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    I have seriously reached a peak. I can't do this anymore, as much as I want to I can't recover on my own... I finally accept I'm going to need help.
    Basically since starting sixth form my weight has been dropping, and my BMI's now around 12. I've relapsed all the way back to my lowest weight, and it's happening again. I'm trapped under a restriction of around 400-500 cals, and even that feels too much.
    After countless of hospital appointments, all of my bloods and results are miraculously coming back fine - so they have no basis for immediate hospital admission.

    Cognitively everything's a blur. Anorexia numbs everything, time becomes skewed; my thoughts are obsessive and erratic. I can't think straight, I can't think at all. On top of that - I'm tired. Mentally and physically I can't cope anymore.
    I got prescribed olanzipine for the obsessive thoughts but haven't been taking it. I'm too scared of the side effect - weight gain. And that's stopping me from taking it

    I have a review meeting with the eating disorder services on Thursday. As well as that, I've got a paediatric hospital appointment afterwards. The likelihood is there will be two options:
    1. Paediatric admission to a medical ward. Two weeks of refeeding(but then what?)
    2. A second admission to the adolescent MH ward for three months. Expected to reach a healthy weight.
    The third option is either getting discharged from services, or getting sectioned. But I know that I would agree to IP if I had to.

    I don't know what to do. I have to wait until Thursday, but I'm scared. I haven't gone into sixth form today because I just can't cope. It's freezing there, I can't concentrate and I fall asleep all the time.
    I'm really worried about falling behind with work. I've already missed a couple of days... My dad keeps telling me to go in so I don't miss anything, but I can't continue going in anymore. I might email the administrator and ask for the work to be sent back for now. And then I guess I'll just have to wait until Thursday.

    I'm hoping they'll admit me, because I can't change anything on my own. I would admit myself now if I could. I just want it to stop, to snap my fingers and be a healthy weight... Sixth form has made me realise that there is a chance to have a life out of anorexia. I'm just trapped at the moment and need a boost.

    Paediatric admission or longterm IP? The paediatric admission is kind of used as a medical boost, actually getting food into me... I would rather it because it's only two weeks... But then after leaving how will I cope?
    The longterm admission is the option I prefer the least. I discharged myself last time for a reason. It feels like being locked up... and it's for three months. Three whole months. The benefits are that I won't miss education because they have an education department... and of course I'm expected to reach a healthy weight before discharge.
    The downsides are: three months out of school when I've only just started. And I'll return to school a healthy weight. It will look odd. What will people think?

    Sorry if this post is a bit all over the place. I'm seriously panicking at the moment I really need help.
    So sorry to hear you're in this situation. It's not unlike how I was - weight wise I've been in the same place as you, and I know how fuzzy and crazy things can be like that. It really sounds like a long term IP could be a good treatment for you. As you said, there's an education centre there, but even so, school work is not the most important thing right now - it's your health. You don't need me to tell you that, even if your bloods etc. are coming back normal, that you are at a serious risk health wise. You need help, and I don't think a short stay will be enough. A long term IP stay followed by continued support by your treatment team is most likely to help stabilise you and give you a good boost in terms of recovery. I know it's a long time, I know it's scary to think about, but try and take it day by day. I had to go IP when I was like you (would've been sectioned otherwise despite bloods etc. being okay) and it helped me so much more than anything else. It's a jolting change to your life but I tell you what, it gives your ED a massive kick in the teeth, something that was definitely needed for me and it sounds like you too.

