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    I've been dating my gf for 2.5 years, living together for almost 1 year.

    I just miss my own space and being able to do whatever I want in my own time without having to consider anyone else. I told her the other day that it's just making me really anxious and I'm thinking about having my own flat as we've been arguing recently. She said she's made plans in case already to live with a mate.

    I then very nearly binned her on the spot but she went hysterical and began crying and saying to please tell her it's not over and give it a week or so just to sleep on it. The fact I probably owe her that after 2.5 years combined with extreme guilt about seeing her so distraught made me say yes I would think about it.

    Thing is I've thought about it and I'm sure I still want out. A real clanger I dropped was she was being very sexy the other day and I had sex with her a few days after this which is obviously going to give the wrong impression. I just feel like this is going to be the hardest thing in the world, and telling my parents and friends too who all like her a lot.


    Breaking up makes me so hard.

    When she said to you that she already made plans to live with a mate....did she mean if you broke up? Because if she did, then it seems like she has been feeling like things aren't good and is expecting it too finish?

    You've already made your decision, so the fairest thing to do is to let her know that it's not working out as soon as. To a certain extent, you've got to seperate this from her reaction which is obviously going to make you feel guilty because at the end of the day, sometimes you just have to do what makes you happy and not think about other people. It would be more cruel to carry on with the relationship knowing that your heart isn't in it anymore. And sure, the life adjustment will be hard but trust me, it gets easier and you will be so much happier for it. Yeah, you shouldn't have slept with her but it's done now so don't dwell on it. Make sure when you break it off that you make it very clear and that it isn't an "on a break" situation etc. Best of luck.
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