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    (Original post by sophiemay20)
    Aw hun, that must have felt so awful for you
    Earlier, when they were listing the physical signs of an ED, I panicked and literally had to run to the living room to check that my family weren't watching.
    Yup. Especially when I knew this lass doesnt actually want to be that thin, but doesnt eat so that the voices shut up. She reckons my friend has an ED. She doesnt. You offer her food, she'll eat it, shes just really thin.
    Found this ep really triggering. It's not the thin people, its the huge ones which make me feel like 'no, I cant eat, because I'll end up like.. THAT'

    Doesnt help when both my little sister and mother are very overweight for their height. I get my sister hand me downs, well things that are bought for her which dont fit. Which is why half my wardrobe completely swamps me/ is a size 16+. And apparently I've got fat pasty thighs. Pot calling kettle bloody black dear! </rant>
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    Does anyone know what measures sixth forms/colleges take when they find out that a pupil has an ED and self harms?

    I'm considering going to see my sixth form's counsellor (if we have one =S) but I'm scared of what they might do once they find out. I don't want them to tell my family (I'm 17 if that changes anything) because my family really don't give a **** but I don't want the school to know this.

    Neither ED or my self harming are very severe but I think that if I haven't developed it already, then I might be developing depression as a result.
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    (Original post by Vixen47)
    Does anyone know what measures sixth forms/colleges take when they find out that a pupil has an ED and self harms?

    I'm considering going to see my sixth form's counsellor (if we have one =S) but I'm scared of what they might do once they find out. I don't want them to tell my family (I'm 17 if that changes anything) because my family really don't give a **** but I don't want the school to know this.

    Neither ED or my self harming are very severe but I think that if I haven't developed it already, then I might be developing depression as a result.
    When I was referred for anxiety and depression which then escalated into disordered eating, I was told everything would be treated in confidence unless there was a serious risk to the life of myself or someone else. I'd think that SH would come under that, as would eating disorder behaviours or thoughts of ending your life. If that was the case, then they'd have to refer you to a GP.

    For me being 18 didn't matter, the fact I was still in full-time education meant they acted in loco parentis and would have to disclose any high-risk problems, but that could've just been my school's procedure, somebody else would have to inform you whether that's true universally sorry >_< I'm fairly sure a counsellor would have to follow the same kind of confidentiality agreement though
    The situation was the same with our NHS nurse drop-in services and they'd keep confidence between myself and the nurse without disclosing anything unless I consented or there was a life-threatening risk.

    So yeah sorry, I'm not sure if this was too helpful and a lot of waffle. I'm pretty sure counsellors would have the same kind of confidentiality agreement. But one thing I can definitely say is I have no regrets about being honest about how I was feeling to professionals and my loved ones that I trusted, and I don't want to think about what could have happened otherwise. As it happened, my health anxiety actually saved me from a full-blown eating disorder, as it meant while I was terrified of weight gain I was still terrified of the multitude of risks created by me losing any more, especially thinking I had some fatal heart condition. I just came straight out to my tutor who I really trusted and from there she referred me to the drop-in nurse on the disordered eating and health anxiety, and the learning mentor referred me to a GP. The GP then referred me onto CAMHS and our eating disorder services in turn.


    Vixen, please try not to be cruel to yourself! Any form of SH is severe, be it cutting, overeating, b/ping, restricting, over-exercising, I'd even count extreme negative and self-critical thoughts which would include those of the depressed and certainly the suicidal. ANYTHING which involves deliberately hurting yourself physically or mentally isn't something to put up with, and things can change for the better.
    I really hope there's a counsellor for you to talk through this with, and I'm sure your family care and are worried although it might not always seem it (ED goggles can cause a lot of suspicion). Even if they aren't supportive which sadly sometimes happens, you're right to reach out to help yourself.

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    Hi guys I'm new to this thread though I've been following it for some time.