    I hope this helped a little. Sending you lots of hugs your way!
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    I started CBT and have had three sessions so far. The question I've tried to start asking myself, should I be challenged/come across something I'm scared of eating, is "does not eating take me further away or closer to my end goal of recovery?". It's a simple but effective method. Today is the first day in a long time I didn't wake up and weigh myself. I haven't been on the scales all day. I really want to get better, I've only been challenged with restricting myself since Christmas and I know some of you have been battling for years. I really don't want that to be the case for me. I start university again tomorrow, moving into a new house with friends I'm close to, whilst still travelling home twice a week for CBT. It'll be hectic and tiring but...does it take me further away or closer to my end goal of recovery? The answer is, of course, "closer to".
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    I've started looking up recipes that look nice and healthy (by healthy I mean balanced and fresh) and made myself a challenge to cook an entire meal from scratch by basing my choice on what LOOKS nice without looking up anything to do with fat/calories. I asked my friend over so that I'd have to eat it; we each cooked different parts of the meal and made something we were proud of and that tasted great.
    My god that was a refreshing thing to do! Challenging, yes, to break out of the same old routine I always have with meals, but what a great feeling to really TASTE something and enjoy every mouthful. I am going to make a habit of doing this once a week--invite a friend round or offer to cook a family meal-- then try and build up so that I can hopefully try and change my attitude to food.
    Fear can't thrive in a positive mindset.
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    Hitting nine and a half stones now puts me at a BMI of 21; making me technically weight-restored as of today!

    So technically - though the kernel of the disorder resides in my mind, giving me doubts, this has been a two-year PHYSICAL recovery journey now reached it's end! Two years of aching, striving, but I am weight-restored... and happier than I've ever been. Though I cannot unlearn the horrid habits, the constant counting, and though my bones are utterly shot (worse than a 90 year old man), I would like to explain it like this -

    All those horrid things I did to myself, the worst parts of the disorder - I've buried them and I have no intention of digging them back up. It's just right now, I return now and again to visit the grave!

    In time, I'll learn to live without visiting that headstone to make myself remember those things; they can do nothing positive for me now.

    Onwards and upwards for all of you!!
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    Hitting nine and a half stones now puts me at a BMI of 21; making me technically weight-restored as of today!

    So technically - though the kernel of the disorder resides in my mind, giving me doubts, this has been a two-year PHYSICAL recovery journey now reached it's end! Two years of aching, striving, but I am weight-restored... and happier than I've ever been. Though I cannot unlearn the horrid habits, the constant counting, and though my bones are utterly shot (worse than a 90 year old man), I would like to explain it like this -

    All those horrid things I did to myself, the worst parts of the disorder - I've buried them and I have no intention of digging them back up. It's just right now, I return now and again to visit the grave!

    In time, I'll learn to live without visiting that headstone to make myself remember those things; they can do nothing positive for me now.

    Onwards and upwards for all of you!!
    PRSOM... I am so proud of you toto :')
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    Proud of you Toto!

    I have my induction day for uni tomorrow and honestly, I think the best thing I did was deciding to stay in London. I've been *gasp* going out to society meets, I'm trying out for roller derby on Wednesday, possibly auditioning for Rent and I just feel really optimistic. My course looks great, I've met some cool people and I don't feel anywhere near as nervous and distanced as I did when I started university away from home even though I'm not living in halls and I'm older than the majority of people I meet. I'm excited and even though I'm getting a little stressed about money already, I'm glad I made the choice I did. Living at home is hard and I'm definitely going to move out next year but I feel less at sea because I'm not entirely by myself. Regarding the ED, it's still there and still difficult but I'm doing things now I couldn't even do last year, like going to a group picnic and eating a little and not even thinking about skipping it because of the food because I knew it was more about the social side. That would have been unthinkable just a little while ago. I think my scales' battery running out has made a world of difference. I still desperately want to get new ones but at the same time, I don't want to invest time and money in something that makes me so so unhappy. I just want to figure myself out and learn and have fun and feel like a 'normal' 21 year old.

    Eating is still hard though, I'm not sure how to plan my meals when I can never figure out what to eat and I need things that taste good cold and I know I'm not eating enough to make up for all the things I'm doing and I don't really know how to eat anymore than I am because I'm not hungry. Any ideas?


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    Proud of you Toto!


    Eating is still hard though, I'm not sure how to plan my meals when I can never figure out what to eat and I need things that taste good cold and I know I'm not eating enough to make up for all the things I'm doing and I don't really know how to eat anymore than I am because I'm not hungry. Any ideas?


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    Thanks for all the support my bestest buds, you guys rock the socks like an Octorok.

    In terms of eating - the problem is for about 75% of your recovery period you've placed a mental block on the sensation of hunger. You feel it, but you don't associate it with being hungry. That's why every anorexic/bulimic says "but I'm never hungry" - you ARE hungry, you're STARVING, but you've associated that sensation with a separate mindset.

