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    (Original post by TotoMimo)
    This weekend at the stag weekend I have adhered to the "Mimic Therapy". Who else has? I've eaten venison, sandwiches... Egg on toast. My comfort zones have been tested and I've never been more happy.

    I've been normal for three days. I am ecstatic. I am free. No scales, no regulation, only mimicking my fellow normie!

    Who else tried the mimic therapy this weekend? Xx
    I would have done, if any of my flatmates had a diet i could mimic, and if i werent so ill i feel i could potentially throw my lungs up.
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    (Original post by Cinnie)
    Me I threw what I thought I was going to be eating out of the window and just did what everyone else was doing. I wouldn't even have eaten rice with my food. I thought of it as just extra calories, but just thought who cares, nice to have a change

    So happy for you toto
    Cinnie, INCREDIBLE! How did you feel, matching like for like? Knowing this is not off, weird, mad... It's what normal is! Using a normal mind to lead you back to true sanity?

    I'm so happy you managed it sweetpea. You're an inspiration to all struggling people here xxx
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    (Original post by TotoMimo)
    This weekend at the stag weekend I have adhered to the "Mimic Therapy". Who else has? I've eaten venison, sandwiches... Egg on toast. My comfort zones have been tested and I've never been more happy.

    I've been normal for three days. I am ecstatic. I am free. No scales, no regulation, only mimicking my fellow normie!

    Who else tried the mimic therapy this weekend? Xx
    I didn't do the mimic thing but I went to the annual Exeter Food and Drink Festival. The food was incredible and there were free samples everywhere. I indulged but not overly so and I didn't feel remotely fat or guilty afterwards! I know I've been recovered but sometimes days like this can still be hard. I'm glad I've done this though because I will remember the day as a day full of fun and good memories. x
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    (Original post by jazzykinks)
    I didn't do the mimic thing but I went to the annual Exeter Food and Drink Festival. The food was incredible and there were free samples everywhere. I indulged but not overly so and I didn't feel remotely fat or guilty afterwards! I know I've been recovered but sometimes days like this can still be hard. I'm glad I've done this though because I will remember the day as a day full of fun and good memories. x
    PRSOM! Grrr!

    But, WOW!! Well done you!! Glad you had a great day
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    I'm sort of forced to do the Mimic thing every night because I'm lucky to have Mum cook my dinner, although it's scary too not always knowing.
    Tonight it's quite a tricky one (involves chips and fried rice which I haven't eaten since this started) but I'm going to give it a go

    Oh I had McDonalds before this Metallica tribute band I saw. Chicken Legend and even the chips plus once I was in there who cares what I ate, the music was mind-blowing! I got fed and I saw the best James Hetfield impression this side of the Atlantic :P

    High-five to everyone who fought their fears this weekend
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    (Original post by Riku)
    I'm sort of forced to do the Mimic thing every night because I'm lucky to have Mum cook my dinner, although it's scary too not always knowing.
    Tonight it's quite a tricky one (involves chips and fried rice which I haven't eaten since this started) but I'm going to give it a go

    Oh I had McDonalds before this Metallica tribute band I saw. Chicken Legend and even the chips plus once I was in there who cares what I ate, the music was mind-blowing! I got fed and I saw the best James Hetfield impression this side of the Atlantic :P

    High-five to everyone who fought their fears this weekend
    Well done you! Glad you had a great time
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    So I went to do the mimic method, and failed horribly because we went to the boyfriend's parents for a bbq and had a lot to drink, and then he was hungover this morning and there was rolls and bacon, crisps etc.
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    I went down to a day at the sea in Dawlish on Saturday with two friends, and basically made myself try the mimic thing. I don't regret it! In the places we visited in Dawlish, Cockwood and Starcross there was nowhere where I could buy any of my 'safe' options, so I just decided to follow what my friends, who are both are a healthy weight, were having. Having fish and chips with them for lunch at the seaside just helped me feel like a normal human being again! The beach is not the place for salad and vegetables!

