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    hey

    basically i've been dating a girl from another sixth form, so i haven't had the chance to meet any of her friends yet. she invited me to a party on friday and i'm really scared about going.

    at my school i'm considered a little bit of an oddball and even though people are waaaay more civil to us now- my circle of friends were the people who were **** at PE and used to get put in the bins by the other kids.

    this girl is one of the more popular kids, a complete social butterfly who is out every weekend. if she hadn't accidentally spilled coffee all over me in the street last month then i'd seriously doubt she knew i existed.

    it's nice of her to invite me and all but i seriously think i'm going to give it a miss. it would be different if she could stick around with me all night but i realise that she needs to socialise and have fun with everyone else there and she can't be holding my hand throughout it.

    i like to think i'm quietly confident but these people are completely different to me. i don't drink and this kid's house parties are legendary for being so mental and her friends are people that i would not usually hang around with. i have the tendency to say the wrong thing or make unfunny jokes and i seriously think her friends aren't going to be forgiving as mine..

    i was thinking about drinking (i have done it in the past, but i don't really like getting ****faced) to give myself a bit more confidence but i'm worried of getting over confident and making a massive tit of myself.

    have any of you been in a similar situation when you've been invited to a party but don't know anyone?


    thanks in advance
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    Go. I assure you no one will put you in a bin but yourself (and the sweet delicious chemical Ethanol). Making a massive tit of yourself will only amuse and delight the fine fellows of this crazy gentleman's party.
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    your obviously not confident, otherwise you wouldnt be scared/worried. You just need to chill out and go to the party.
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    don't be a pussy dude, if a hot girl asks you to a party you make sure you go to that party or else you risk blowing your chances. you have nothing to lose, you don't have to drink at a house party; just talk to people, dance and eat and you'll be fine.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hey

    basically i've been dating a girl from another sixth form, so i haven't had the chance to meet any of her friends yet. she invited me to a party on friday and i'm really scared about going.

    at my school i'm considered a little bit of an oddball and even though people are waaaay more civil to us now- my circle of friends were the people who were **** at PE and used to get put in the bins by the other kids.

    this girl is one of the more popular kids, a complete social butterfly who is out every weekend. if she hadn't accidentally spilled coffee all over me in the street last month then i'd seriously doubt she knew i existed.

    it's nice of her to invite me and all but i seriously think i'm going to give it a miss. it would be different if she could stick around with me all night but i realise that she needs to socialise and have fun with everyone else there and she can't be holding my hand throughout it.

    i like to think i'm quietly confident but these people are completely different to me. i don't drink and this kid's house parties are legendary for being so mental and her friends are people that i would not usually hang around with. i have the tendency to say the wrong thing or make unfunny jokes and i seriously think her friends aren't going to be forgiving as mine..

    i was thinking about drinking (i have done it in the past, but i don't really like getting ****faced) to give myself a bit more confidence but i'm worried of getting over confident and making a massive tit of myself.

    have any of you been in a similar situation when you've been invited to a party but don't know anyone?


    thanks in advance

    Lol really? Why didn't you knock the ******'s out?

    But yeah dude, go for it and enjoy yourself.. Whats the worst that could happen?










    waking up in a threesome with 3 guys, one of whom is still teabagging you and the other still has his weiner in your butt 0_o
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    waking up in a threesome with 3 guys, one of whom is still teabagging you and the other still has his weiner in your butt 0_o
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    I think you should go for it, you can drink without getting too drunk. She obviously likes you and if her friends are anything like her then they will too.

    Besides you might regret not going afterwards. This is a chance for you to step out of your comfort zone and gain a little confidence.
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    It really depends on your personality and confidence. Like I had a birthday party a few weeks ago, and there were a few people I invited that didn't really know anyone else. One of them is very confident and chatty and easily socialised with people at the party, whilst another was not so much.

    If you feel you are confident enough to go chat to random strangers, then go for it, because like you said, you don't wanna be the clingy boyfriend who doesn't leave his girlfriends sight all night.
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    The high school social hierarchy amuses me.

    Just go, do cocaine off the girls tits, and enjoy yourself.
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    You'll regret not going. This is your 'chance' to boost your confidence. Also, it's a chance to have fun and meet some friends, what's not to like? When I was at school I went to all the house parties I got invited to and ended up knowing all the German half of my year, and some of the French too, (but we weren't allowed to fraternize with the Frenchies..treachery of the worst kind according to secondary school rules when I was a student) It was great. Seriously, please go. I'm 23 and I'm still the guy that says the awkward jokes, makes a fool of himself and says the most inappropriate things sometimes but my friends appreciate me all the same. Oh, and there'll be girls there too, which gives you a perfect chance to be a complete goof infront of a girl and give her the sexface. Ooo la la.
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    Go, have the most epic time ever. Believe me, getting drunk and embarrassing yourself isnt a bad thing!!! You'll forever be known as the crazy legend who did something stupid. and thats not a bad thing.
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    Oh, and there'll be girls there too, which gives you a perfect chance to be a complete goof infront of a girl and give her the sexface. Ooo la la.
    i have a girl there and i'm scared of looking like a complete goof in front of her :P thanks for the good advice though mate
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    if she hadn't accidentally spilled coffee all over me in the street last month then i'd seriously doubt she knew i existed.
    She spilt coffee over you, and now you're dating? How sure are you that it was completely accidental, and that she hadn't noticed you before? Just saying, most people don't end up dating, or even ever seeing each other again, after such a minor occurrence. I suspect she may well have been trying to get your attention.

