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    Anon as I know people on here and I don't want it made public just yet.

    I think I may have Aspergers. I'm 20, female and have been looking into Aspergers syndrome recently as I have a younger brother who has just been diagnosed with autism. I have always felt slightly different to other women and I feel I exhibit a lot of female aspie traits, such as:

    - social anxiety and awkwardness
    - frequently experience social fatigue, need to be on my own indoors to relax
    - can only socialize in small groups
    - extreme discomfort when making eye contact (feel much more comfortable wearing sunglasses when out)
    - lack of friends (people tend to not like me after a while)
    - clumsiness
    - hypersensitive to noise, light and smells (wear earplugs every night and sometimes a sleep mask)
    - poor speaking skills (stumble over words a lot, forget the point I'm trying to make if interrupted)
    - lack empathy for others
    - prone to bouts of depression
    - was hyperlexic as a child (had a reading age well above my age and read everything I could get my hands on)
    - no strong sense of identity
    - androgynous personality, think of myself as a person before i think of myself as a woman
    - easily angered/frustrated
    - very pessimistic
    - prone to mutism when stressed or upset
    - have a boyfriend but we spend a lot of time together
    - never do 'girly' things

    Do you think this sounds like I have Aspergers? What should I do? Would it be worth going to see a doctor about it? I don't really see how it could help me at this stage in my life.
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    a lot of people try and self diagnose asperger's in order to a) define themselves as part of a group for a sense of identity, or b) blame their problems on their illness.

    I'm not in any way saying that you are doing any of the above, but as hard as it may seem, you can change. It doesn't really matter whether you have Asperger's or not, unless you're willing to go to see a therapist, which really isn't necessary at all.

    You've understood that you have a few problems, most of which can be changed. If people don't like you, then there would be a reason for that which you have to identify and solve, unless of course you are happy as you are and don't mind living with few friends, which is fine as well. To solve social anxiety, you just have to understand that people don't judge you as much as you think they do, and you need to care less about what others think of you. Being in a social environment a lot also helps. Everyone is prone to bouts of depression really, I'm not sure that's Asperger's specific.

    Those are just examples of what you can do to solve some of your problems, but being diagnosed with Asperger's doesn't change anything. You're still (likely) perfectly capable of changing yourself
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    Sounds like you do. If you are really unhappy with your life then go to GP. If not then forget all about it.
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    Have you thought you may be reading to much into this? it sounds to be you have picked all your 'faults' and are trying to blame said 'faults' on an illness.

    Although now you bring up what is associated with Aspergers my mum said I have it but from that list I don't so cheers in that regard
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    you can socialize. you don't have asperger's.
    Isn't there like a high functioning kind of aspergers that allows you to socialise? I thought there was unless I'm getting it mixed up
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    (Original post by tehFrance)
    Isn't there like a high functioning kind of aspergers that allows you to socialise? I thought there was unless I'm getting it mixed up
    Yes, I've been watching the youtube videos of a guy with aspergers and he says he can.
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    If you suspect it go to a GP. I did and it turned out I did have Aspergers. Was a good idea in the end because I could come to terms with my behaviour.
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    It's hard to tell from that description. The first 5 items could easily be attributed to plain introversion and/or social anxiety, they certainly aren't something you could only associate with AS. And the last 7 have nothing to do with Asperger's at all, they are just aspects of personality. Based on that description I wouldn't say you have AS, but then again you can't really diagnose someone over the internet (I mean, you may have left things out and then there's also the whole aspect of having better coping skills now that you're an adult). And of course you really can't diagnose yourself either. If you think you have AS and you want a definitive answer then you must see a doctor. Don't think you're an "Aspie" just because Google says so.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon as I know people on here and I don't want it made public just yet.

    I think I may have Aspergers. I'm 20, female and have been looking into Aspergers syndrome recently as I have a younger brother who has just been diagnosed with autism. I have always felt slightly different to other women and I feel I exhibit a lot of female aspie traits, such as:

    - social anxiety and awkwardness
    - frequently experience social fatigue, need to be on my own indoors to relax
    - can only socialize in small groups
    - extreme discomfort when making eye contact (feel much more comfortable wearing sunglasses when out)
    - lack of friends (people tend to not like me after a while)
    - clumsiness
    - hypersensitive to noise, light and smells (wear earplugs every night and sometimes a sleep mask)
    - poor speaking skills (stumble over words a lot, forget the point I'm trying to make if interrupted)
    - lack empathy for others
    - prone to bouts of depression
    - was hyperlexic as a child (had a reading age well above my age and read everything I could get my hands on)
    - no strong sense of identity
    - androgynous personality, think of myself as a person before i think of myself as a woman
    - easily angered/frustrated
    - very pessimistic
    - prone to mutism when stressed or upset
    - have a boyfriend but we spend a lot of time together
    - never do 'girly' things

