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kskh1990

i was wondering about my little situation guys... any ideas:

i have liked this guy for the past 3 and a bit years, who is in my year. we talk on occasions, i sometimes get round to texting him. he has had g/fs during this time but has been single for the past year and a half.

i really have fallen for him.....he seems really intelligent and caring and deep, all of the stuff i really FALL FOR. i don't know what to do as sometimes i see a different side to him and all my expectations are let down. once he told me he was sick of justifying why i had to like him to me. this was in a text. then he saw me with a mate who is a guy at the cinema and told me that this mate looked horrible. and that i would be good in a couple with him.

my main relationship with him at school is that he has an obsession of sorts with my grades and always goes on about my A/A* grades.

i ahve begun to wake up in the middle of the night after dreaing about him taking my hand into his etc etc.

what should i do?! shall i keep texting him sometimes, even tho he doesn't really text me of his own accord....tho he does reply? or should i leave it and make no further effort before i get hurt again and again?

Reply 1

Poica

I'd leave it, lose interest. If nothing else you can move on, and if not, he may like you better if you stop bothering him.

Reply 2

LawQueen

Get in there girl. Get some confidence to natter to him and flirt. Make it obvious you fancy him so there's no mixed signals and go for it. With the length of your crush; you have nothing to lose. If he does reject you-well you tried but you never no. A wise person who goes by the name of ChemistBoy gave me some good advice:
you snooze, you lose.

Reply 3

lil_sweetie

Work on a more 'friendly' friendship at the moment - take more time to get to know him and let him get to know you. Don't tell him you like him - yet - let the friendship develop and you should get more of an idea of how he feels about you. Text a few times, but not too often if he doesn't text you of his own accord.

Reply 4

Poica

Guess you're getting some mixed advice here...

Reply 5

JonnyB

You have nothing to lose. I suggest at a party/something social, just have a couple of drinks with him, see how things develop.

You have two choices -

1. Get it out of the way, address the problem - see how he feels. If it messes up, then at least you know it won't happen, and you can get it out of the way and move on.

2. Don't be such a wussy, go with the first choice.

Reply 6

lil_sweetie

Are you a shy person? If you are, you're like me, I've had this kinda problem when I'm just too shy to say anything cos I don't wanna get hurt / embarrased / ruin the friendship or whatever.

Reply 7

JonnyB

lil_sweetie

Are you a shy person? If you are, you're like me, I've had this kinda problem when I'm just too shy to say anything cos I don't wanna get hurt / embarrased / ruin the friendship or whatever.

See my above post.

Reply 8

LawQueen

just go with what jonny and i are saying-get in there girl!

Reply 9

lil_sweetie

You have two choices -

1. Get it out of the way, address the problem - see how he feels. If it messes up, then at least you know it won't happen, and you can get it out of the way and move on.

2. Don't be such a wussy, go with the first choice.

It's not as easy as all that! Some of us just can't go straight up to someone you like that much and come out with something as big as that. It's too hard! Don't tell us we're wusses - I bet loads of people feel like that.

Reply 10

Harv616

Ditch him, he sounds like a prick tbh

Besides you young! there are plenty of guys out there for you, if he keeps being nasty to you dont bother with him