    Thanks for suggesting it Toto . I just wish I had the confidence to do it more often I'll have to try and work on it .
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    I am overwhelmed by the amount of success stories from the "Mimic Method" this weekend. This takes incredible strength of character and real DESIRE to be well again to undertake.

    I'm not asking anyone to pretend to be someone they're not; merely use a peer, a healthy person, as a gauge to normality. Normal people have a takeaway now and again. Normal people put a wee dod of butter on a baked potato. Normal people fancy a packet of crisps, or an apple, or a sandwich. You just see what they do, and mimic it, and if you enjoy it, you latently want to have that life back again.

    I understand that people find this technique overwhelming and failed this weekend, but this is why I state you should choose a day, one random day, and stick to it, every week. A day you know someone will be available.

    Unlike many therapies that require you to mirror ONE behaviour, this one asks if possible, you choose different people to mimic. So one week, your best pal, next week, your mum, next week, an old uni pal, and so forth. It helps your mind create a subconscious average. This shouldn't be misconstrued as a "treat day". It's more like a "normality day". Every other day is below the normal, and this day IS the normal. Get it?

    After an entire three days of madness, I can clearly say that my own mimic Stag Weekend was clearly not standard normal, but I endeavoured to not choose the garden salad on our trip to McDonalds on the road to the Highlands, and I didn't order a cup of tea whilst they ate their eggs on toast in the Bistro.

    Each day I chose a different person to mimic. The first day, it was my friend from Uni I was travelling to the highland venue with. We stopped at McDonalds and I had a cheeseburger and chicken bites. Then when we finally got there at 6ish, I had a lovely fillet of venison with veg and mustard mash, then proceeded to drink until the wee hours and eat crisps almost one for one.

    The second day I copied the stag's father, a slightly older guy. He had poached egg on toast for breakfast, and so did I. He had coffee, I had tea (same deal, really; i hate coffee!). Then in the afternoon we did archery, got some sandwiches and tea, then did some lazer tag. Then we proceeded to slam the (reasonably healthy til now) day in the backside and go out on the town, had many, many beers, and then we had Chinese (I had stirfry fish and broccoli), then we wound the night down in the wooden highland cabin with brandy and a big bowl of pretzels between us.

    On the third day, I went for a big long walk to Kinloss (3 miles or so) with the stag to brush off the ol' hangover, had some tea there, and some cereal. I got an apple to take with me, and we ate our fruit in the car. After packing it all away, we drove down, dropped some people off in Dundee, then decided to stop off in Pizza Hut and I had a 500-cal Shrimply Delicious Pizzetta, and the last of us went to Tesco for a sweet as we were all low on money. Everyone seemed to think the 5-pack of bakery cookies was the way forward! We shared ten out between four of us for the duration of the trip, and when I got home, I had a cuppa, and BED!

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    This morning, I got a massive shock when I stepped on the scales and saw I'd gained four full pounds, but I know for a fact I'd taken in less than 3300-3500 surplus calories. The last time I ate and drank an insane amount, I lost two pounds the day following it though, and I can often tell if I'm bloated as my ring on my finger feels tight, and nobody just gets fat in the fingers!

    The weirdest thing though. I used to think "OH GOD, UP HALF A POUND, PUNISHMENT TIME!" and spend the next three days starving. But this time, I thought, "Are the guys doing this? Standing on a scale and flipping out? No, they're going to work with a crapload of anecdotes and a smile on their faces." And then I started looking at the number. Eight Stones and Six Pounds. When I left, it was Eight Stones two and a half. And yet, I had that initial death dread, the one where my life saps from my face and I want to cry. But then I stopped, and thought hard about it. This is what my body needed. This is absolutely what my body needed. Why am I purposely stifling THAT level of happiness for the sake of this number? This number that arbitrarily controls me?! It's a goddamned number. How many of you that were successful on your mimic day felt more life than you've felt in months? I sure as hell did. I want that again and I WILL have another mimic day this week. Maybe I'll have anorexic-thought days in between, sure, but I will not, by any circumstance, disregard this feeling that made me so happy.