    I'm 18 and I relapsed into anorexia about a year and a half ago. I first got ill when I was 13, and my lowest weight was 70lb (5 stones) at 5'2. Now my weight has dropped from 118lb (8.4 stones) to 96lb (a little under 7 stones) at 5'3. It's not so bad this time and I don't really starve myself although I'm very careful with food (I usually have about 1200-1500 calories per day and never go under 1000 calories). I even tried to regain some weight and got up from 102 lb to 105lb like a year ago or so, but maintained it only for a few months and have lost more weight since then.

    I'm not rapidly losing weight as I have no intention to do so. My weight is fairly stable, but I lose 1-2lb sporadically about every 2 months (eg. I have low appetite for a few days and lose a bit of weight without regaining afterwards). My ED also seems to be getting progressively worse slowly.

    Here's the problem: I haven't had a natural period in 14 months (had one last May after taking progestin-only pills). However, I faked a period last month to make my parents think I'm okay. I also make myself appear to weigh 102lb (the agreed minimum target weight) on the scale when I'm actually just 96lb. I know it's really bad but haven't been able to bring myself to gain weight. Lying has been my solution.

    I really want to get better. I'm afraid I'll get osteoporosis. I want a good social life; I want to have children in the future; I want to be happy. However, I can't stand the idea of gaining weight. Whenever I'm faced with food my greatest concern is to keep to my strict diet or sometimes eat even less.

    I would really like to have someone (or some people) to talk to. I can't let them know I've been lying--I wouldn't be able to face their wrath and disappointment.

    Please share your experience or give some advice/motivate me?
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    Hi guys I'm new to this thread though I've been following it for some time.

    I'm 18 and I relapsed into anorexia about a year and a half ago. I first got ill when I was 13, and my lowest weight was 70lb (5 stones) at 5'2. Now my weight has dropped from 118lb (8.4 stones) to 96lb (a little under 7 stones) at 5'3. It's not so bad this time and I don't really starve myself although I'm very careful with food (I usually have about 1200-1500 calories per day and never go under 1000 calories). I even tried to regain some weight and got up from 102 lb to 105lb like a year ago or so, but maintained it only for a few months and have lost more weight since then.

    I'm not rapidly losing weight as I have no intention to do so. My weight is fairly stable, but I lose 1-2lb sporadically about every 2 months (eg. I have low appetite for a few days and lose a bit of weight without regaining afterwards). My ED also seems to be getting progressively worse slowly.

    Here's the problem: I haven't had a natural period in 14 months (had one last May after taking progestin-only pills). However, I faked a period last month to make my parents think I'm okay. I also make myself appear to weigh 102lb (the agreed minimum target weight) on the scale when I'm actually just 96lb. I know it's really bad but haven't been able to bring myself to gain weight. Lying has been my solution.

    I really want to get better. I'm afraid I'll get osteoporosis. I want a good social life; I want to have children in the future; I want to be happy. However, I can't stand the idea of gaining weight. Whenever I'm faced with food my greatest concern is to keep to my strict diet or sometimes eat even less.

    I would really like to have someone (or some people) to talk to. I can't let them know I've been lying--I wouldn't be able to face their wrath and disappointment.

    Please share your experience or give some advice/motivate me?
    The science (Spoilered as it may sound a little distant or harsh. It's the basic guide to recovery)
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    Just to say I'm a guy so I can't say much about the woman issues apart from a scientific viewpoint, but it gets better. Much better.

    When a woman starves herself her Leptin levels drop. Leptin is a bio-indicator of fat levels. If the Leptin in the system drops too much her body just ups and goes "Hell, this isn't a baby bopping environment! No point for eggs!", i.e. she loses her period. The longer you go without it the higher the risk of DNA damaging BUT you are still within the 'time zone' to be able to recover fully!

    Leptin is a fat based hormone, and you need a certain body fat% to get it back to normal. You will often even have to go up to 10% above your set point to get it back. A faster way to achieve this is having a fat-rich diet, which is often an issue as many ED sufferers get fat-worry issues.