    What it boils down to is that you must set aside specific times to eat, regardless of whether or not you think you "feel hungry". A regular person would feel the little kick of hunger beating on their tum and grab a sandwich, whilst an ED mindset would plough through it, subconsciously subverting it. "Why am I never hungry?!" - your tummy's got call divert on.

    I would sincerely suggest you go with the likes of gazpacho, pasta salads and sandwiches for cold meals. In each you can have a carbohydrate, protein and vitamin-based foodstuff in a fairly condensed manner; try things like avocado, salmon, tuna, chicken, eggs, brown bread, cooked pasta, brown rice, sweetcorn, carrots, spinach; different combos of these little gems are great when hot or cold.
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    Things with ED have got a lot worse since moving to uni :/

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    No food in flat, very restrictive, on bottom floor and so free to workout all through the night with no one hearing. no mirrors and no scales which could have been good but instead has just convinced me i'm piling on weight. don't know what to do.
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    Things with ED have got a lot worse since moving to uni :/

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    No food in flat, very restrictive, on bottom floor and so free to workout all through the night with no one hearing. no mirrors and no scales which could have been good but instead has just convinced me i'm piling on weight. don't know what to do.
    Ask yourself what you're doing. "What the hell am I doing to myself?!" -Take a good DAY out to think about it. Not an hour, nor a few - think about it for an entire day. What I want you to do it think about why you are isolating yourself from the world to hurt yourself in a realm of deprivation and pain.

    Do you consider yourself inadequate? Not good enough? Why would you think this way? Why would you quantify yourself in this manner? Why do you choose a number of reps? Why do you feel it's important to keep a "secret" world? Why?!

    I had to do this at one point, and initially I thought the world was stupid for not thinking as I do. But when i'd spent more time thinking about it... I was just killing myself for no reason, and no friends could understand it. Though I eventually opened up to peers, I asked what they thought of my rationale. Their response was "it seems like you wanted to just exercise in secret so nobody could know". And with this respsonse, I started to understand, that WAS true. What the hell was the point?! Secret, hidden exercise?! I was the same as someone who hid any kind of pasttime. I was nothing more than a recluse with a secret. What glory or fun is there in that?!

    If you make yourself do 1000 situps a day or watch 10 Dr Who episodes a day, who is more nerdy?! Well, let's face it - both are dedicated, both are faultless, both have exceptional amounts of excuses for their actions. The problem is that the former will try to make any person on the outside think that they are justified. If you do not have that level of obsession, the neurosis is completely unjustifiable.
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    (Original post by TotoMimo)
    Hitting nine and a half stones now puts me at a BMI of 21; making me technically weight-restored as of today!

    So technically - though the kernel of the disorder resides in my mind, giving me doubts, this has been a two-year PHYSICAL recovery journey now reached it's end! Two years of aching, striving, but I am weight-restored... and happier than I've ever been. Though I cannot unlearn the horrid habits, the constant counting, and though my bones are utterly shot (worse than a 90 year old man), I would like to explain it like this -

    All those horrid things I did to myself, the worst parts of the disorder - I've buried them and I have no intention of digging them back up. It's just right now, I return now and again to visit the grave!

    In time, I'll learn to live without visiting that headstone to make myself remember those things; they can do nothing positive for me now.

    Onwards and upwards for all of you!!
    You have helped me more than you'll ever know Tommy. I don't know you in any capacity (aside from TSR of course) but I feel like I'm brimming with pride for how you've progressed and the wisdom you provide to this thread.

    Life is for living! I truly feel you've contributed to that statement with the evidence of your own experiences and your insight into the workings of this terrible disease.

    Thank you
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    Oh Hun I know what it's like to want to snap your fingers and everything be ok.
    My main advise is that you need to start to trust. The fact is that everyone who has fully recovered from their ed is so glad that they have, and you will be no different. You are not an exception - everybody needs a healthy body, everyone needs to feed their body and you are no different no matter what the voice says.

