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comitments issues

bettyboop

what are they? and why do people get them? prob a really dumb question :rolleyes:

Reply 1

dave

bettyboop

what are they? and why do people get them? prob a really dumb question :rolleyes:

If you're talking about commitments within a relationship, problems usually occur because people are scared of those commitments. Scared of e.g.

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Being loyal

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Being honest

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Being supportive

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Showing their true feelings

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Standing by their partner in times of trouble

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Being tolerant

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Not being worried by other people's opinions

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Not quitting when "the going gets tough".

Reply 2

bettyboop

ow thanx i thort it was something like tht :rolleyes:

sort of. but dyu know if people have issues to do with their past? :redface:

Reply 3

Creepy

Could be anything really... Insecurity, wanting more affection, wanting to feel loved etc etc... I went out with a girl for 27 months who cheated on me 4 times... (the last 3 were over the space of a week) and i think it's because she felt tied down by me (although i always stand by the fact she could do whatever she wanted, except intimacy with another guy whilst she was with me).

Different people have different reasons... I for one don't struggle with commitment.

Reply 4

Niaya

bettyboop

ow thanx i thort it was something like tht :rolleyes:

sort of. but dyu know if people have issues to do with their past? :redface:

some times its hard for people who have been hurt in the past to trust people

Reply 5

dave

Niaya

some times its hard for people who have been hurt in the past to trust people

That's so true.
When someone has been really badly hurt, trust is something that is very hard to come by again - if it ever returns.
The easiest thing in the world is for people to say "get over it".
The hardest thing in the world can be doing just that.