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    My Ex and I broke up on the phone about 2 weeks ago now (as we both attended University so we were too far apart to brake up in person). We finally decided to brake up because, I felt she didn't really show any interest anymore. When I finally said to her that I feel this is the case and I think we should brake up, she admitted to it and said she had be blanking me and not speaking to me as much the past few months because she thought i would get the message quickly and be angry with her and then obviously dump her- which made me incredibly angry, that she thought she could treat someone who she did love at some point, and who did nothing wrong, like that. Ok but now we are both back in our hometown, and my Ex wants to meet up tomorrow to have on final chat about it all, because she didn't like the fact we broke up on the phone and wants to do it properly. I can see where she is coming from, however I have said lots of things I have already wanted to say, and now I feel at the chat tomorrow i am going to be saying them all again, and i have only just started to feel slightly calmer about it all so i don't want to create tension between us again.
    Also,I know she has moved on already with somebody else (which hurt me a bit because it was so quick) but I don't think I want to bring that up tomorrow, as it won't really benefit anyone talking about it, so I think I will wait until she brings it up, if she ever does.
    So what kind of things shall I say tomorrow, as I really don't know where to start?
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    She's got another guy already after 2 weeks? Are you sure she didn't break up with you for him...
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    1) you do not have to meet up if you don't want to

    2) if you feel the need to meet, it can be a short meeting. "so we're breaking up then yea, both agreed? sweet. inabit"
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    sir, if you go back to her, you'd have a considerable lack of testicular fortitude.
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    I wouldn't say anything if I were you. Wait to see what she has to say and if there is no decent jusitification about her treating you the way she has and this other guy I would just leave and not bother with her again.

    I know it's more difficult than it sounds but you definitely have to have some self-respect.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My Ex and I broke up on the phone about 2 weeks ago now (as we both attended University so we were too far apart to brake up in person). We finally decided to brake up because, I felt she didn't really show any interest anymore. When I finally said to her that I feel this is the case and I think we should brake up, she admitted to it and said she had be blanking me and not speaking to me as much the past few months because she thought i would get the message quickly and be angry with her and then obviously dump her- which made me incredibly angry, that she thought she could treat someone who she did love at some point, and who did nothing wrong, like that. Ok but now we are both back in our hometown, and my Ex wants to meet up tomorrow to have on final chat about it all, because she didn't like the fact we broke up on the phone and wants to do it properly. I can see where she is coming from, however I have said lots of things I have already wanted to say, and now I feel at the chat tomorrow i am going to be saying them all again, and i have only just started to feel slightly calmer about it all so i don't want to create tension between us again.
    Also,I know she has moved on already with somebody else (which hurt me a bit because it was so quick) but I don't think I want to bring that up tomorrow, as it won't really benefit anyone talking about it, so I think I will wait until she brings it up, if she ever does.
    So what kind of things shall I say tomorrow, as I really don't know where to start?
    thankyou
    I'd say if you can try and get out of seeing her tomorrow. It just seems that it would cause you more hurt and pain if she's there, and you might find it hard to get away from the fact that she's found someone new since she'll probably talk about it.

    If it helps try and write down a list of the things you want to talk about, and work your way through them in the conversation. That way you cover all the things you want to talk about without getting too frustrated and confused about the whole situation and her answers.
 
 
 
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