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    Hello! I've known this lovely girl since the start of university now, but it was only in Feb after a sudden insight into my life that I decided that I really liked her and tried to pursue her.

    Now, my closer friends think its really obvious that I've indicated my interest, and that since she hasn't reciprocated, I should just give up.

    However, I originally told her I would get her some food from her home country with my own initiative (we're both international students) since she was feeling kind of homesick. Should I meet up with her to pass her the food and tell her I like her?

    Some background: I used to dress really frumpily (my closest friends rated my dress sense a 2/10, same kind of outfit everday, but fresh clothing!) but lately I've been dressing way better after my sudden insight into my life (friends now rate me a 8/10 or 9 /10); my initial impression on the girl would have been close to zero. My closest friends think I'm better looking than average, however...
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    Instead of indicating your interest, why don't you tell her outright and see what she says?
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    Tell her... you'll be in no different position than you are now!
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    If she hasn't reacted to your 'advances' it surely means she hasn't noticed.

    I don't think you've made it obvious enough that you want a relationship with her. You're running very close to 'friend zone' territory by the sounds of things.

    Take her out somewhere as friends on a 'date' sort of thing. You will need to let her know, unfortunately, that you like her. Apparently, it isn't her responsibility to initiate anything, so get in there. Now.

    EDIT: Don't make any rash moves, because you risk putting her off and even losing her as a friend (ie. no poorly thought out last ditch attempts!) and also don't give up! Keep trying until she tells you she isn't interested.
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    (Original post by Blutarsky)
    If she hasn't reacted to your 'advances' it surely means she hasn't noticed.

    I don't think you've made it obvious enough that you want a relationship with her. You're running very close to 'friend zone' territory by the sounds of things.

    Take her out somewhere as friends on a 'date' sort of thing. You will need to let her know, unfortunately, that you like her. Apparently, it isn't her responsibility to initiate anything, so get in there. Now.

    EDIT: Don't make any rash moves, because you risk putting her off and even losing her as a friend (ie. no poorly thought out last ditch attempts!) and also don't give up! Keep trying until she tells you she isn't interested.
    When I said last ditch attempt I meant meeting her for tea or something to give her the food, and also telling her I like her... Lol I'm not rash or anything. =/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    When I said last ditch attempt I meant meeting her for tea or something to give her the food, and also telling her I like her... Lol I'm not rash or anything. =/
    Whatever you do, make a decision and do it.
 
 
 
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