I do love my parents. They were good parents when we(my brother, sister and I) were kids but they got divorced and everything went down hill from there. I was 16, my sis 18 and my bro 14, which isn't that young but we lived a sheltered life up to that point and then they expected us to just grow up and deal with it. My dad's got a new family so he cares less about what we do. The only thing he seems to care about is our education, and even then he wants to tell us what to study. My mum's gotten so moody. the slightest thing sets her off. And she's always trying to control my life despite the fact that I'm 23. She claims she's just making a suggestion but when I do something else, she gets pissed off, like "why won't you do what I say. I know what's best".
I definitely love them. I miss them when I'm away, but I can only take them in small doses.
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Last edited by Mad4footie; 11-04-2011 at 14:22.
- 11-04-2011 14:21
- 11-04-2011 14:26
So your only gain is financially? Thats downright selfish, if you don't love them or even like them, then you should be on your own but don't use their bloody money. Its selfish.
Yes I do love my parents - very very much. I look forward to spending time with them and miss them when i'm away.
- 11-04-2011 14:34
i'm mature enough to fully appreciate and value the time, effort and money my parents have given up to raise me and my brother. i love them
- 11-04-2011 14:38
They have looked after me from when I was a child to now... ofcourse!
- 11-04-2011 14:43
I couldnt live without my mum. We have a very strong bond, she's always been a rock, which has been pretty hard considering she's done it all on her own. She's a typical "hugging" parent - someone who likes to show affection to her kids all the time. So yeah, I genuinely love her.
Dad, I could live without. I mean I love him but nowhere near the same amount, he just hasnt played any sort of role in my upbringing.
(Original post by Anonymous)
- 11-04-2011 14:48
Just wondered whether normal people (for example over 20) feel a kind of "bond" to your parents.
I wouldn't say I love my parents. I don't even really like them very much. I could be away from them for years and not miss them a bit. I find them annoying. I don't look up to them. And am quite frankly ashamed to be related to them. I don't know what use they are to me apart from financial. That's why I never send mothers day or fathers day cards because it would be insincere.
Like at school when people used to say "which of your parents do you love the most?" I thought well neither of them really.
And on tv when people are at "bootcamp" or whatever and away from their parents for ages and they cry all the time and when they all come home and cry and hug and such like and I just think that's weird and over the top.
Is your mum supposed to hug you and say she loves you when you're little or is that just in films???
Are you supposed to bond with your dad over football or fishing or something?? Is he supposed to tell everyone about what he did at work?
Do you think that not forming a bond with your parents makes it harder to have relationships?
Do you still feel worried about what your parents will think of you?
So... just wondering if it is normal to feel like this or if it is unusual? Are most people just embarrassed by their parents?
(Also, I read somewhere that autistic children don't bond with their parents. But I'm not autistic.)
- 11-04-2011 14:55
I love my dad. I have no particular feelings about my mum.
I wouldn't say I have a "bond" with either. Though I am not really sure what a "bond" is, so whatever.
(Original post by TheFlyingDutchman)
- 12-04-2011 00:06
They really aren't
They are massively underrated.
I also believe that growing up with bad parents affects people in a big way. Society never seems to acknowledge it but many of the *******s around these days could of done with better parents.Last edited by tenhornedbeast; 12-04-2011 at 00:08.
- 12-04-2011 10:34
This is a bit odd. I'm 27 and I still love my parents as much as I ever did. That's not to say that the relationship hasn't changed. I see them less these days because I live elsewhere and have my own life, and we are all more like really good mates than anything else. But I never leave them or end a phone call to either of them without telling them I love them. It's quite sad that you wouldn't love your own parents, but then I suppose everybody has different experiences and is brought up differently.
- 12-04-2011 10:48
Get along really well with my parents. I've never been one to get home-sick though, even when I was a kid I didn't get why people got upset when they were away from their parents for a few days lol.
My gf's mum is terrible though. She kind of reversed the mother-daughter relationship when my gf was about 9. She has been supporting her ever since and tbh I would prefer it if she just cut contact. Some of the things she did really f*cking pissed me off.