    Now, here is the practical advice. Eat 3000KCal a day until you get to above BMI and your period has returned. Do this and your metabolism won't be stunted post weight gain. Eat a diet RICH in dietary fats


    And now a bit more of a human approach.

    chasingdream, be honest. Be honest with yourself, and honest with others. You, yourself, see that there is an issue. Don't feel worried about asking for help. Stay on top of yourself. You sound like you have a massive apathy towards things at the moment, don't. Find what makes you happy, find what will make you fight.

    Find what you love.
    Find what you hate.
    Find yourself a little. Your quirks. Your quandaries. Your... queeniness(?)

    An eating disorder isn't like any other disease where you just lie there and kinda get better. You have to actively FIGHT.

    And you will be surprised by people. You would expect wrath and disappointment but the most you will see is worry and support. People really don't understand it ("Just drink lots-o cup-a-soups and you'll be fine!" is what I remember.) Just remember there is a support network ready, be it NHS or TSR.
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    i've been doing quite well recently and actually feeling okay with myself. then i had a strange experience with a guy i know on thursday night and it was like it flipped a switch back on and the disorder is back. i have no desire to eat whatsoever. the only time i feel good about myself is when i'm drunk, which has been practically every night over the last few weeks. clearly it's not a great idea to go out drinking on an empty stomach but i just want to have a good time. i still find it hard to believe that i'm back in this cycle yet again and i can't imagine a time when i'll be properly free of it. sorry to be so negative.
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    Just to say I'm a guy so I can't say much about the woman issues apart from a scientific viewpoint, but it gets better. Much better.

    When a woman starves herself her Leptin levels drop. Leptin is a bio-indicator of fat levels. If the Leptin in the system drops too much her body just ups and goes "Hell, this isn't a baby bopping environment! No point for eggs!", i.e. she loses her period. The longer you go without it the higher the risk of DNA damaging BUT you are still within the 'time zone' to be able to recover fully!

    Leptin is a fat based hormone, and you need a certain body fat% to get it back to normal. You will often even have to go up to 10% above your set point to get it back. A faster way to achieve this is having a fat-rich diet, which is often an issue as many ED sufferers get fat-worry issues.

    Now, here is the practical advice. Eat 3000KCal a day until you get to above BMI and your period has returned. Do this and your metabolism won't be stunted post weight gain. Eat a diet RICH in dietary fats


    And now a bit more of a human approach.

    chasingdream, be honest. Be honest with yourself, and honest with others. You, yourself, see that there is an issue. Don't feel worried about asking for help. Stay on top of yourself. You sound like you have a massive apathy towards things at the moment, don't. Find what makes you happy, find what will make you fight.

    Find what you love.
    Find what you hate.
    Find yourself a little. Your quirks. Your quandaries. Your... queeniness(?)

    An eating disorder isn't like any other disease where you just lie there and kinda get better. You have to actively FIGHT.

    And you will be surprised by people. You would expect wrath and disappointment but the most you will see is worry and support. People really don't understand it ("Just drink lots-o cup-a-soups and you'll be fine!" is what I remember.) Just remember there is a support network ready, be it NHS or TSR.
    Thanks, Antiaris. I know I have to fight my anorexia--it seems like a close, faithful (the irony!) ally when all it offers is to destroy my life. I need to help myself, and perhaps get counselling in uni. But I really can't let my parents know I've been deceiving them. It's a complicated issue and my situation is not like anyone else's with an eating disorder.