    Treatment is the only option - deep down you do not want a life like this. You don't want to be one of the 20% and you don't have to. Trust the people around you, because at this bmi your mind is not functioning well enough to rationalise things properly.

    You will take the time out to get better and when you return back to school (which is no pressure, you can go back whenever you are ready) people will just be happy to have you back. You will have more energy, colour in your skin, and a smile and that is all that people notice. Trust me.

    Xx

    There may be a reason why you choose to be mistrustful. You may have grown up in a family where there were no boundaries. Life feels overwhelming. You need to 'keep it out' somehow. You need more definition, appropriate assertiveness, social boundaries and you will not keep looking for things that give you a false sense of safety. You will not need behavioural extremes.
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    Anyone got any tips on how to stay on track when they hit that "point" in weight gain when it starts getting uncomfortable? I'm at the weight I tend to get to before I slip again only this time I do NOT want to let it happen! New year at uni, MA to study for, am almost 23 now and I want to finally get through this recovery thing.
    I'm finding it quite difficult feeling my clothes get tighter and am avoiding the mirror at the moment.
    Just need some tips on boosting confidence to keep me on track for those who have got through this in recovery!
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    (Original post by TotoMimo)
    Hitting nine and a half stones now puts me at a BMI of 21; making me technically weight-restored as of today!

    So technically - though the kernel of the disorder resides in my mind, giving me doubts, this has been a two-year PHYSICAL recovery journey now reached it's end! Two years of aching, striving, but I am weight-restored... and happier than I've ever been. Though I cannot unlearn the horrid habits, the constant counting, and though my bones are utterly shot (worse than a 90 year old man), I would like to explain it like this -

    All those horrid things I did to myself, the worst parts of the disorder - I've buried them and I have no intention of digging them back up. It's just right now, I return now and again to visit the grave!

    In time, I'll learn to live without visiting that headstone to make myself remember those things; they can do nothing positive for me now.

    Onwards and upwards for all of you!!
    Fantastic!! So many people are proud of you!
    Okay, with regards to my last post, this has been a great example of making it all worth it through the difficult road that is recovery.
    You're a great role model to a lot of people!
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    Anyone got any tips on how to stay on track when they hit that "point" in weight gain when it starts getting uncomfortable? I'm at the weight I tend to get to before I slip again only this time I do NOT want to let it happen! New year at uni, MA to study for, am almost 23 now and I want to finally get through this recovery thing.
    I'm finding it quite difficult feeling my clothes get tighter and am avoiding the mirror at the moment.
    Just need some tips on boosting confidence to keep me on track for those who have got through this in recovery!
    To be honest, there is little point in expecting anything to start improving in terms of body image until you are at your true weight. When I was gaining the thing that helped me was to wear comfortable clothes and just trust that I may not like my body, but that is a good compromise for getting my life back.

    When you are at a healthy weight, mirror confrontation is good. Looking at yourself in the mirror and listing the things that you like and dislike about your appearance and getting it our of your system and then walking away and listing the things that you like about yourself as a person.

    As you know, though, it's not really about weight. You are projecting all of the negative feelings through your dissatisfaction with your body when in fact your body is a neutral thing. It's just a vessel that allows you to do everything you want to do in life. The best bet is to keep putting everything into rational perspective. Xxx
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    I'm gonna take a very rare moment to feel a bit of pride in myself (an emotion that's very alien to me!) because I've been eating properly for a whole week without restricting! I put on a little bit of weight and didn't have a breakdown!

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    I still count calories religiously, but that's more for monitoring purposes than restriction - I've given myself a limit of 1,700, which I feel is very generous, and as long as I'm below that I'm happy


    Oh and Toto - congrats! That's amazing news! I'm so happy for you
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    basically for the last four months i've become trapped in this horrible cycle of either restricting as far as i can possibly go, or binging and purging continuously, on things like cake and chocolate and ice cream. i've moved back to uni now (i'm in my second year) and the bingings just got worse, i've put on weight and the horrible thoughts are worse than ever. i sit in my room in the evenings and cry my eyes out because i have nobody to turn to and i feel so alone. i cant concentrate on uni work because all i do is think about the food i'm going to eat next, the food i'd really love to be eating or watch cookery programmes on the internet.