    If you inherently WANT to be better, this feeling is the greatest in the world. Elation like when you were a child, freedom, pride. It's something I cannot explain, but something I want to experience again soon.
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    And once again, Toto's post has turned me into an over-emotional mess, brimming with pride and happiness for someone who I've never even met. Incredible work dude, so so so glad you had such a great weekend.
    And it's awesome that you're happiness is more important to you than the number... I often forget that that's even possible.
    Again, very inspiring! And it's been great to hear about everyone else doing really well over the weekend too, following your idea

    I didn't do quite as well, but not too badly either. Looking forward to getting exams out of the way so I can really focus on moving forward!
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    Toto, I am so SO proud of you!
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    Toto, I would rep you, but it isn't allowing me too at the moment I'm incredibly proud of you, and I'm so happy for you fella
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    (Original post by TotoMimo)
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    This morning, I got a massive shock when I stepped on the scales and saw I'd gained four full pounds, but I know for a fact I'd taken in less than 3300-3500 surplus calories. The last time I ate and drank an insane amount, I lost two pounds the day following it though, and I can often tell if I'm bloated as my ring on my finger feels tight, and nobody just gets fat in the fingers!

    The weirdest thing though. I used to think "OH GOD, UP HALF A POUND, PUNISHMENT TIME!" and spend the next three days starving. But this time, I thought, "Are the guys doing this? Standing on a scale and flipping out? No, they're going to work with a crapload of anecdotes and a smile on their faces." And then I started looking at the number. Eight Stones and Six Pounds. When I left, it was Eight Stones two and a half. And yet, I had that initial death dread, the one where my life saps from my face and I want to cry. But then I stopped, and thought hard about it. This is what my body needed. This is absolutely what my body needed. Why am I purposely stifling THAT level of happiness for the sake of this number? This number that arbitrarily controls me?! It's a goddamned number. How many of you that were successful on your mimic day felt more life than you've felt in months? I sure as hell did. I want that again and I WILL have another mimic day this week. Maybe I'll have anorexic-thought days in between, sure, but I will not, by any circumstance, disregard this feeling that made me so happy.
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    I've put on 2 kgs in 2 months and I feel so happy. I look really healthy right now and I have fuller curves. Also, I know my number is only going to go up because I'm doing a lot of weight resistance training. The thing is? I couldn't care less. I used to obsess over the numbers when I was anorexic. Now? So long as everything in my wardrobe fits, I really couldn't care less! x
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    (Original post by jazzykinks)
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    I've put on 2 kgs in 2 months and I feel so happy. I look really healthy right now and I have fuller curves. Also, I know my number is only going to go up because I'm doing a lot of weight resistance training. The thing is? I couldn't care less. I used to obsess over the numbers when I was anorexic. Now? So long as everything in my wardrobe fits, I really couldn't care less! x
    Proud of you Have to say, one of my motivators for reaching and maintaining a healthier weight was to have a nice pair of jeans that actually fit!
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    (Original post by jazzykinks)
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    I've put on 2 kgs in 2 months and I feel so happy. I look really healthy right now and I have fuller curves. Also, I know my number is only going to go up because I'm doing a lot of weight resistance training. The thing is? I couldn't care less. I used to obsess over the numbers when I was anorexic. Now? So long as everything in my wardrobe fits, I really couldn't care less! x
    I bet you look better than ever! It was a guy at work who said to me once "all skinny girls should eat and go to the gym, there is nothing hotter than a girl with toned legs. Oh, and do lots of squats. Appreciating the squats." He was joking (kind of) and it made me laugh but the essence of what he said is true, it's a lot more attractive to have a body that's CARED for and not NEGLECTED.
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    So I made a thread in Sexual Health about this but I'm going to talk here too, because I feel like you guys understand more, maybe.

