Original post by TotoMimoIt's not about deserving or not deserving, it's about finding why you are mentally disordered and trying to help it. This thread is not a pat on the back, "there there!" kind of thread. I spend a huge amount of my time in analysis of these issues.
Okay, I've put out a few exercises and whatnot to the sufferers here with mixed success; a fortnight ago I suggested the "Mimic Technique" which asks you to shadow someone and mimic their eating habits, forcing the control away from you. But this also asks that you identify your eating disorder as a control switch. Some people do not instantly make this connection, and in your instance, it's more like an entity, a presence.
Some people talk about Eating Disorders and mental compulsions as another person, being, or presence. "It tells me to do X". "It", "He", whatever - your Eating Disorder is not another person or spirit, but this is a coping mechanism to absolve you of the choices it makes. For example, "My Eating Disorder won't let me eat a cookie when the whole class does". This makes your Eating Disorder a voice of authority; a parental figure. It assumes you require parental discipline or crave that kind of presence, to regulate your behaviours. Sometimes you'll hear ED sufferers saying the ED says, "Go on, you've messed today up anyway, just eat the entire cake". This means you've given the ED the position of peer, who pressurises you to prove yourself in your own particular age and behaviour bracket. It probably reveals a dearth of friends your own age, that you find it difficult to make new friends.
There is ALWAYS a reason. So today, I want everyone to consider what their ED says to them, if it is this form of ED. If it acts like an authoritative figure like a parent - I want you to step into the shoes of ED. This is going to get a bit complicated so please listen carefully.
In this exercise, I want you to make a mental log of each time you face an ED obstacle today. Whatever your ED says to you, imagine you are telling to a mirror version. So if, for example, your ED talks to you like a son or daughter, imagine you have a son or daughter and tell it the exact same thing.
So, for example, if the ED says "Hey, stop that. You can only eat a green salad!" When you're at McDonalds and everyone else is getting a burger, imagine how you feel. Now try telling your own "daughter" - "No, you CAN'T have a hamburger/happy meal. You can have lettuce."
Think of how it reflects, how it resonates.
"I'm so desperate for chocolate, but I can only eat one square."
"Mummy, can I have chocolate? I haven't had chocolate in so, so long."
"You can have one bite, but throw the rest away, and run on a treadmill for an hour, then."
You see how the ED is projected in your mind, and the LEVEL of the disorder you have, in this exercise. How out of order it REALLY is. If your ED is a restrictive parent, if your ED is a punishing Stepmother, if your ED is your Party Animal Best Bud - you will see your ED for what it really is, and the levels it's pushing you.
Perhaps in this exercise you can realise how far you've gone, and how much is there to improve. Because if you imagine if you imposed the ED's bidding on someone in similar shoes, you soon understand how cruel and unreasonable it is.