How long did it take you to get over first serious relationship?

I can't really answer as simple as this.
Even though I was the one who broke up, and even though I know it's better that way. The first weeks were pure hell. It was like going through cold turkey because I got addicted to that emotion of love. It caused some sleepless nights. I was going out flirting like crazy and it was very easy to get girls to sleep with. But no girl fascinated me, which was quite frustrating.

After about two month I didn't think about her often anymore and I felt a lot better, but when I did think of her I got enraged at the thought that she could feel like this to others than me. I had to really control myself when this came up.

With time it got better and better. After 6 months she didn't affect me at all I only thought of her as a relationship I once had — for better or worse. But then one year later she wanted to meet up, because she will be moving away and wants to be friends etc. It was boring, but when she was kind of flirting with some guy (can't even tell if it really was or not) I got upset and felt very stupid for having invested emotions into this girl who falls for the cheapest of flirts; no way playful or especially appealing. Especially since usually I lose interest very easily in girls that are easy to seduce, whether they are pretty or not.

So yeah It didn't affect my life after six months. But to get completely over her it took more than a year.

Shame to hear that

Hope you can move on quickly and find someone to is right for you!

Ahaha, wise words

But what happens if there is no pain anymore? Before, every time I thought of her and her new bf, I was sick with jealousy and my stomach turned. But now, I talk to her on occasions (don't make too much of a habit doing it though) and when I think about her, I don't have any emotions.

So technically speaking, I'm not living with the pain as I don't feel any pain :P

But I've always been a very logical person who doesn't like to mix a lot of emotions in these situations. It's the classic Head vs Heart argument and I'm a firm believer of the Head! The head knows best

So that may be the reason why I got over her fairly quickly and that she doesn't cause me pain anymore. But everybody is different and this might be the way I cope with things

22 years and counting.... am almost 40 now!!! so you know.

Met this lass when I was 17, and was really happy, changed the way I lived my life back then, had to move away for a little while, but would head back to spend some time with her every 2 weeks for the long weekend. Was the first lass that I truly loved, and after I turned 18, she was also my first sexual partner!

At the time I was residing mainly at my mums house,( not cool ), and when it was time for me to move on, I foolishly came north to Aberdeen, mainly to see my dad!

I did go back down to see her after 3 months, but she had already moved on with a guy I know, ( one of my school mates ). Have not heard from her since, and still think about her all the damned time.

Have had some relationships since then, but am always comparing then to my "first"!

Anyhoo, time for me to have a quick relationship with my cooker and get supper on the go.

Hugz fae me to you all!

Touche!
But are you at that stage where, if she and the guy she's with currently, decided to get married, you could be happy for her?

Emotions aren't black and white: if you couldn't, it's not a "bad" thing, or doesn't even mean you haven't gotten over her... And maybe the fact that you're not willing to mix emotions is a subconscious way of you preventing yourself from feeling pain!

Ahahah, funny thing, my ex was a bit of a dreamer :P

She completely fell for me within a couple of months of going out with me, proclaiming that she loved me and that she wanted to marry me and spend the rest of her life with me and having children with me within two months of us seeing each other. And I was like That was the main reason why she left me, as I didn't reciprocate the 'love' that she displayed towards me and tbh, I didn't want to commit to someone within a couple of months :/

So when she left me for the other guy and I was still speaking to her, she basically told me that she planned to marry her bf, have children, etc, the same thing she told me But this was within 2 WEEKS of her meeting her new bf.

So on that end, I wasn't too shocked or sad when she told me, as I kinda half expected her to say that anyways

And your logic on emotions are completely right. I tend to not mix my emotions or investing too much emotion in someone, just in case if I get hurt, it wouldn't hurt too much in the long run

Dear God... she sounds damn clingy. She needs to develop herself as a person and learn to love herself instead of all out planning the rest of her life with another person!

And hey, that;'s understandable, but it's only throuhg getting hurt that we grow... if you don't allow yourself to fall, you may never find love!

I voted 1 to 3 months cos that was when i finally stopped thinking about him all the time but its been 2 and a half years and if i think about it, it does still hurt and i do still cry about it sometimes

My first serious relationship ended 6 months ago now and yeah, I can go 2-3 days without thinking about him.

I think I'll always love him. I doubt he even thinks about me at all. He seemed to have moved on pretty quickly - being with a 16 year old shortly after our break up. He's blocked me on facebook, so I guess that he's well and truly 'moved on'!