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Hi all,
I have about two days until I have to accept or deny one of my offers to university.
Im only 16 and have been accepted into The University I really want to go to, and am going to do Law. My school, my guidance teachers and the University faculty all agree that I should go. The only problem is my mum, to go to this university I would have to leave home and live in halls, and mum doesnt want mt to leave. Shes point blank refusing. I dont have long, I can accept the offer but I want to do it with her blessing.. What should I do??

Do you think 16 is too young for University? At my chosen Uni, there are other young students aswell, as it's a walled campus.

Sorry for the long winded post... Please Help!? :confused:
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TheSownRose
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To be honest, yes, I think sixteen is generally too young to go away to uni. However, I don't know you and my opinion doesn't really matter - do you think you'd be ok with it? Your mother is never going to want you to leave, but are her reasons because you're her precious little boy/girl or because she doesn't think you'll cope?
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(Original post by Raterbee)
Hi all,
I have about two days until I have to accept or deny one of my offers to university.
Im only 16 and have been accepted into The University I really want to go to, and am going to do Law. My school, my guidance teachers and the University faculty all agree that I should go. The only problem is my mum, to go to this university I would have to leave home and live in halls, and mum doesnt want mt to leave. Shes point blank refusing. I dont have long, I can accept the offer but I want to do it with her blessing.. What should I do??

Do you think 16 is too young for University? At my chosen Uni, there are other young students aswell, as it's a walled campus.

Sorry for the long winded post... Please Help!? :confused:
Jeez man, it's your life, this is a once in a lifetime opportunity man. But, she has every right to be worried, tell her how you feel about university and reassure
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Good luck :borat:.
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That certainly is a tough decision, but unfortunatley only you can make it. You are the one who knows the situation at home and the effects leaving for university would have, so any suggestions people have on here wouldn't be that well informed. My advice to you would be to speak to other family members and see what they think. Good luck.
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(Original post by TheSownRose)
To be honest, yes, I think sixteen is generally too young to go away to uni. However, I don't you and my opinion doesn't really matter - do you think you'd be ok with it? Your mother is never going to want you to leave, but are her reasons because you're her precious little boy/girl or because she doesn't think you'll cope?
I think its the "little girl" part of it. I already Cook and clean, as well as handle money. And last summer I held down a job whilst I was out of school..

I'm just not sure how to convince her to let go, I'm only going to be 40 miles away, its just too far to commute.

Thankyou for replying
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I started at 16. Just talk to your mum about her concerns and reassure her that you are not going to turn into a drunken and drug-crazed lout (until you are 18).
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I started at 16. Just talk to your mum about her concerns and reassure her that you are not going to turn into a drunken and drug-crazed lout (until you are 18).
Did you deal with being younger then everyone else okay? I think thats what my mums worried about? And are you glas you started at 16?

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It's a mother thing. My mum doesn't want me to go to a uni too far either because she wants me to stay at home and never leave.
Convince your mum that you'll be okay and won't turn to drugs and stuff and that you'll visit as often as possible.

Go live your life!
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Did you deal with being younger then everyone else okay? I think thats what my mums worried about? And are you glas you started at 16?

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It didn't bother me at all. I'm 6 feet 2 and don't look baby faced so I didn't stand out as being younger than others - I think people just assumed we were all much the same age. I didn't make a big deal about it :dontknow:
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Go for it!
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(Original post by Raterbee)
Hi all,
I have about two days until I have to accept or deny one of my offers to university.
Im only 16 and have been accepted into The University I really want to go to, and am going to do Law. My school, my guidance teachers and the University faculty all agree that I should go. The only problem is my mum, to go to this university I would have to leave home and live in halls, and mum doesnt want mt to leave. Shes point blank refusing. I dont have long, I can accept the offer but I want to do it with her blessing.. What should I do??

Do you think 16 is too young for University? At my chosen Uni, there are other young students aswell, as it's a walled campus.

Sorry for the long winded post... Please Help!? :confused:
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Which university?
its not oxford...so dont worry!!
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Which university?
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Which university?
In what way is that relevant?
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In what way is that relevant?
The 'walled campus' aspect was getting her all excited. It's an aphrodisiac to some you know
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The 'walled campus' aspect was getting her all excited. It's an aphrodisiac to some you know
Just think: if it had been Oxford, she could have brought her plans forward a few years! :eek3:
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Sorry, if you dont mine me asking, how come you're going to university at 16? did you do A-levels early? please explain lol im abit confuseeed
The system in Scotlands a bit different..
Im 16 but I'm in the equivalent of year 11 as I skipped ahead a year. The university has accepted me on the basis of expected grades for this years exams.

I was confuzed when I moved to Scotland too, don't worry. (:
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I think you should do what you want to do! but maybe you could stay at home in first year and second year move away from home?
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Hi all,
I have about two days until I have to accept or deny one of my offers to university.
Im only 16 and have been accepted into The University I really want to go to, and am going to do Law. My school, my guidance teachers and the University faculty all agree that I should go. The only problem is my mum, to go to this university I would have to leave home and live in halls, and mum doesnt want mt to leave. Shes point blank refusing. I dont have long, I can accept the offer but I want to do it with her blessing.. What should I do??

Do you think 16 is too young for University? At my chosen Uni, there are other young students aswell, as it's a walled campus.

Sorry for the long winded post... Please Help!? :confused:
If I were you I would definitely wait two years. In two years you will be able to enjoy university much more. I don't think it will be easy to make friends when everybody goes out for freshers and at least every weekend etc and you wouldn't get in anywhere. Just have a laid back two years and go to uni when you'd enjoy it more. Not many 18 year old students will want to hang out with a 16 year old genius ha
Also it would make your mum happy - and that is the most important thing!

University is a once in a life time experience and in order to enjoy it to the full you need to be 18 IMO.
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if i were you id go for it
your mums probably worried too because you are a bit younger but if the uni doesnt see your ages as a problem neither should you
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