    Do you think this sounds like I have Aspergers? What should I do? Would it be worth going to see a doctor about it? I don't really see how it could help me at this stage in my life.
    Eeep, you sound like me. Except the lack of empathy and a couple of other things, you send very like meself .. I think people have thought I'm Aspergers in the past, but have since been told I'm definitely not - that might reassure you a bit? A lot of what you've said can simply be put down to personality traits and the person that you are - and truth be told, if there's anything you really don't like, you have the power to change it

    I've always been told as well that everyone has autistic traits - it's when they really intefere with our functioning, or when we have a lot of them, that it becomes an ASD. You're bound to notice things more as well being a sibiling to an autistic person - I find that too, my wee sister's severely autistic
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    I would go to see a doctor about your concerns if you feel that the above traits are affecting you negatively, and that doing so might be personally beneficial. Some people with autism find much reassurance in being able to attribute certain personality traits to a particular condition, and become more self-understanding and confident from a diagnosis.

    It is important to make the point that diagnosing Asperger's syndrome is neither a simple nor a quick process: there is a large amount of diversity within the label of 'autism' as a whole and just as much within that of 'different personalities'!
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    Hi, I saw your post and the replies - I agree that if diagnosis is important to you, the Doc is the best place to start. But, it might also help to clarify how you feel by reading something specifically for Aspie females, here is a link:
    https://aspergersgirls.wordpress.com/ten-traits/
    Also the book by author Rudy Simone, called Aspergirls (ISBN-10: 1849058261 | ISBN-13: 978-1849058261)
    Which is extremely informative and very easy to read - it may be in your library.
    The 'ten traits' of an Aspie female are certainly not a diagnosis, nor are they clinical, but they are very accurate for many women. Asperger's presents itself very differently in women than in men, I take some issue with those here that totally dismiss your thoughts about yourself. The blog entry is linked to a facebook group of extremely supportive people (only women allowed now) who are in some way affected or touched by Autism or Asperger's. Don't be alone with this, it can really wear you down. Good luck, I hope you find the info helpful

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    Anon as I know people on here and I don't want it made public just yet.

    I think I may have Aspergers. I'm 20, female and have been looking into Aspergers syndrome recently as I have a younger brother who has just been diagnosed with autism. I have always felt slightly different to other women and I feel I exhibit a lot of female aspie traits, such as:

    - social anxiety and awkwardness
    - frequently experience social fatigue, need to be on my own indoors to relax
    - can only socialize in small groups
    - extreme discomfort when making eye contact (feel much more comfortable wearing sunglasses when out)
    - lack of friends (people tend to not like me after a while)
    - clumsiness
    - hypersensitive to noise, light and smells (wear earplugs every night and sometimes a sleep mask)
    - poor speaking skills (stumble over words a lot, forget the point I'm trying to make if interrupted)
    - lack empathy for others
    - prone to bouts of depression
    - was hyperlexic as a child (had a reading age well above my age and read everything I could get my hands on)
    - no strong sense of identity
    - androgynous personality, think of myself as a person before i think of myself as a woman
    - easily angered/frustrated
    - very pessimistic
    - prone to mutism when stressed or upset
    - have a boyfriend but we spend a lot of time together
    - never do 'girly' things

    Do you think this sounds like I have Aspergers? What should I do? Would it be worth going to see a doctor about it? I don't really see how it could help me at this stage in my life.
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    A lot of the symptoms listed don't really have anything to do with aspergers and most are actually completely normal. Some of the things you listed point towards Social Anxiety, or introvertism at the very least (which is again normal). Go to the doctors if you want to, but you can also manage it on your own by confidence building exercises etc if you don't want to see a doctor.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)

    Do you think this sounds like I have Aspergers? What should I do? Would it be worth going to see a doctor about it? I don't really see how it could help me at this stage in my life.
    i'm not a doctor so I don't know, but what harm can it do to ask a doctor about it? it might not help but there might be things you can do.
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    (Original post by roflcakes1)
    A lot of the symptoms listed don't really have anything to do with aspergers and most are actually completely normal.
    Such as? I have many of the symptoms mentioned in the OP and they're not normal.

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