    the problem is that i'm a healthy weight at the moment, and i'm scared that if i went to somebody for help they would have trouble believing me because of that. in May i weighed 65kg and my BMI was 26ish, and i now weigh 52kg, BMI of around 21 - incredibly normal and healthy. i keep going to talk to one of my housemates but something pulls me back.

    i was wondering whether anybody had experience of seeking help for an ED at a healthy weight?

    also, and this is a long shot, but i study medicine - does anybody know what kind of repercussions seeking help for something like this would have on my degree, what with fitness to practice issues and all that?

    thanks
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    numbers involved, sorry if i trigger anybody, just looking for some advice

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    basically for the last four months i've become trapped in this horrible cycle of either restricting as far as i can possibly go, or binging and purging continuously, on things like cake and chocolate and ice cream. i've moved back to uni now (i'm in my second year) and the bingings just got worse, i've put on weight and the horrible thoughts are worse than ever. i sit in my room in the evenings and cry my eyes out because i have nobody to turn to and i feel so alone. i cant concentrate on uni work because all i do is think about the food i'm going to eat next, the food i'd really love to be eating or watch cookery programmes on the internet.

    the problem is that i'm a healthy weight at the moment, and i'm scared that if i went to somebody for help they would have trouble believing me because of that. in May i weighed 65kg and my BMI was 26ish, and i now weigh 52kg, BMI of around 21 - incredibly normal and healthy. i keep going to talk to one of my housemates but something pulls me back.

    i was wondering whether anybody had experience of seeking help for an ED at a healthy weight?

    also, and this is a long shot, but i study medicine - does anybody know what kind of repercussions seeking help for something like this would have on my degree, what with fitness to practice issues and all that?

    thanks
    Eating disorders are more about mindset then weight it some ways.. And I'm a healthy weight and have been or have been just under the whole time I have had my eating disorder.. for ages I refused to accept I needed help because of this, but then I realised it was so unhealthy, no matter what my weight.
    And maybe I can be of help with the medicine thing .. I am going to be starting to study Primary Education next week and I had the whole fitness to practice thing.. there was a time when I thought it would mean I couldnt go, but they contacted my doctor and he said he thinks I am fit to practice, so you should be fine.. hope that helps!
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    numbers involved, sorry if i trigger anybody, just looking for some advice

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    basically for the last four months i've become trapped in this horrible cycle of either restricting as far as i can possibly go, or binging and purging continuously, on things like cake and chocolate and ice cream. i've moved back to uni now (i'm in my second year) and the bingings just got worse, i've put on weight and the horrible thoughts are worse than ever. i sit in my room in the evenings and cry my eyes out because i have nobody to turn to and i feel so alone. i cant concentrate on uni work because all i do is think about the food i'm going to eat next, the food i'd really love to be eating or watch cookery programmes on the internet.

    the problem is that i'm a healthy weight at the moment, and i'm scared that if i went to somebody for help they would have trouble believing me because of that. in May i weighed 65kg and my BMI was 26ish, and i now weigh 52kg, BMI of around 21 - incredibly normal and healthy. i keep going to talk to one of my housemates but something pulls me back.

    i was wondering whether anybody had experience of seeking help for an ED at a healthy weight?

    also, and this is a long shot, but i study medicine - does anybody know what kind of repercussions seeking help for something like this would have on my degree, what with fitness to practice issues and all that?

    thanks
    Hi, sorry to hear about the trouble you're having
    With the medicine side of things, I am also a med student and I saw an advisor recently due to problems of my own. What she said was that seeking help and admitting a problem is not a bad thing professionally. In fact, they want you to have insight into your own health and well being, to know when you're struggling and need to accept some help and also from a point of view of not self-diagnosing/ self-treating.


    I actually came to post on this thread just to speak out my own story and feelings, but saw an opportunity to answer someone else's question as well.

