I joined up here because I need advice. I just feel like everyday it's a battle to get up and out of bed. I try to be optimistic but putting on a brave face everyday isn't working anymore.
Last year around this time, I lost my mom to cancer. We had always been close. During her last months I took care of her. And now that she's gone, my dad is constantly leaning on me for support and health. Since he didn't even graduate high school, I have to help him. A lot of times I feel like he's suffocating me in my own house by not letting me go places.
I've tried finding a job but everyone wants experience and the reason why I never had a job before because I couldn't because like I said I was taking care of my mom.
I'm going to school for Medical Assisting and was so close to being done when I failed a class. Not because I was goofing off, but because I got so nervous on a practicum. Now I have to repeat the six week class. Only then, can I go on a 160 hour externship and hopefully get hired.
My father is not a pillar of support. At all. Even though he didn't graduate, he's giving me all this grief about failing this one class. Up until then, I recieved A's and B's for everything. And he's definitely the most pessimistic person I have ever met. He constantly says he wishes he'd just die.
On top of that, he's constantly changing his mind on me. When I decided to go to school he switched back and forth from 'Good job' to 'This is stupid'. And now that I'm off (I have to wait a few weeks before my establishments teaches the class again.) He's 'Get a job' and then 'Stay home.'
Hopefully someone out there understands that I'm not being a lazy college kid and will offer some kind of advice for me. Thanks in advance for those who do.
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- Thread Starter
- 14-04-2011 01:47
- 14-04-2011 19:19
you should tell your GP or school advisor. you are entitled to some support for your sitaution. hang in there pal
- 15-04-2011 17:00
I agree with the above; they'll give you help and support if and when you feel as though you need that little bit extra. It always helps to talk to someone too.
- 15-04-2011 17:25
I lost my mum to cancer a couple of months ago now-I live in the house I was left with my boyfriend and I'm in sixth form doing 4 a-levels. This, for me, is a lot of work (including grieving) but what your describing sounds so much worse...
please talk to someone-a GP or school advisor-anyone. It sounds like you and your dad need help and you are defiantly entitled to it
Hang in there and I hope it turns out okay for you both