    Regarding the scientific part: Are there ways other than gaining weight that can help restore periods? I probably have to regain some weight, but I can't deal with loads of it. It would be very helpful if I could get my periods back by gaining a relatively small amount of weight and by other complementary means, as a starting point of my recovery. My mental state is not very good and the thought of having to gain even 1 pound is daunting. I need to begin with a smaller step and recover gradually.
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    Lent's getting tricky, bit of a more pessimistic post than last time and I'm falling back into the cycle. Now I'm having a guilty moment. Does anyone ever get guilty for having not recovered, or not recovering "quick" enough?
    Recently if I have smaller portions I start getting guilty about not being the same me with the same appetite:
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    Just now, cheese salad sandwich for lunch made by my Mum as a gesture. Me, silly sat. fat worries, this time not scared to eat it but still really guilty-but also guilty I didn't have more (they were only 4 tiny slices, you couldn't really even taste them come to think of it). I don't think I'm scared to eat what I'm given anymore, I think I'm scared of what I'll do after eating them.
    And my rules and beliefs are stupid anyway. Where's the logic in being "healthy" in only having 2 rather than 3 sausages but then adding brown sauce instead? Why is cheese a killer but I'm perfectly fine to go raid the cracker tub and cakes when I know this is worse for me and I'd enjoy the cheese more anyway? In short, why do I honestly think that the "good" and "bad" food mentality is gonna do anything except fuel me into binging? On top of that, why do I have moments where I can go crazy and order anything but others where I just don't want to eat anything?
    It does get very confusing what I'm supposed to be doing when I'm receiving conflicting messages from people. You get my outside family who all seem relieved that I eat like a pack-horse at special occasions, but then basically told to restrain myself with Dad. I know he';s trying to stop me hitting the bloating guilt which ahs caused sleepless nights before but when Dad says you don't need more, you don't need to go for seconds, you've had enough I think I'm taking it the wrong way and it's feeding into my appetite throughout the rest of the week. I'm healthy weight but I can see why they recommend getting above BMI 20 if possible because I'm not sure whether I'm REALLY healthy weight, or just really "skinny-fat" and so underweight really. I still think I have a big pot-belly but at the same time I think it's probably only water-weight and exacerbated by my binging.
    I really don't, do not feel right in this body, I still worry about whether I'm OK to exercise and I'd hate if I can't because I'm finally starting to break the treadmill barrier and basically I don't know whether I should be eating more or less?


    It's like who I am now, certainly the way my body has changed, is someone I feel I don't really like and no-one else likes either. And I do feel like that a little, because I don't really hear much from anyone except my closest friends. But I can understand why they would be distancing themselves right now as I have a habit of turning everyone into my therapist. Or it could just be I'm still taking things the wrong way, I'm going out with some of them tonight
    [Back-Definitely anxiety. I haven't had such a good time without trying in such good and understanding company in too long!]
    I get ridiculously guilty for having not "recovered" considering I don't even have a real eating disorder! I haven't been through anything-and I'm glad of that, but what right do I have to complain then. This counsellor doesn't realise how hard it is for me to stop thinking of my thoughts as being ED or OCD-related.
    Reading back through this I feel like I'm having difficulty trying to re-connect with the real problems and solutions because it's easier to try and solve the impossible food and weight puzzle I've devised to preoccupy myself instead. But it's just that, impossible.
    Anyway, I want to learn to love myself again. That's going to be tough if I can't even accept that I am who I am right now
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    i've been doing quite well recently and actually feeling okay with myself. then i had a strange experience with a guy i know on thursday night and it was like it flipped a switch back on and the disorder is back. i have no desire to eat whatsoever. the only time i feel good about myself is when i'm drunk, which has been practically every night over the last few weeks. clearly it's not a great idea to go out drinking on an empty stomach but i just want to have a good time. i still find it hard to believe that i'm back in this cycle yet again and i can't imagine a time when i'll be properly free of it. sorry to be so negative.
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    No need to apologise. We feel how we feel. I had a bit of a shock when out the other night too over something possibly similar.
    Booze is a great ice-breaker but you've got to remember it does sometimes backfire when we're not in the right frame of mind, and it can be really dangerous for us to drink on empty.
    Hope you're feeling better soon, there's always a way out. It's a game often involving two steps forward, one step back but that's an extra step forward every day x
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    (Original post by Vixen47)
    Does anyone know what measures sixth forms/colleges take when they find out that a pupil has an ED and self harms?

