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what are his motives?

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Ages a go i went out with my next door neighbour who last year moved away cause of family problems, he didnt move too far but we havent been as close and plus it was a messy break up. well he texts every so often to see how i am etc. and always asks how my love life it etc. so today i have a text and he asked me the usual so i asked how his relationship was going when he informed me he has finished with her and wants to know if i want to meet up, i really dont know what to do. he has always said what we had was great and has on a number of occasions asked for a "bit of fun" but i have always said no. thing is i have agreed to meet up with him tomorrow and im worried about his motives. what do you guys think?

Reply 1

Poica

14

He wants to sleep with you.
It's the only thing men want.

Reply 2

Suzie

1

Meet up with him... see what happens and how things go. You could always ask him where u stand with him!

Reply 3

ExitMusic

9

Poica

He wants to sleep with you.
It's the only thing men want.

Yep, I agree.

Reply 4

xemilyx

OP

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thats what i was thinking. hmm.... thanks anyway guys

Reply 5

Suzie

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Poica

He wants to sleep with you.
It's the only thing men want.

Even if he did want to just sleep with her... if she meets up with him and he tries it on she can say no

Reply 6

Alex_Pi

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I don't really know what you want to hear But, it sounds as if he is not thinking too much of a relationship if we wasn't willing to keep texting/phoning/contacting you after moving away and now only once he's free again he begins talking to you again. The fact that he has continuously asked for a bit of fun also suggests that a long term relationship is not on his mind. Give him this last chance to sort stuff out

Reply 7

xemilyx

OP

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im not expecting a relationship at all. i was just wondering what you guys thought he might want thats all... he has text me from time to time, its not like we have been totally cut off its just weird. we always said we would be best friends and i dunno....

Reply 8

..anna..

1

EMILY..... YOU KNOW WHAT HES AFTER!!!!!!!!!
aaaarghhhhhhhhh HE MAKES ME MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Reply 9

xemilyx

OP

2

yes anna

Reply 10

Poica

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Suzie

Even if he did want to just sleep with her... if she meets up with him and he tries it on she can say no

I was asked what his motives were. Those are his motives. Hence my answer

And I wouldn't meet up with him if I already knew that

Reply 11

xemilyx

OP

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i think i will make my excusses. i dunno a part of me wants to be friends but a part of me knows what he is like

Reply 12

Laursy

10

not every single guy is going to want to jump on a girl when they meet up, maybe he just wants to catch up and see how things are with you and actully see you instead of over a text!!

i feel better seeing people rather then txing them, as most of the time they don't pay much attention but thats the story of my life!!

if you want to see him, meet him. if you are unsure you could alwyas take someone with you and then see what he really wants it will test his patience!!

Reply 13

xemilyx

OP

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Laursy

not every single guy is going to want to jump on a girl when they meet up, maybe he just wants to catch up and see how things are with you and actully see you instead of over a text!!

i feel better seeing people rather then txing them, as most of the time they don't pay much attention but thats the story of my life!!

if you want to see him, meet him. if you are unsure you could alwyas take someone with you and then see what he really wants it will test his patience!!

thanks

Reply 14

Creepy

14

Poica

He wants to sleep with you.
It's the only thing men want.

Great way to stereo type people. /sarcasm off

To the OP, I split up with my girlfriend a month ago, we still text and ask how we both are similar to your situation. I asked her if she wanted to meet up when she's back from uni, to have a chat and see how things are, my intentions are NOT to sleep with her but to see how she is. Go out and meet him, if things get a bit too much to handle, just leave.

Reply 15

MattG

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xemilyx

thanks

Why not phone him and ask what he wants to do when you meet up (casually, say thinking cinema..rent a vid, food whatever) and try and gauge his reaction.

Reply 16

xemilyx

OP

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full of good advice thank you all :smile:

Reply 17

Poica

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creepy1986

Great way to stereo type people. /sarcasm off

To the OP, I split up with my girlfriend a month ago, we still text and ask how we both are similar to your situation. I asked her if she wanted to meet up when she's back from uni, to have a chat and see how things are, my intentions are NOT to sleep with her but to see how she is. Go out and meet him, if things get a bit too much to handle, just leave.

What? Ultimately that's what straight men want from women.

Reply 18

Laursy

10

To the OP, I split up with my girlfriend a month ago, we still text and ask how we both are similar to your situation. I asked her if she wanted to meet up when she's back from uni, to have a chat and see how things are, my intentions are NOT to sleep with her but to see how she is. Go out and meet him, if things get a bit too much to handle, just leave

indeed like i said not EVERY guy is going to jump on a girl

i have respect for people who don't jump on you as soon as you see them!!

Reply 19

Shakuri

Poica

What? Ultimately that's what straight men want from women.

U must meet the wrong type of guys, I can certainly say that is not what ALL guys want, ok admitidly alot of guys do , but these are the guys that think they are gods gift and think they can do wateva they want. SO in future dont stereotype us guys like that, makes me mad!

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