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Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't getting to know someone a "two way thing"...? Maybe I'm picking the wrong girls, but the last two dates I went on, I had to talk a lot and make conversation, otherwise they would've just sat there in silence all night. At times they asked me questions, but not often. I felt really awkward to be honest, and I really wanted to get up, say "f--k this, i'm out" and walk out, but I didn't because I was being polite. Anyway, needless to say I didn't contact them again.
So girls, why are you such hard work on a date? Why can't you make it easier by actually talking and getting to know the guy as well?
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(Original post by AdamR89)
Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't getting to know someone a "two way thing"...? Maybe I'm picking the wrong girls, but the last two dates I went on, I had to talk a lot and make conversation, otherwise they would've just sat there in silence all night. At times they asked me questions, but not often. I felt really awkward to be honest, and I really wanted to get up, say "f--k this, i'm out" and walk out, but I didn't because I was being polite. Anyway, needless to say I didn't contact them again.
So girls, why are you such hard work on a date? Why can't you make it easier by actually talking and getting to know the guy as well?
Story of my life...
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Maybe you go for shy girls. I remember my first ever date and I didn't say a word.... bless him, luckily he gave me another chance and we went out for 5 years. I was just incredibly shy.

You can't shut me up on dates now... in fact I think I scare men off as they don't get a word in edge ways.
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too see how long you can last without making a fool of yourself
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I like how you consider two a big enough sample size to make a judgement about half the world's population... :rofl:
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i'm a girl and i don't think that a guy has to do all the talking on a first date!
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http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_xXFuPRCNMB...g_2-722302.jpg

In my experience, they rarely shut up.
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Wow, so just 2 dates equals a big enough sample to judge all girls? :lolwut:

EDIT: Beat me to it...

(Original post by Pink Bullets)
I like how you consider two a big enough sample size to make a judgement about half the world's population... :rofl:
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Depends on the personality of the girl really, but if chemistry is flowing and the date is going well it's doubtful that you'll notice this.

Clearly the dates you went on weren't meant to be, if a girl was too quiet for your liking you should be thankful you got out of it when you did.
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I'm a girl and I've never had this on dates, although I'm the one that never shuts up haha
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(Original post by AdamR89)
Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't getting to know someone a "two way thing"...? Maybe I'm picking the wrong girls, but the last two dates I went on, I had to talk a lot and make conversation, otherwise they would've just sat there in silence all night. At times they asked me questions, but not often. I felt really awkward to be honest, and I really wanted to get up, say "f--k this, i'm out" and walk out, but I didn't because I was being polite. Anyway, needless to say I didn't contact them again.
So girls, why are you such hard work on a date? Why can't you make it easier by actually talking and getting to know the guy as well?
the wrong girls i think darling
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I've actually found the opposite; that it was me who had to make the extra effort to make the conversation because the guy was being quiet. However, if conversation is difficult, even after an hour or 2, it's probably (not always) not going to be the best or most successful relationship. I guess when it's right, it's easy.
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I'm pretty shy, but I'd still talk a far bit in a date situation! Perhaps you're choosing the wrong girls, or you're starting on conversation topics that, for whatever reason, aren't leading to stimulating discussion. I don't know. But don't write off half the world's population on the basis of a few girls.
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(Original post by AdamR89)
Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't getting to know someone a "two way thing"...? Maybe I'm picking the wrong girls, but the last two dates I went on, I had to talk a lot and make conversation, otherwise they would've just sat there in silence all night. At times they asked me questions, but not often. I felt really awkward to be honest, and I really wanted to get up, say "f--k this, i'm out" and walk out, but I didn't because I was being polite. Anyway, needless to say I didn't contact them again.
So girls, why are you such hard work on a date? Why can't you make it easier by actually talking and getting to know the guy as well?
So two girls who wanted you to speak first means that all girls want that? :facepalm:

Maybe you're intimidating/ talk about yourself too much and bore them?
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All girls want someone "who can hold an interesting conversation", even if they can't...
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Maybe you're just boring as ****.
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Ever considered that maybe you didn't give them enough space to talk?... mmm..
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maybe they were being polite enough not to ditch you, but not polite enough to make an effort into a guy they didn't like? maybe they were both sitting there thinking omg, i'm not saying a word and this guy wont shut the **** up, anyone else would have walked out by now, wtf do i have to do, omg he must be desparate, oh well, i'll just wait it out, maybe he'll pay for my meal if i just continue to nod and smile. maybe your hot but boring?
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cos they're like that, its annoying

and the thing is, if what you say is interesting, and they lead the conversation down some banal path like what you do for work or where you're from, they'll blame you for the bad interaction even though it was them who started talking about it
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Ask the right questions and the conversation will just flow.
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