    One of my teachers realised that i had ED habits but not a fully blown/ diagnosed ED whilst i was on a 4 week school trip and did absolutely nothing about it. At the time i was 17 and i'm now 18, and i haven't spoken to her since getting back from the trip which took place last August.

    I don't think they'll do anything unless your ED or SH are very severe, which you say they aren't but that doesn't meant that someone else doesn't think that it's a big problem. I talked to another of my teacher's in school about it and they just spoke it through and referred me to the pastoral care guy and a school counsellor who comes in from outside of school. I think you should find out if you have one, although i've always been too scared to go i really think i should've and it will help. Have your grades been poorer recently?? If so then they might try and get you to tell your parents or let a gp knot, but other than that i can't see why they wouldn't help you and at the same time not tell your parents.

    Good luck!!
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    :hugs: to everyone that is struggling at the moment. I can't give much specific advice i'm afraid because i'm trying hard not to dwell on ED stuff at the moment.

    My situation is great at the moment. Over the past week(ish) i've been eating when i'm hungry, stopping when i'm satisfied and getting a rough balance of fruit and veg, carbs, protein, sugar and fat in my mind for each day without obsessing over calories or weight loss. I don't know how i've managed to gain this control (it was either starve or binge for sooooo long), but I am just praying that it stays. This feeling of freedom is just :woo: ... I can think about food without panic or urgency. A massive thing has been taking my time to think about and prepare what i'm going to eat, and not treating it like some awful decision that i'm going to get wrong. I don't know how this changed.

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    I hadn't weighed myself for about a week and this morning I realised I have lost 2lb. I then went and worked out how much calories I had been consuming and it has been around 1300 per day. This is a massive change from the '300 for a few days, 2000 for a few days' regime and I would have thought that my weight would be stable. (BMR is 1400 for maintenance according to online I think)... and then I realised that my fast walking uphill for 1hr40mins on average each day means that I should increase this. The good thing is i'm just... indifferent about my weight loss.... it hasn't triggered a thing and this morning i'm going to the supermarket because I fancy some salmon and pasta salad, and then muffins for dinner


    I'm sorry if this seems like i'm bragging about feeling well

    + ..... I know it seems obvious now, but I used to refuse to believe that eating well makes you feel... good and healthy and full of energy. I'm also less of a cow to be around now.
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    My situation is great at the moment. Over the past week(ish) i've been eating when i'm hungry, stopping when i'm satisfied and getting a rough balance of fruit and veg, carbs, protein, sugar and fat in my mind for each day without obsessing over calories or weight loss. I don't know how i've managed to gain this control (it was either starve or binge for sooooo long), but I am just praying that it stays. This feeling of freedom is just :woo: ... I can think about food without panic or urgency. A massive thing has been taking my time to think about and prepare what i'm going to eat, and not treating it like some awful decision that i'm going to get wrong. I don't know how this changed.
    So glad to hear that things are getting better I totally know what you mean; when I was getting better and didn't worry, it was crazy but so liberating! It's lovely, isn't it? It doesn't really matter how it's happened. The most important thing is that it has, and long may it continue! When you stop worrying about food and it doesn't take up so much time, you realise how much other stuff you've been neglecting. You realise that there's so much more to life too! Well done x
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    I want to first and foremost apologise for being so unhelpful in the thread as of late, but just recently I've been exceptionally down regarding things.

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    For example, I've not been having LOADS, but I've been having a few beers every night - maybe 2-4 bottles. Just as was mentioned previously, I only seem to feel a sense of liberation when I'm drunken. But I factor in those calories. But especially this past month I've been restricting again; I haven't taken beyond 1500 kcals per day. Even if I take say, 1000 kcals of food in, and up to 500 kcals of beer, I never break that total.

