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Girls always see me as friend material and I'm not sure why/how to change it watch

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    Anon or delete please

    Ok so I'm 19, not a virgin however (one night stand) and I think I'm ready for a relationship now

    Problem is I always get the feeling that girls see me a friend and nothing more. I'm not gay or act gay in any way so I doubt its that. The only thing it could be is the face I look young for my age (not posting pics) but I've been told I'm decent looking by girls. But friendship is the furthest it will go and I want more.

    How do I change the way I talk/approach girls to make them want to be more than friends?
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    Pics or GTFO
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    Pics or GTFO
    Can't you read? I'm not posting pics

    So... you GTFO!
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    Pics or GTFO :aetsch::aetsch::aetsch:
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    Treat them mean, keep them keen! Always works for me!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Can't you read? I'm not posting pics

    So... you GTFO!
    To be fair, with so little information, how are we meant to help you?

    More like pics, or you can remain being friend-zoned for the rest of your sexual life.
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    Pics orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr GTFO
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    Just be yourself but not a creeper?
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    Be a bit of a ****, never hands on, or just learn to be funny, don't listen to their life problems etc, the **** with the nice side always win over the just nice guy. I know, been on both sides
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    If you like a girl...make her know it and ask them out rather than stay back and be labeled friend material...
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    Be sexy. I know it sounds like a weird thing to say but some guys are so shy and try so hard not to let the fact they like you show that they come across sexless and has nothing that makes me wanna get physical with them.
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    (Original post by Brevity)
    To be fair, with so little information, how are we meant to help you?

    More like pics, or you can remain being friend-zoned for the rest of your sexual life.
    I'm not posting pics as most will say 'ahhh your ugly, 0.5/10' etc (not saying I'm gorgeous, some will do it even if Brad Pitt was posting for a joke!) . Not you personally but you know what TSR trolls are like.

    I do think its the way I act but how do I change this?

    (Original post by Eveiebaby)
    Be sexy. I know it sounds like a weird thing to say but some guys are so shy and try so hard not to let the fact they like you show that they come across sexless and has nothing that makes me wanna get physical with them.
    How?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete please

    Ok so I'm 19, not a virgin however (one night stand) and I think I'm ready for a relationship now

    Problem is I always get the feeling that girls see me a friend and nothing more. I'm not gay or act gay in any way so I doubt its that. The only thing it could be is the face I look young for my age (not posting pics) but I've been told I'm decent looking by girls. But friendship is the furthest it will go and I want more.

    How do I change the way I talk/approach girls to make them want to be more than friends?
    I've never been in this situation but I know for a fact that the website AskMen and MensHealth have lots of articles about it. I don't know how useful they are but maybe start with that ?

    Google it ? Sorry I wasn't more help.
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    If you think you're 0.5, that's a problem.

    You need to improve your looks to have a chance. Get better fashion, wear quirky things, make your hair look good, get muscles, get a tan.

    You probably need to be at least a 5.5 if you want to get some attention.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not posting pics as most will say 'ahhh your ugly, 0.5/10' etc (not saying I'm gorgeous, some will do it even if Brad Pitt was posting for a joke!) . Not you personally but you know what TSR trolls are like.

    I do think its the way I act but how do I change this?



    How?
    I guess it's partly about the way you carry yourself. Don't look all nervous all the time and say whatever you say with a certain amount of conviction. Say it like you mean it. Be flirtatious. Hold a gaze slightly longer than usual with a non-pedo smile. BE sensitive to a woman's body language too. If she moves in then that's generally a good sign rather than her body turning away from you. No medals won here for guessing that means she wants to get away...

    Sort out the way you dress, your hair and your shoes too. Womens are very weird about bad shoes. You could go to the gym for a couple of days a week which also makes you feel good through endorphins and toning although I wouldnt bother becoming a massive beefcake for the sake of being attractive to women. Most men tend to get massive to be strong for themselves from what I have learned through TSR; many women prefer slimmer athletic types.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The only thing it could be is the face ... How do I change the way I talk/approach girls
    Does not compute

    More likely the attitude than the face, though the baby boy face plus a weiner attitude probably won't get you too far with too many lasses.. unless you befriend one who grows you like you but that's the long game!

    Just be yourself, put yourself in positions where there's an opportunity to meet folks who haven't already friend-zoned you, take a deep breath, be very direct (maintain eyecontact etc), be mildly flirtacious/humerous, most importantly of all "try not giving a ****"..
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    Basically you are hideous and girls aren't going to go any ****ing where near you in a sober state of mind. So get your kleenex out cos ****ing is all you're going be to doing.
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    If you think you're 0.5, that's a problem.
    Never said that, what I meant was that even if I was a 9.5 trolls will just say 0.5 for a laugh thus making me think its the reason I'm struggling.

    Personally I'd give myself 6/6.5 (no pics)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Never said that, what I meant was that even if I was a 9.5 trolls will just say 0.5 for a laugh thus making me think its the reason I'm struggling.

    Personally I'd give myself 6/6.5 (no pics)
    One thing you could try is flirting more, then. Good touchy body language, sexual language. Get her to want you before she trusts you, then get her to trust you.

    Flirt with other women in front of them too.
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    More confidence, less caring attitude towards girls and BAM got ya bird, Good luck buddy
 
 
 
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