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Hey everyone,

I'm feeling a bit upset at the moment because of something a guy I like said the other night. I'll give you some background - have known the guy about 3 years since I started uni but we haven't spoken in a while. I've always had a bit of a crush on him. I'm 23, 5'2 and slim. I've been told by people that I'm pretty and I have a nice personality.

We were talking on Facebook chat the other night and he said he'd been looking through my pictures then asked how tall I am. I told him (5'2) and out of nowhere he said "well I doubt I could ever go out with you! I'm nearly 6 foot and I have standards that you're too short to meet."

I was quite shocked as this came out of the blue - we were just having a normal conversation and I hadn't even suggested I wanted to go out with him! Also he should know my height as we've met in person loads of times so I don't know why he's asking about it now.

It's made me feel a bit upset as I was bullied for my height at school by other girls but accepted it when I got older. It's something I can't change and it's not like I'm a midget lol. My ex-boyfriends have all been quite tall so I've never thought it an issue until now as I used to think I looked fine with my height and weight.

I guess it's made me feel a bit insecure as I used to want to be taller and it's like he's said I'm not good enough for him. He has been single for the 3 years I've known him though and has discussed with me in the past that he has very high standards with girls. I'm thinking of not speaking to him again, as I don't want to speak to people who make me feel bad about myself.

Edit: It's definitely not a joke as he's discussed this with me before and says he doesn't like being single but he find it difficult with girls because of his high standards and this has caused him to not have proper relationships. He's quite serious, not the type to joke like that
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(Original post by katy_j87)
Hey everyone,

I'm feeling a bit upset at the moment because of something a guy I like said the other night. I'll give you some background - have known the guy about 3 years since I started uni but we haven't spoken in a while. I've always had a bit of a crush on him. I'm 23, 5'2 and slim. I've been told by people that I'm pretty and I have a nice personality.

We were talking on Facebook chat the other night and he said he'd been looking through my pictures then asked how tall I am. I told him (5'2) and out of nowhere he said "well I doubt I could ever go out with you! I'm nearly 6 foot and I have very high standards that you're too short to meet."

I was quite shocked as this came out of the blue - we were just having a normal conversation and I hadn't even suggested I wanted to go out with him! Also he should know my height as we've met in person loads of times so I don't know why he's asking about it now.

It's made me feel a bit upset as I was bullied for my height at school by other girls but accepted it when I got older. It's something I can't change and it's not like I'm a midget lol. My ex-boyfriends have all been quite tall so I've never thought it an issue until now as I used to think I looked fine with my height and weight.

I guess it's made me feel a bit insecure as I used to want to be taller and it's like he's said I'm not good enough for him. He has been single for the 3 years I've known him though so maybe this is because of his 'high standards' lol. I'm thinking of not speaking to him again, as I don't want to speak to people who make me feel bad about myself.
I think you're only 2 inches shorter than average height anyway. Btw, did you ask him if he was joking? Because it was facebook chat, its going to be kinda hard to pick up sarcasm through text. If he wasn't joking, move onto the next one. Simple.
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He's nearly 6 foot? He isn't very tall either... and just for the record 5'2 is a decent height for a girl

Guys with 'high standards' are nobs, if he is clearly making you feel down about yourself then stop the contact with him, plenty of other good guys out there.
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He sounds like a simpleton, to be honest.
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Screw him, loads of people (myself included) find petite girls incredibly attractive

Also it sounds like it may have just been a thoughtless pun rather than a statement of his feelings
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I think he was joking babe
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(Original post by katy_j87)
Hey everyone,

I'm feeling a bit upset at the moment because of something a guy I like said the other night. I'll give you some background - have known the guy about 3 years since I started uni but we haven't spoken in a while. I've always had a bit of a crush on him. I'm 23, 5'2 and slim. I've been told by people that I'm pretty and I have a nice personality.

We were talking on Facebook chat the other night and he said he'd been looking through my pictures then asked how tall I am. I told him (5'2) and out of nowhere he said "well I doubt I could ever go out with you! I'm nearly 6 foot and I have very high standards that you're too short to meet."