    The strangest thing has happened though. Even though technically this should take me into a calorific deficit I haven't changed weight at all, but I have been getting plumper. My T-shirts feel so tight on me. And just today, I met an aunt I haven't seen in ages and she kept saying over and over, "I can't believe the change in you, your face is so much rounder! Oh, you've filled out so much! I just can't believe how much weight you've gained! it's only been a month since I last saw you!" - even though my actual weight NUMERICALLY hasn't changed, has the alcohol, even on a deficit, fattened me?! Logic seems to be defied left right and centre, but the human body is not a logical creature.


    Much love to everyone. XX
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    What do you guys do when all you can think about is food?
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    It happens at random moments too, at work, when I'm trying to study..etc I just can't help but drift off. Thing is it's always cereal - I'll eventually end up looking up deals, prices, different brand names three, four times a day (if you named a brand, I could probably tell you the price). It's really annoying too since cereal is undoubtedly one of my triggers. Every time I go grocery shopping, I have to force myself to not pick it up and this is ridiculously hard. Sometimes this means going round and round Tesco's, picking up boxes of Jordan's, muesli, Quaker's, you name it and then putting it down once I've seen some sense.

    It doesn't even have to be the ones overloaded with sugar too. I gave in today and bought a bag of muesli with no added sugar (because it was on offer and I was really craving crunchy cereal. I managed to wolf down half a pack of muesli today too - leading me to inevitably throw it up though.


    @Totomimo Could just be increased water retention? Beer is oestrogenic too I think which could have an effect.
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    I want to first and foremost apologise for being so unhelpful in the thread as of late, but just recently I've been exceptionally down regarding things.

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    For example, I've not been having LOADS, but I've been having a few beers every night - maybe 2-4 bottles. Just as was mentioned previously, I only seem to feel a sense of liberation when I'm drunken. But I factor in those calories. But especially this past month I've been restricting again; I haven't taken beyond 1500 kcals per day. Even if I take say, 1000 kcals of food in, and up to 500 kcals of beer, I never break that total.

    The strangest thing has happened though. Even though technically this should take me into a calorific deficit I haven't changed weight at all, but I have been getting plumper. My T-shirts feel so tight on me. And just today, I met an aunt I haven't seen in ages and she kept saying over and over, "I can't believe the change in you, your face is so much rounder! Oh, you've filled out so much! I just can't believe how much weight you've gained! it's only been a month since I last saw you!" - even though my actual weight NUMERICALLY hasn't changed, has the alcohol, even on a deficit, fattened me?! Logic seems to be defied left right and centre, but the human body is not a logical creature.


    Much love to everyone. XX
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    Could be that the alcohol has affected it as you say, have you changed your exercise habits recently? Or it could be that since you're restricting again your body is hanging onto fat and storing anything you do consume immediately as fat so your BF% doesn't go too low
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    (Original post by TotoMimo)
    I want to first and foremost apologise for being so unhelpful in the thread as of late, but just recently I've been exceptionally down regarding things.

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    For example, I've not been having LOADS, but I've been having a few beers every night - maybe 2-4 bottles. Just as was mentioned previously, I only seem to feel a sense of liberation when I'm drunken. But I factor in those calories. But especially this past month I've been restricting again; I haven't taken beyond 1500 kcals per day. Even if I take say, 1000 kcals of food in, and up to 500 kcals of beer, I never break that total.

    The strangest thing has happened though. Even though technically this should take me into a calorific deficit I haven't changed weight at all, but I have been getting plumper. My T-shirts feel so tight on me. And just today, I met an aunt I haven't seen in ages and she kept saying over and over, "I can't believe the change in you, your face is so much rounder! Oh, you've filled out so much! I just can't believe how much weight you've gained! it's only been a month since I last saw you!" - even though my actual weight NUMERICALLY hasn't changed, has the alcohol, even on a deficit, fattened me?! Logic seems to be defied left right and centre, but the human body is not a logical creature.


