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    Hi
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    Basically, I'm 16 years old, and due to the competition for places at university, the time has come for me to get a job. I have been searching for jobs for about half a year now (17 in 2 weeks, so not underaged to be employed). I also have social anxiety disorder
    About a month ago I got a job offer at a hotel as a laundry collector one day a week. I was so happy. I finally had a job. No longer was I the "layabout" of the family. After about 2 weeks training I had my first shift on my own. Let's just say it was awful, I could'nt face it again and so I quit. I hate the fact that I quit but I don't regret it.....
    I knew I had social anxiety since before my first job and that is why I quit, not just because everything went wrong on my first day ( who doesn' get it wrong on their first day right?)
    So again I am back to square one- looking for a job. I can't work in large supermarkets or large resturants because of my s.a. I have put my CV in a few small local shops over about a period of six months but no one has come back to me.
    Basically, my s.a is preventing me from getting a job - I want one but I feel I am being too picky with where I drop off my CV. I know many will say to face your fear but I physically can't do it- it would end up like my first job.
    There is a local charity shop which I want to volunteer at but I need the money so I feel as if that is not an option until I have a paid job. The reason I want to volunteer is because I want to work in the charity sector when I am older, so it would be good experience
    So what should I do- would love to hear from anyone with S.A- what kind of jobs would suit me, and what were your experiences like?
    Thanks
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    Posting on here http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ may get you more relevant and appropiate advice, alot of guys on there have experienced similar things, check it out.
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    (Original post by forest3261)
    Hi
    Thx for reading this
    Basically, I'm 16 years old, and due to the competition for places at university, the time has come for me to get a job. I have been searching for jobs for about half a year now (17 in 2 weeks, so not underaged to be employed). I also have social anxiety disorder
    About a month ago I got a job offer at a hotel as a laundry collector one day a week. I was so happy. I finally had a job. No longer was I the "layabout" of the family. After about 2 weeks training I had my first shift on my own. Let's just say it was awful, I could'nt face it again and so I quit. I hate the fact that I quit but I don't regret it.....
    I knew I had social anxiety since before my first job and that is why I quit, not just because everything went wrong on my first day ( who doesn' get it wrong on their first day right?)
    So again I am back to square one- looking for a job. I can't work in large supermarkets or large resturants because of my s.a. I have put my CV in a few small local shops over about a period of six months but no one has come back to me.
    Basically, my s.a is preventing me from getting a job - I want one but I feel I am being too picky with where I drop off my CV. I know many will say to face your fear but I physically can't do it- it would end up like my first job.
    There is a local charity shop which I want to volunteer at but I need the money so I feel as if that is not an option until I have a paid job. The reason I want to volunteer is because I want to work in the charity sector when I am older, so it would be good experience
    So what should I do- would love to hear from anyone with S.A- what kind of jobs would suit me, and what were your experiences like?
    Thanks
    i understand you i haven't got you problem but i'm very shy and inconfident ..... you saying you CAN'T is already putting a barrier between the most likelyhood that you would be able too if you tried you really have to believe.

    forcing yourselves into situations you are terrified off and sticking too it when everything is going wrong will help you. i've done it

    i worked as a cashier and i never thought i could do it. it gave me more confidence.

    on the other hand i don't know if this wil affect your studies but i'm at uni and for a couple of months i worked overnights in a supermarket. you basically work on your own and your get paid lots.

    so for uni you could do this for a couple months then sack it in once you have enough money.

    i'm telling you to face this now because i'm in this situation now that i've finished uni and have to find a graduate job. interecting with people and other social aspects are holding me back when i know i'm fully capable of doing the job.and i haven't got anything yet. you wouldn't want his after you spent all your time at uni so try

    hope that made a bit of sense
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    (Original post by forest3261)
    Hi
    Thx for reading this
    Basically, I'm 16 years old, and due to the competition for places at university, the time has come for me to get a job. I have been searching for jobs for about half a year now (17 in 2 weeks, so not underaged to be employed). I also have social anxiety disorder
    About a month ago I got a job offer at a hotel as a laundry collector one day a week. I was so happy. I finally had a job. No longer was I the "layabout" of the family. After about 2 weeks training I had my first shift on my own. Let's just say it was awful, I could'nt face it again and so I quit. I hate the fact that I quit but I don't regret it.....
    I knew I had social anxiety since before my first job and that is why I quit, not just because everything went wrong on my first day ( who doesn' get it wrong on their first day right?)
    So again I am back to square one- looking for a job. I can't work in large supermarkets or large resturants because of my s.a. I have put my CV in a few small local shops over about a period of six months but no one has come back to me.
    Basically, my s.a is preventing me from getting a job - I want one but I feel I am being too picky with where I drop off my CV. I know many will say to face your fear but I physically can't do it- it would end up like my first job.
    There is a local charity shop which I want to volunteer at but I need the money so I feel as if that is not an option until I have a paid job. The reason I want to volunteer is because I want to work in the charity sector when I am older, so it would be good experience
    So what should I do- would love to hear from anyone with S.A- what kind of jobs would suit me, and what were your experiences like?
    Thanks

    TLR but jobs will make you more confident.
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    Maybe you should look into getting counselling or some sort of professional help for your social anxiety? That way, you become a better and more confident person, and you also won't have that barrier anymore. Because it is hard enough for many people to find work in this tough job market, without having the stress of another problem that will hold you back even further. Just a suggestion
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    Realistically, you won't find many jobs that don't require you to socialise at all, especially not in charity work. Just stop worrying what people think about you.
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    I was in a similar situation to you. I never went to a doctor to get diagnosed with SA as I refused to accept I had it, but I always knew I was extremely shy (i mean really, really shy.)

    I would suggest you get a job in a call centre. Its not perfect, but the only people you need to interact face to face with are your manager and a few team members. This helped me because by starting off with just interacting with a few colleagues, your confidence grows. I now work in a large supermarket and am totally fine dealing with customers face to face etc.

    I would suggest you get a job in a call centre, but dont rely on it for a long time because sooner or later you just have to give yourself that final push which is completely worth it.
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    (Original post by No.1 Loner)
    Posting on here http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/ may get you more relevant and appropiate advice, alot of guys on there have experienced similar things, check it out.
    Thanks for linking this man
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    You quit after one shift on your own :/ You need to persevere if you want to get anywhere.
 
 
 
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