    She's a popular, sociable girl. She is dating YOU, and has invited YOU to a party. She clearly thinks you're up to scratch, and probably her friends do to. If they don't she doesn't care! She is vouching for you, not looking for their approval.

    You don't need to be scared, as you're going with her, and always have your girlfriend to fall back on if conversation with other people dries up. Also, you're a couple, she's expecting to spend a significant portion of the night with you, and probably wants to introduce everyone to you.

    The main thing is actually don't worry about their reactions, don't think about it. If you go there expecting to be socially awkward you will be, but realise that no one is expecting anything of you and that you can be just as cool and confident as anyone else, mainly by not trying to be. Don't try to be overly funny or clever, just let conversation flow naturally and say what comes to mind. (Just avoid making any comments directly about people there, you don't know the social links so saying anything that isn't intentionally complimentary may trip you up)
    Asking questions and finding out about the other people is usually a good idea and safe: people like talking about themselves and you can't accidentally upset anyone. It also helps get conversation flowing quite readily.

    Do drink. Don't actively try to get drunk, and don't try to out-drink other people, but don't stay sober because that will make you stand out as nervous (and interacting with drunk people while stone cold sober is difficult). If there is alcohol available, take it! Just stay in control of how much you're drinking, and if you're worried you're getting too drunk, slow it down. Probably stick to beers or single mixers, not straight spirits

    The excesses of this guys parties are almost certainly overstated. Mention to her that you're not a big drinker and don't feel comfortable with things getting too out of hand.



    Having lived through the same experience as you (being the oddball, even at a school full of oddballs I was that bit odder) and been to uni and socialising with all sorts of people, I realise that the main thing holding me back was my own view of myself. No one there has met you or knows what you're like, and so have no opinion of you until you walk into that room.

    Just realise that regardless of your previous experience, you are every bit as worthwhile a person and have a lot of things going for you (for one, probably quite a bright future)
    And there is absolutely no reason you should feel uncomfortable talking to these people. The term 'comfort zone' should be abolished; it's what you make of it.



    and definitely go, she wants you to, and it'll make her happy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i have a girl there and i'm scared of looking like a complete goof in front of her :P thanks for the good advice though mate
    Haha, don't be afraid. You're welcome. I hope you have fun.
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    People like you should be kept unpopular and become TSR mods.
    and people like you should be stand up comedians
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hey

    basically i've been dating a girl from another sixth form, so i haven't had the chance to meet any of her friends yet. she invited me to a party on friday and i'm really scared about going.

    at my school i'm considered a little bit of an oddball and even though people are waaaay more civil to us now- my circle of friends were the people who were **** at PE and used to get put in the bins by the other kids.

    this girl is one of the more popular kids, a complete social butterfly who is out every weekend. if she hadn't accidentally spilled coffee all over me in the street last month then i'd seriously doubt she knew i existed.

    it's nice of her to invite me and all but i seriously think i'm going to give it a miss. it would be different if she could stick around with me all night but i realise that she needs to socialise and have fun with everyone else there and she can't be holding my hand throughout it.

    i like to think i'm quietly confident but these people are completely different to me. i don't drink and this kid's house parties are legendary for being so mental and her friends are people that i would not usually hang around with. i have the tendency to say the wrong thing or make unfunny jokes and i seriously think her friends aren't going to be forgiving as mine..

    i was thinking about drinking (i have done it in the past, but i don't really like getting ****faced) to give myself a bit more confidence but i'm worried of getting over confident and making a massive tit of myself.

    have any of you been in a similar situation when you've been invited to a party but don't know anyone?


    thanks in advance
    I've been in a similar situation so here's some really sound advice for you:

    1) definitely go!! You will meet new people, and you may even like them, and get invited to other parties

    2) if you're worried about it being awkward the best thing to do is arrive at the party a little bit late, so people are already wasted and more friendly/fun, and that way its less awkward.

    3) Ask to bring a mate, that way you atleast no someone there.

    4) Drink, its very sociable, and you don't have to get Gazeboed, just a little tipsy.

    But seriously, this is a good opportunity, and a great chance to break out of your little circle. There's no advantage in missing it. If its that bad just leave...
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    and people like you should be stand up comedians
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