I was quite shocked as this came out of the blue - we were just having a normal conversation and I hadn't even suggested I wanted to go out with him! Also he should know my height as we've met in person loads of times so I don't know why he's asking about it now.

It's made me feel a bit upset as I was bullied for my height at school by other girls but accepted it when I got older. It's something I can't change and it's not like I'm a midget lol. My ex-boyfriends have all been quite tall so I've never thought it an issue until now as I used to think I looked fine with my height and weight.

I guess it's made me feel a bit insecure as I used to want to be taller and it's like he's said I'm not good enough for him. He has been single for the 3 years I've known him though so maybe this is because of his 'high standards' lol. I'm thinking of not speaking to him again, as I don't want to speak to people who make me feel bad about myself.
Hahaha. ahaha. Clearly a joke, just ask if he was serious. it honestly sounds lighthearted though.

_Kar.
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Was he trying to make a joke? "HIGH standards"...
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you deserve better
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Whilst he was blunt, at least he was honest and straight out told you where you stand. That being said, it sounds like a joke :holmes:
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He wasn't joking lol, it would have been fine if he was but he's discussed his standards with me before and talked about how he finds it hard to find a girl that's good enough. He's quite serious about this
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I'm sure it was a joke, tbh most guys like shorter girls from my experience!

Edit: just saw your post above... forget about him in that case
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He may have been joking...
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He wasn't joking lol, it would have been fine if he was but he's discussed his standards with me before and talked about how he finds it hard to find a girl that's good enough. He's quite serious about this
You can't be sure, if you're speaking through screen then you can't see his body language.
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Pshhh no guy would turn down a girl just for height that's crazy - petite girls can be insanely hot.

If he's definitely not joking I'd just leave it tbh
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I'd say give him the boot. Because if a guy can say something so hurtful to you then obviously he is going to objectify you and is not going to treat you right; as according to him you are not up to his standards. As you stated earlier, people have said that you are pretty... If he can't see that, this great and beautiful flower blossoming at his feet then, truly he doesn't deserve you. My advice is, just hang in there and there will soon come a guy who would turn a blind eye to all those uneccessary aspects about you and love you for who you are.
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What an absolute douche, ignore him from now on.
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(Original post by katy_j87)
Hey everyone,

I'm feeling a bit upset at the moment because of something a guy I like said the other night. I'll give you some background - have known the guy about 3 years since I started uni but we haven't spoken in a while. I've always had a bit of a crush on him. I'm 23, 5'2 and slim. I've been told by people that I'm pretty and I have a nice personality.

We were talking on Facebook chat the other night and he said he'd been looking through my pictures then asked how tall I am. I told him (5'2) and out of nowhere he said "well I doubt I could ever go out with you! I'm nearly 6 foot and I have very high standards that you're too short to meet."

I was quite shocked as this came out of the blue - we were just having a normal conversation and I hadn't even suggested I wanted to go out with him! Also he should know my height as we've met in person loads of times so I don't know why he's asking about it now.

It's made me feel a bit upset as I was bullied for my height at school by other girls but accepted it when I got older. It's something I can't change and it's not like I'm a midget lol. My ex-boyfriends have all been quite tall so I've never thought it an issue until now as I used to think I looked fine with my height and weight.

I guess it's made me feel a bit insecure as I used to want to be taller and it's like he's said I'm not good enough for him. He has been single for the 3 years I've known him though so maybe this is because of his 'high standards' lol. I'm thinking of not speaking to him again, as I don't want to speak to people who make me feel bad about myself.

Edit: It's definitely not a joke as he's discussed this with me before and says he doesn't like being single but he find it difficult with girls because of his high standards and this has caused him to not have proper relationships. He's quite serious, not the type to joke like that
haha, its normally the girls who have the 'high standards.' Anyway, he sounds like a bit of a shallow prick to say that and I would just move on, do you really want to date someone who judges you on something you can't control?
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:rofl2: at "nearly 6 foot"
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Maybe he is playing games with you.. sort of like 'you can't have me' which is think is really immature. Maybe he is a commitment phobic and doesn't really want anyone getting close to him so don't waste your time.
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