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Does anyone feel that they r repeatedly bein stabbd in the bak by socalled 'friends'?

I cant take working anymore. Ive been working in my job part time for one and a half year. It was always obvious eveyrone were gossipers there, but now they just gossip about me behind their backs and i cant stand it. Ive been called a slag to my face, a few of my work mebers stuck up for me, but the main ones iv been 'friends' with for the longest just laughed at me even when i was visibly upset.
My ex boyfriend there (big mistake going out with someone from work) iv just found out that he apparently slept with another girl FROM MY WORK when he was with me. I dont no for sure if this is true, but i feel utterly betrayed by the fact hed cheated on me just cos i wudnt sleep with him within the 3 weeks we went out, and also the fact that all the girls at work are my friends, and it hurts me to think that one of them has done this.
I found out that one girl had been callin me a slag...cos i 'jump' on all the guys?? thats not the definition of a slag, am i correct in thinking a slag sleeps around with people?? i have ot slept with ANYONE from work!! its ridiculous but its so upsetting to think that this girl is suposed to be one of my closest friends from work. I think she is saying it out of spite, because one of the guys who i am close friends with, flirts with both of us. flirting and i leave it at that, because that is just who the guy is! but the girl has taken it as he fancies her and therefore fancies him, and i think the bitching about me, is due to the fact that i am better friends with him now. He rang me one night (yes just a phone call) and the next day everyone was hassling him saying 'oh whats going on with you and alice' 'i heard you like alice now instead of the other girl' its RIDICULOUS. everyone there is so immature. and theyr older than me! they always turn it around so that i seem to be doing something wrong. After when the girl had called me a slag at work, she came online to msn and acted as if she hadnt said anything, i later found out, shed txt another girl from work and asked her to come online stating 'we can terrorise alice'. Y am i working with these people???? I want to get a transfer, but now the manager has a thing with one of the girls so if i tel him, he'l probably tell her. i just want to leave so much, and just smack everyone in the face and walk out!! its not fair
Reply 1
I cant take working anymore. Ive been working in my job part time for one and a half year. It was always obvious eveyrone were gossipers there, but now they just gossip about me behind their backs and i cant stand it. Ive been called a slag to my face, a few of my work mebers stuck up for me, but the main ones iv been 'friends' with for the longest just laughed at me even when i was visibly upset.
My ex boyfriend there (big mistake going out with someone from work) iv just found out that he apparently slept with another girl FROM MY WORK when he was with me. I dont no for sure if this is true, but i feel utterly betrayed by the fact hed cheated on me just cos i wudnt sleep with him within the 3 weeks we went out, and also the fact that all the girls at work are my friends, and it hurts me to think that one of them has done this.
I found out that one girl had been callin me a slag...cos i 'jump' on all the guys?? thats not the definition of a slag, am i correct in thinking a slag sleeps around with people?? i have ot slept with ANYONE from work!! its ridiculous but its so upsetting to think that this girl is suposed to be one of my closest friends from work. I think she is saying it out of spite, because one of the guys who i am close friends with, flirts with both of us. flirting and i leave it at that, because that is just who the guy is! but the girl has taken it as he fancies her and therefore fancies him, and i think the bitching about me, is due to the fact that i am better friends with him now. He rang me one night (yes just a phone call) and the next day everyone was hassling him saying 'oh whats going on with you and alice' 'i heard you like alice now instead of the other girl' its RIDICULOUS. everyone there is so immature. and theyr older than me! they always turn it around so that i seem to be doing something wrong. After when the girl had called me a slag at work, she came online to msn and acted as if she hadnt said anything, i later found out, shed txt another girl from work and asked her to come online stating 'we can terrorise alice'. Y am i working with these people???? I want to get a transfer, but now the manager has a thing with one of the girls so if i tel him, he'l probably tell her. i just want to leave so much, and just smack everyone in the face and walk out!! its not fair
If the problems are at work then why don't you try and get another job. Or speak to someone else higher up and tell them that you're getting grief from people..if you're lucky they might get sacked :biggrin:
If the problems are at work then why don't you try and get another job. Or speak to someone else higher up and tell them that you're getting grief from people..if you're lucky they might get sacked :biggrin:
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beach_surf_babe
If the problems are at work then why don't you try and get another job. Or speak to someone else higher up and tell them that you're getting grief from people..if you're lucky they might get sacked :biggrin:


but its so many other ppl, ion a case i didnt even mention the whole work force were talking about ne behind my back sayin i called another fat and ugly which i didnt even do, and no1 told me until a week later. i want to tlk to my managewr but how do i know he wont turn unprofessional and tell the girl he is sort of with who would tell everyone
Reply 5
beach_surf_babe
If the problems are at work then why don't you try and get another job. Or speak to someone else higher up and tell them that you're getting grief from people..if you're lucky they might get sacked :biggrin:


but its so many other ppl, ion a case i didnt even mention the whole work force were talking about ne behind my back sayin i called another fat and ugly which i didnt even do, and no1 told me until a week later. i want to tlk to my managewr but how do i know he wont turn unprofessional and tell the girl he is sort of with who would tell everyone
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This is seemingly a very easy thing to say, but your solution really is to rise above all this pettiness that's surrounding you, or leave.

Yes you made a mistake getting involved with someone at work - and this guy's ego was probably so dented when you wouldn't sleep with him, he's spreading crap about you to get his own back. What a loser he is.

Go into work with a beaming smile on your face. Be nice to everyone, but keep them at arms length. Being nice to them will confuse them so much, they really won't know how to respond, and it should give you quite a chuckle to watch them flapping about like headless chickens. Remember - if you did nothing to warrant any of these attacks - then you're better than they are. :smile:
Reply 7
This is seemingly a very easy thing to say, but your solution really is to rise above all this pettiness that's surrounding you, or leave.

Yes you made a mistake getting involved with someone at work - and this guy's ego was probably so dented when you wouldn't sleep with him, he's spreading crap about you to get his own back. What a loser he is.

Go into work with a beaming smile on your face. Be nice to everyone, but keep them at arms length. Being nice to them will confuse them so much, they really won't know how to respond, and it should give you quite a chuckle to watch them flapping about like headless chickens. Remember - if you did nothing to warrant any of these attacks - then you're better than they are. :smile:
Yeah that is quite a good idea. People get fun out of getting a reaction...if you ignore people will get bored and move on to the next thing! You could try and talk to the manager though....its worth a shot!
Yeah that is quite a good idea. People get fun out of getting a reaction...if you ignore people will get bored and move on to the next thing! You could try and talk to the manager though....its worth a shot!
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yeh thanks guys :smile: i think i will just act like normal n talk to the manager wen im next at work. im gona call him mlater to arrange an actual time with him to make sure i can get it sorted. if he tells anyone i guess i can just complain about him, cos hes suposed to b there for us to talk in confidence to!
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yeh thanks guys :smile: i think i will just act like normal n talk to the manager wen im next at work. im gona call him mlater to arrange an actual time with him to make sure i can get it sorted. if he tells anyone i guess i can just complain about him, cos hes suposed to b there for us to talk in confidence to!
I got promoted to key shift supervisor even though Im part time and at uni, and I got so much grief from full time staff who were angry because I was `only` part time (I do 20 hours and work the key shifts that needed supervision) and because Im at uni and so this clearly isnt my career.
They were evil bitchy people, and openly criticised me, saying I couldnt do my job properly etc.

I solved this by being super nice to all of them, (having a bit of a cry at home when it got me down, but never in front of them) and just getting on with it.
One of them still said something, so I confronted him head on in front of everyone and asked him to explain exactly where I was failing so that I could improve, and he just stuttered and walked off. Never a problem since.

They are losers who are so miserable in their own lives that they want to make yours a misery too. :mad:

Be cool even when you dont feel like it, and they will get bored and it will die down, promise :wink:
I got promoted to key shift supervisor even though Im part time and at uni, and I got so much grief from full time staff who were angry because I was `only` part time (I do 20 hours and work the key shifts that needed supervision) and because Im at uni and so this clearly isnt my career.
They were evil bitchy people, and openly criticised me, saying I couldnt do my job properly etc.

I solved this by being super nice to all of them, (having a bit of a cry at home when it got me down, but never in front of them) and just getting on with it.
One of them still said something, so I confronted him head on in front of everyone and asked him to explain exactly where I was failing so that I could improve, and he just stuttered and walked off. Never a problem since.

They are losers who are so miserable in their own lives that they want to make yours a misery too. :mad:

Be cool even when you dont feel like it, and they will get bored and it will die down, promise :wink:
Its like Nicholas Corlett would say "The more friends you have; the more you stand to lose"
Its like Nicholas Corlett would say "The more friends you have; the more you stand to lose"
At the end of the day, my friends are like an addiction. I have tried to keep away from them, and failed.
At the end of the day, my friends are like an addiction. I have tried to keep away from them, and failed.