion ...... haha I'll watch out for the invoice

    (Original post by foreveranon)
    As a slightly older woman than you are -- no, not at all.

    You're about to embark on a world which has a lot more in it than relationships, and there will be people who will try and intimidate you, especially as a female, if you're perceived as an easy target. (Not JUST females I hasten to add, I've had to step in front of my own partner on occasion when people saw someone who was Just Too Damn Nice).

    There is nothing at all wrong with letting your body language declare you to be a guy's equal, and the guys who are intimidated by it are honestly the ones you probably would want to stay away from in the first place as they want to be In Charge of the relationship. At best, if you're not naturally a stand-back person you'll find that relationship frustrating, at worst, that might well not be a guy who wants someone easy to control for a not so nice reason. Neither of those make for healthy relationships.

    That said, do make sure that if you do end up dating someone slightly quieter you don't end up steamrollering them. Consciously stopping and going "Hey, what would you like in this?" is a GOOD habit to get into in any relationship.
    Thank you I've always felt this way but its just startling to consider my traits as intimidating.... personally I've never given it much thought.
    Yeah, life is tough... I guess my traits are beneficial for my future. But, I can see with what your saying about the relationship being equal. I guess that is something I would want but with my age I find a less "intimidating" (although I disagree with the term) girl would be more agreeable. I take it you share the same traits as I do?
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    (Original post by JmJtr)
    Personally this would be much more of a turn on for me.
    Why do some guys get turned on by virgins the guys in my uni seem to like slutty girls from what I've seen anyway.

    Even though people are shocked I'm a virgin maybe I look or act like I'm sexually experienced. :dontknow:
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    (Original post by ForeverGold)

    Girls has a guy ever been intimidated by you before?
    I guess, and i suppose I can tell.. if they're intimidated.

    I think it does have a lot to do with confidence...but i'm not the loud type, dont like to be the centre of attention or anything..I'd just rather get on with my life and enjoy myself with friends too

    Have you found out later on or by a friend that a guy liked you even though they never told you
    yeah..but I'm not sure about people who think they like you without even talking to you. So it doesnt really mean anything, unless we've talked quite a bit.
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    When did 8 year old's start wearing 5 inch heels. :eek:
    What is happening to the next generation of girls? :facepalm2:
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    (Original post by Jadelyndsey)
    YES!

    I was talking to a guy online who I kind of knew from a party. We talked for a week, and then met each other again at a erm, social gathering. We got on soo well, and I got the impression that he really liked me (and was later told that he infact did). Anyway, we then met up again, and he acted really strange, and kept talking about how tall I was. He then told me on FB that he didn't realise how tall I was at both parties (partly due to the fact I was sat down 99% of the time), and said he felt like he was utterly feminised stood next to me. FML! How I hate being 6'1" :/

    EDIT: Oh another time was when I told him I held a certificate saying that I was legal to carry and use 2 rifles, and that I had a 92% accuracy with moving targets haha...
    That annoys me when guys use the excuse that a girl is to tall to date them.

    :hugs: Don't worry he is obviously a little boy (No pun intended):teehee: you need a MAN if you're not in uni, believe me when you get to uni guys are a lot more mature when it comes to a girls height, even though there are insecure ones among them.
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    (Original post by .Ali.)
    Lol I'd describe myself as a 'sociable' person...

    How did I?



    It's not that difficult. I don't get girls who say that lol, I mean even if I'm not doing anything that day, I still do my hair & makeup and wear a nice outfit. It's just me. Looking a certain way is a constant thing, not an act for when I go outside. Why would it take a lot of energy?
    It's probably because I can take 1 hour, maybe more, on getting ready and sometimes I'd rather just have that extra time in bed! If I'm not going out I will most likely look like a homeless person :-l
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    (Original post by sugar_and_spice)
    It's probably because I can take 1 hour, maybe more, on getting ready and sometimes I'd rather just have that extra time in bed! If I'm not going out I will most likely look like a homeless person :-l
    I guess, it depends on your priorities. I spend between 1-3 hours getting ready depending, but to me it's just a normal part of my daily routine. Different strokes for different folks and all that.
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    (Original post by .Ali.)
    I guess, it depends on your priorities. I spend between 1-3 hours getting ready depending, but to me it's just a normal part of my daily routine. Different strokes for different folks and all that.
    1-3 hours?! What do you do?! Early mornings must be a nightmare!

    Although I will admit to doing my hair and a full face of make-up just to walk 2 minutes to the corner shop....but there is a very bang tidy guy that works there, so best to be prepared incase he's there
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    (Original post by sugar_and_spice)
    1-3 hours?! What do you do?! Early mornings must be a nightmare!
    I have thick hair, which is a pain to style, so I have to take a lot time doing it. If I'm going to sixth form or something, I usually take just over an hour. I cleanse, tone and moisturise, do my full makeup, and style my hair. My hair just takes ages.

    If I have a lot of time, I exfoliate, body moisturse, do my nails, sometimes wear a face mask, stuff like that. If I don't have time I do it at night. I'm ridiculously girly.

    Although I will admit to doing my hair and a full face of make-up just to walk 2 minutes to the corner shop....but there is a very bang tidy guy that works there, so best to be prepared incase he's there
    Hahaha fair enough! I always make sure I look just right if I know a hot guy will be lurking somewhere near.
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    when girls girls always look there giving out evil eyes at someone.
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    I've been told multiple times I seem intimidating because my expressionless face looks extremely b***** when really I'm just feeling neutral (not happy not sad).
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    im thinking he ate a boulder
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    I don't bother going for girls who are out my league.
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    I LOLed at this thank you
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    I've been told by both guys and girls that I'm intimidating. Apparently it's down to the fact that I look pretty high-maintenance, my default expression is (unintentional) *****face and I just generally come across as confident - although I have absolutely no idea how I manage that. I've also been told that the way I walk contributes to it, but again, I'm confused about that one.

    I hate it, haha. I'd love for people to see me as approachable instead.
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    I've never really found any girls intimidating, and I don't mean that a stupid chauvinistic way. I mean i just don't find people to be intimidating in general. That's not to say I've never been intimidated, most of the roid heads in my gym intimidate me, however they aren't normal people.

    Most of the girls I know are really sweet and their general manner is unitimidating, and those that try and act intimidating, I know are just using this as a selfdefense mechanism to hide their insecurity and hence don't scare me.
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    My friend told me he though I'm a stuck up ***** because the first time he saw me he gave me a smile but I just ignored him and kept minding my own business. That only broke when he grew a pair of balls and talked to me when he purposely left his paperworks on my table.
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    (Original post by tenhornedbeast)
    Severely. I bet people run like scared mice when they see you in your favourite Gorgoroth t-shirt.
    Lol. I bet they want to but they're afraid to look awkward in public!
 
 
 
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