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    This was essentially the jist of it - My relapse has made me miss 7 pills this month.

    When I say relapse I literally am so anxious I cannot remember what I ate when I binge/if I ate that day, I cannot remember what I've done sometimes, I've been blacking out the last few hours of the day. I've been crying because I can't remember stuff and getting so confused etc. I know I've messed up and I don't need people to preach that (this isn't just carelessness, it's a mental disorder), I just want to know how 'likely' it is that I could be pregnant.

    I began my pills (Microgynon 30) on the 12th April and it's only now I've realised what may have happened because I've been in a completely unstable mental state and not focused on anything other than my disordered view of eating, food, weight and the anxiety it causes.

    As I said, I started the pill on the 12th. I then missed one pill on the 13th as I was ill, then I missed two pills in a row on the 17th and 18th (so three in the first week), and then other ones on the 23rd, 25th and then two in a row on the 26th and 27th (the second and third weeks really).
    Me and my boyfriend did have unprotected sex each weekend (when I see him), so the 13th and 14th, 20th and 21st and the 27th and 28th.

    I've probably messed up, massively, and I plan on taking a pregnancy test if/when my period is late to double check.

    Although that's no excuse, it's the worst relapse I've had since getting on the pill a year ago and the first mistake I've made - I blame dissertation stress, personal issues, getting a job stress etc but I plan on manning up to my mistake (if any) and dealing with it as opposed to burying my head in the sand.

    I am so anxious and it's just sent me way over the edge tonight. Cannot deal with this at all.

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    I agree. My younger sister is 16 and a gymnast - mega toned, muscly, absolutely gorgeous and weighs more than me. If I could look like her, I would be one happy girl
    I swear I have no muscle at the moment. Sad times when your legs ache from walking up 3 flights of stairs...
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    (Original post by rubixcyoob)
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    Stress may make your period late and get you even more worried, so try and relax. There is only a small chance that you could get pregnant, so see a family planning doctor when you can and go with someone who can support you.

    You can PM me any time as I have some personal experience with unplanned pregnancy :jumphug: Please don't be hard on yourself, you've been struggling massively lately and it's not your fault.

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    (Original post by Gnome :))
    Proud of you Have to say, one of my motivators for reaching and maintaining a healthier weight was to have a nice pair of jeans that actually fit!
    Hun, I cannot tell you how nice it is to have my curves on show in tight jeans. Before, my jeans were just hanging off my bum, now they fit as they should! It's a good motivation to have and I feel so womanly and strong. My weight gain has been a little of the fat (it's strange but if I eat creamy and oily things, it always goes to my boobs and bum) but mostly muscle because I've been pumping the weights! x


    (Original post by MelissaJayne)
    I bet you look better than ever! It was a guy at work who said to me once "all skinny girls should eat and go to the gym, there is nothing hotter than a girl with toned legs. Oh, and do lots of squats. Appreciating the squats." He was joking (kind of) and it made me laugh but the essence of what he said is true, it's a lot more attractive to have a body that's CARED for and not NEGLECTED.
    To be honest, I DO look better than ever. This is the heaviest I have been in 3 years AND I LOVE IT. I look so healthy and strong. I look womanly. I feel strong and amazing. I also feel extremely confident. I care for my body. I nourish it with good things and the weekly treat but I work out. You CAN have a lovely, thin but strong body. All it takes is moderation of every kind and inner strength to continue. I feel so good right now. I never thought I'd be happy with my body, even after the anorexia -- I still suffered from BDD. But now? I don't have a perfect body. Perfection is not achievable. But if someone asked me to strut my stuff in a bikini, I'd rip my clothes off and take a stride of pride! x
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    (Original post by Cinnie)
    ^ That was me
    Thank you x

    I still have this week before the pill strip even finishes, and the wait is the worst part as either way, it's still too early for me to do anything to find out really.
 
 
 
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