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    Basically, when I've always known I was gay since I was 13 or so, i never felt sexually toward a girl. I kissed a few but never felt attracted to any. Came out to my friends a few years ago, and to my parents more recently and they took it fine.

    I met a guy who has since been my best friend a couple of years ago and have not stopped being attracted to him, I've felt really bad about it and have never told him. I think I'm in love, but there's no point telling him as he's straight and I don't want to ruin the friendship. I've also recently had a boyfriend, but never stopped loving my friend.

    But in the past month or two I've started feeling a bit more sexually attracted towards girls. Not quite attracted, just as if I'd like to experiment, started looking at straight porn and actually enjoying it. Can't really do anything about it though as everyone knows me as gay (not that I'm overly camp or anything).

    As you can tell, I'm quite confused and don't quite know what to do. Maybe I'd like to get with girls to forget about him as my last relationship wasn't really successful, or maybe I'd like to make him jealous or something? Or am I simply getting confused between my love for him as a friend and I am simply bisexual?

    Has anyone else had any similar experiences of loving their best friend or coming out as gay then realizing they may be at least bi-curious?
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    Maybe you are Bi? Or is it just because you enjoy porn that you think this? Cause gay guys like porn too, and maybe watch it and fantasize about the guy in straight porn.
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    go forth and experiment
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    don't worry about labelling yourself. Sexuality is fluid - so chill and do what makes you happy. Peaceee!x
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    Hey, well... I'm in the exact same boat as you, I fell for my straight best friend and thought I was gay so I came out. And now I regret every second of my life ever since :/
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    I came out as gay when I was 13 (well, I didn't come out as gay, I started dating a girl and everyone assumed I was a lesbian) and I'm actually attracted to all genders, it's just that everyone refuses to believe that I'm attracted to men. It's very sad. I keep telling my mother how much I find certain males attractive, and she's like 'for a lesbian, that's so weird!'

    Experiment. Gender and sexuality are fluid and variant things. At the end of the day, whatever makes you happy is what you should go with (as long as no-one gets hurt). You may find that the idea of being with a girl is only attractive because you've never done it, or you may find that you can also be happy with girls. Either way, you don't lose anything.
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    Maybe it's not the same thing, but I'm straight and I like lesbian porn. :ninja:
    And if it is just the porn, it's probably nothing to think too much about.
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    I call myself gay because I notice hot guys and not hot girls, and I can't really imagine myself having a relationship with a girl. But to be honest, porn is porn, and the teenage male body will respond to naked people doin' it no matter what gender they are.

    But if do find yourself attracted to girls (wierdo :p:), don't let a label hold you back.
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    Seriously, life is too short to quell your desires based on a label you gave yourself once upon a time. Maybe you are gay, maybe you never were - truth is, it only matters if you want it to. Your sexual identity is yours to call as/when/if it changes.

    For some people, these terms (gay, straight, bi) are unchanging, for others - they're not. Such is the complicated disposition of human nature.

    Have fun, listen to your gut and don't give yourself such a hard time
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    Personally I'm bi you should love the people not the gender... don't worry too much about it... if you like someone then go for it regardless of their gender or anything x
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    (Original post by TawnyOwl)
    Maybe it's not the same thing, but I'm straight and I like lesbian porn. :ninja:
    And if it is just the porn, it's probably nothing to think too much about.
    ME TOOO!!!
    I think it's because all the guys in porn are really really gross, it's such a turn off.

    To OP: Chillax, it's not like we're living on the play ground anymore, there is such a thing as take backs. Are you going to uni anytime soon? It's the perfect time to experiment! As long as you're respectful of other people's feelings, and you're keeping it safe in the bedroom I see no problem in hooking up with girls and guys to try and figure yourself out. I think you should hand in your gold star gay badge and start getting things straight.

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    Everyone knows your gay. I can't imagine people being anyhting but relieved if you started to want to bang girls.
 
 
 
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