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    I've backtyped so much trying to get started here :/ I've been reading this thread for a while now and the advice and support given is incredible. Even if it's not been directed at me specifically, so much of it has helped. For the past couple of years, on and off, I've used restricting my diet as a way of gaining control of my life when I feel out of control in other parts of it. It crept up on me and I didn't feel like I had a problem at all, I told myself that I could always stop and start eating normally again whenever I wanted. It got more serious recently though, I started properly calorie counting and restricting and only feeling satisfied whilst I could see my weight going down on the scales each day. I've always been right on the borderline of underweight/healthy BMI but that was just natural for me. But I soon became almost obsessed with having to get my weight lower even though I knew I looked too thin. I was quite anxious about going back to uni this summer because I'd struggled a bit last year due to feeling 'down'. I've had some problems with family this weekend which has left me feeling quite unsettled and made me realise that I was probably feeling far more down last year than I realised. I'm seeing my gp this week in relation to the recent anxiety as a result of the family problems, mostly just as a safeguarding thing in case I should get anxious at exam time and need to show that this has been ongoing and I'm seeking help, rather than just going at exam time when it looks less convincing (I hope that makes some sense. It's worded all wrong :/ ) It seems to be a common theme with lots of people asking for help/advice here, but I'm not sure about mentioning my eating when I see the gp. I just don't feel like it's bad enough to warrant help, and yet I feel out of control with it (ironical really when it's controlling that I'm doing).
    Anyway, I'm glad I've finally gotten around to posting here.
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    Hi, sorry to hear about the trouble you're having
    With the medicine side of things, I am also a med student and I saw an advisor recently due to problems of my own. What she said was that seeking help and admitting a problem is not a bad thing professionally. In fact, they want you to have insight into your own health and well being, to know when you're struggling and need to accept some help and also from a point of view of not self-diagnosing/ self-treating.


    I actually came to post on this thread just to speak out my own story and feelings, but saw an opportunity to answer someone else's question as well.

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    I've backtyped so much trying to get started here :/ I've been reading this thread for a while now and the advice and support given is incredible. Even if it's not been directed at me specifically, so much of it has helped. For the past couple of years, on and off, I've used restricting my diet as a way of gaining control of my life when I feel out of control in other parts of it. It crept up on me and I didn't feel like I had a problem at all, I told myself that I could always stop and start eating normally again whenever I wanted. It got more serious recently though, I started properly calorie counting and restricting and only feeling satisfied whilst I could see my weight going down on the scales each day. I've always been right on the borderline of underweight/healthy BMI but that was just natural for me. But I soon became almost obsessed with having to get my weight lower even though I knew I looked too thin. I was quite anxious about going back to uni this summer because I'd struggled a bit last year due to feeling 'down'. I've had some problems with family this weekend which has left me feeling quite unsettled and made me realise that I was probably feeling far more down last year than I realised. I'm seeing my gp this week in relation to the recent anxiety as a result of the family problems, mostly just as a safeguarding thing in case I should get anxious at exam time and need to show that this has been ongoing and I'm seeking help, rather than just going at exam time when it looks less convincing (I hope that makes some sense. It's worded all wrong :/ ) It seems to be a common theme with lots of people asking for help/advice here, but I'm not sure about mentioning my eating when I see the gp. I just don't feel like it's bad enough to warrant help, and yet I feel out of control with it (ironical really when it's controlling that I'm doing).
    Anyway, I'm glad I've finally gotten around to posting here.
    The bit in bold (in the spoiler) is unfortunately what almost all ED sufferers say.. if you are purposely restricting and thinking with the mindset that you are then you should seek help
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    To be honest, there is little point in expecting anything to start improving in terms of body image until you are at your true weight. When I was gaining the thing that helped me was to wear comfortable clothes and just trust that I may not like my body, but that is a good compromise for getting my life back.

    When you are at a healthy weight, mirror confrontation is good. Looking at yourself in the mirror and listing the things that you like and dislike about your appearance and getting it our of your system and then walking away and listing the things that you like about yourself as a person.

    As you know, though, it's not really about weight. You are projecting all of the negative feelings through your dissatisfaction with your body when in fact your body is a neutral thing. It's just a vessel that allows you to do everything you want to do in life. The best bet is to keep putting everything into rational perspective. Xxx
    Ah thank you for your advice! Much appreciated
    An excuse for a new wardrobe I guess! xx
 
 
 
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