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    Anon please, or delete.
    Im a 19 year old girl....and basically have no friends. I have acquatences (sorry, no idea how to spell it)....but no one i could meet up with. I used to have a sort of best friend, but she got wrapped up in having a boyfriend, and going to clubs with other friends, which im never invited to. Im quite jealous really, never had a boyf or been to a club. I feel so isolated all the time. I dont get on well with family, and im only happy when im at work, even though its a small shop and i dont really get to work with other members of staff. Sorry this is such a rant, but i feel physically sick at the thought of being so alone all summer. Has anyone felt like this before?? How did they get out of this rut? Please, any advice is welcome. Oh and i cant really go out with people from work, as there in their 30's...
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    Do you go to college or anything? Are you going to uni? If so maybe you can find friends there?
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    TSR will be your online friends. :yep:
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    I'll be your friend
    *Air Hug*
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    I find that hard to believe, especially if you go to uni.
    it's fricking easy to make friends these days
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    Surely you have school friends or something...?
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    Get yourself out there and socialise. even if its just summin small, like chatting to people.. you can start to build relationships and go from there.
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    Are you fit? If so, I'll be your friend.
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    There are SO many people on here claiming to have no friends... Maybe you can find someone else on here or another website who is in the same position as you and lives near to you? There will be at least one, I guarantee it.
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    is there no one you could just tag along with? or you could try like internet dating, i know it's for boyfriends but it's a start and if it went somewhere you could be friends with his friends and then their friends ect ect. You'd also be going out where you could meet other people. If you met a few guys in internet dating sites you could have a number of friendship group options, you could even say that you're mostly looking for friendship, they could be just as lonely as you are, just a thought
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon please, or delete.
    Im a 19 year old girl....and basically have no friends. I have acquatences (sorry, no idea how to spell it)....but no one i could meet up with. I used to have a sort of best friend, but she got wrapped up in having a boyfriend, and going to clubs with other friends, which im never invited to. Im quite jealous really, never had a boyf or been to a club. I feel so isolated all the time. I dont get on well with family, and im only happy when im at work, even though its a small shop and i dont really get to work with other members of staff. Sorry this is such a rant, but i feel physically sick at the thought of being so alone all summer. Has anyone felt like this before?? How did they get out of this rut? Please, any advice is welcome. Oh and i cant really go out with people from work, as there in their 30's...
    Go travelling, you work at a shop so you have some money, there are so many solo travellers, it really is fantastic for building confidence and making friends.
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    I'm 19, and also have pretty much no friends. PM me if you like
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    If you're only ever happy in the shop, maybe you should give these 30-somethings a go. Don't be so quick to judge them - you might be surprised at how 'immature' they can be. And you never know, they might have friends your age they can introduce you to.
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    aww thats sad. is so easy to make friends these days. maybe is something you doing wrong?
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    Hi I am olympus and I would like to be one of many TSR friends
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    You say that you aren't part of any clubs or anything maybe you should start there and join something you never know you may not only meet new people but also develop a new talent. There is a club/group out there for everyone whether it's sports based, Cadets, Scouts anything!!! I know I found my best friends from clubs etc so give it a go, nothing can go wrong!!! Good Luck and I hope you'll be happy soon xxx
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    (Original post by marginal maz)
    If you're only ever happy in the shop, maybe you should give these 30-somethings a go. Don't be so quick to judge them - you might be surprised at how 'immature' they can be. And you never know, they might have friends your age they can introduce you to.
    Believe me, i would like to socialise outside of work. Its just a bit awkward, theres a bit of sexual tension between me and another member of staff, who has a family. So not a good idea!
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    Are you fit? If so, I'll be your friend.
    Interesting point, im continually told im 'good looking/very attractive etc' from workmates....but never get asked out. Ive been told im really intimidating, even though im fairly shy and not loud/bold or anything. This is really really annoying.
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    Same here. I'm a dude though, 20 years old.

    I get on well with people but when it comes down to it, I spend every night at home on my own. I do meet people at events/competitions I get sent to for work occasionally though (normally in London, 100 miles away). We go out drinking together, it's great. I know i could make friends if i met people in a social settings like i do there. Where no one knows anyone and it's acceptable to just walk up to someone and start talking.

    At home though. it's just work->home->work->home->work->home .etc I never get the opportunity to meet people (everyone at work is 20 years my senior with families). I can go months without actually talking to someone beyond smalltalk. It's such a waste of time.

    Unless your thrown together with a bunch of people who don't know eachother, it's catch 22, You need to friends to make friends :/. I'm starting uni in September though, so that's a good opportunity. 157 days to moving day.
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    Same here. I get on well with people but when it comes down to it, I spend every night at home on my own.

    I do meet people at events/competitions I get sent to for work occasionally (normally in London, 100 miles away). We go out drinking together, it's great. I know i could make friends if i met people in a social settings like i do there. Where no one knows anyone and it's acceptable to just walk up to someone and start talking.

    At home though. it's just work->home->work->home->work->home .etc I never get the opportunity to meet people (everyone at work is 20 years my senior with families). I can go months without actually talking to someone beyond smalltalk. It's such a waste of time.

    Unless your thrown together with a bunch of people who don't know eachother, it's catch 22, You need to friends to make friends :/.
    I'm starting uni in September though, so that's a good opportunity. 157 days to moving day...
    rubbish isnt it? I feel like im wasting my youth. Just sitting at home, wishing i had a couple of decent friends to go to the pub with or something. Ive never even been to a pub.
 
 
 
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