    Much love to everyone. XX
    HUGGINGGG. I've no idea about the alcohol malarky, but maybe it makes you hold onto more water or something bizarre.
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    (Original post by Vixen47)
    Does anyone know what measures sixth forms/colleges take when they find out that a pupil has an ED and self harms?

    I'm considering going to see my sixth form's counsellor (if we have one =S) but I'm scared of what they might do once they find out. I don't want them to tell my family (I'm 17 if that changes anything) because my family really don't give a **** but I don't want the school to know this.

    Neither ED or my self harming are very severe but I think that if I haven't developed it already, then I might be developing depression as a result.
    Hi there,
    I am also 17 and I have EDNOS (only because I'm still too fat to be called anorexic :nothing:) and self harm. I realised I had a problem so I went to see my school counsellor in complete confidentiality - my teachers don't know, and neither do my friends or parents, but I can still get help for it. You probably have a similar system at your school too and I really do recommend help even if it's not severe now, because it can get quickly out of control. Like I used to not severely self-harm and then last week it was too painful to wear jeans because I'd torn up my legs, hips and stomach so much ¬¬ Moral of the story, you can get help from school counsellors without the other parts of the school knowing and you definitely should do it asap.
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    (Original post by Etoile)
    Hi there,
    I am also 17 and I have EDNOS (only because I'm still too fat to be called anorexic :nothing:) and self harm. I realised I had a problem so I went to see my school counsellor in complete confidentiality - my teachers don't know, and neither do my friends or parents, but I can still get help for it. You probably have a similar system at your school too and I really do recommend help even if it's not severe now, because it can get quickly out of control. Like I used to not severely self-harm and then last week it was too painful to wear jeans because I'd torn up my legs, hips and stomach so much ¬¬ Moral of the story, you can get help from school counsellors without the other parts of the school knowing and you definitely should do it asap.
    E, that upsets me. You're too bloody clever to shred you arms and legs to ribbons and starve yourself. I swear the only reson I've realised i have the human dictionary party trick and that the AS and some of the A2 grammar has suddenly clicked is because its been just over 2 years since I stopped trying to survive off 600 calories a day. Yes I sometimes SI - made an absolute mess of my arm last week. I shouldnt pull at my skin when I'm fustrated, I still bruise like hell. Sice as I've quoted you, which verb needs to change to show you're reporting what someones said in german? I'm currently gawping at a sentense with 3 verbs in...
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    E, that upsets me. You're too bloody clever to shred you arms and legs to ribbons and starve yourself. I swear the only reson I've realised i have the human dictionary party trick and that the AS and some of the A2 grammar has suddenly clicked is because its been just over 2 years since I stopped trying to survive off 600 calories a day. Yes I sometimes SI - made an absolute mess of my arm last week. I shouldnt pull at my skin when I'm fustrated, I still bruise like hell. Sice as I've quoted you, which verb needs to change to show you're reporting what someones said in german? I'm currently gawping at a sentense with 3 verbs in...
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    So are you! That's a great achievement, well done Wow, if it's been two years you must have started so young
    As for the verb, can you give me the sentence? You'd need to know the context to be sure.
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    So are you! That's a great achievement, well done Wow, if it's been two years you must have started so young
    As for the verb, can you give me the sentence? You'd need to know the context to be sure.
    yup. I did. skipping lunch by year 8 because I felt like **** about myself, really funny with food by easter of year nine. Nearly passed out during my lunch break at one point. Yet would only ever have been diagnosed with EDNOS.

    Es bedeutet eigentlich du ein klassischer Musiker werden muss. Du kannst das nicht verwichsen. 'It basically means you must become a classical musician. you can't waste it' [talking about the fact she has perfect pitch]
 
 
 
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