Im having the same problem, there are some people who want me to move in with them but to be honest theyre not really like me and they all do same subject as each other, so im worried ill feel left out. I dont have any other options and im really scared!
What??? Your parents won't let you move in with boys??? I can't actually believe that, you're over 18 and an adult, they should trust you. If you don't know what boys are like to live with then surely you won't know what a marriage will be like???
Ok that got to me. So, advice. Basically, a flatmate/flatmates you get on with, or just look for someone with a spare room, there will be loads of them around.
You can move in with boys. Just don't tell your parents. How will they know? If they come to visit, hide the boys.
I have a friend at uni who's parents didn't like the look of any of her friends, so they made her move in to a single self contained flat thing with a kitchen and bathroom etc in a hall of residence off campus in her second year. She hates it, but can't do anything about it cos her parents are paying for it and wouldn't support her at all if she decided to move.
If you don't get on well enough with the friends you've recently made then strangers might be better. Then if it turns out you hate living with them it's a lot easier to make your excuses and move out, and you don't lose your friendships over it as well that way. If your uni is anything like Cardiff after Christmas there should be loads of posters up saying "Looking for housemate to share with 4 girls" and so on. Just be careful about signing tenancy agreements. Separate and just you'll have to find a replacement for you, joint and the whole house will be liable.
Who are you living with at the moment, ie are you in a single sex flat or is it mixed? If it is mixed, couldn't you use that as proof to your parents that boys can be trusted? If anything there is perhaps an advantage to sharing with some lads as there is then a man about the place in case of any trouble or something...
Try talking to your parents and put a positive spin on living with males and females rather than just females?
yay yay yay!! glad im not the only person really worried about it. Im in kinda the same position as you, i have lots of friends but no one im that close to and really click with. Just take it as it comes, after christmas things might change and you find yourself with people who you really click with. If that fails then look for the signs, you can always move out.
As for your parents, its none of my business, but id explain to them that you would only move in with people you trust and if they want they can meet them. Im sure itll all work out fine for you!
I don't know if it's different elsewhere, but here it's generally 2nd years who advertise. People tend to stick with the same group for years 2-3, even if not in the same house. Generally it's either "someone" "guy" or "girl" they look for, and now and then "random/male/female law student" or something like that. But that's only if it's say a group of four law students already together who want to share with someone off their course. But more often houses are made up of people off several courses.
The only different one is where it's post-grads and professionals looking for other post-grads and professionals. They don't want noisy undergrads living with them usually!
Wait... you want us to chose your housemates for you?
i have a strong feeling that i'm going to have this problem next year...
I'm living with 3 girls this year and I've learnt my lesson. Next year I'm living with all boys!
Good idea, Strawberrie - chatting to ppl on MSN to find out if they sound nice and if they have similar interests.
No idea who I'm gonna share with next year either...
I suppose you could always go for a short-term let place with a bunch of random ppl, then you can either renew your contract and stay if you like it, or move out if you don't... ?