How to deal with a really clingy older sister?

I get on well with my sister but she's so clingy! She single and doesn't have many friends. She even gets annoyed when I talk on the phone with my friends and always asks to come out with me and my friends which is really annoying cuz sometimes I just want to be with my friends without her there. I already booked my holiday with friends this year and she didn't have anyone to go with so she's making me promise to go with her next year and I'm moving out soon and she keeps hinting she wants to move in with me but I want to move in with people from work! I just feel so much pressure from her. Sounds harsh but just wish she would get her own friends/life! Really don't know what I can do..situation is really starting to get to me! I feel bad for her but at same time I should be able to have my own independent life without feeling guilty about it!

Reply 1

Perky perks

introduce her to a hobby or something.... and anyway i like to hang out with my little brother too once in a while!!!

Reply 2

Milky Milk

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She's your sister, she'd be there for you more than anyone else. Cut her some slack.

Also because she's your sister, it'd be easier for you to be more straight with her. Just tell her like it is and maybe she'll get the hint? Some people need that slap in the face for them to move on. If she's a really sensitive girl then obviously approach it less harsh. Possibly get your mum/dad to do the talking? It sounds cowardly but I bet your mum or dad could make her feel better about it. That's what they're there for.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Perky perks

introduce her to a hobby or something.... and anyway i like to hang out with my little brother too once in a while!!!

Hanging out once in a while with a younger brother us not the same as an older sister being so clingy thAt she gets annoyed when u want to have a phone convo with your friend or go on
Holiday with them!

Reply 4

Perky perks

Original post by Anonymous

Hanging out once in a while with a younger brother us not the same as an older sister being so clingy thAt she gets annoyed when u want to have a phone convo with your friend or go on
Holiday with them!

i'd say talk to her/parents... find out why and if she feels insecure getting her own friends then find a club or something she can go to and make some nice friends!!

Have sex with her.

Original post by Milky Milk

She's your sister, she'd be there for you more than anyone else. Cut her some slack.

Also because she's your sister, it'd be easier for you to be more straight with her. Just tell her like it is and maybe she'll get the hint? Some people need that slap in the face for them to move on. If she's a really sensitive girl then obviously approach it less harsh. Possibly get your mum/dad to do the talking? It sounds cowardly but I bet your mum or dad could make her feel better about it. That's what they're there for.

Agreed. Talk to your parents and see what they say. Does she not have a job/uni/school where she can meet and talk to people?

Most importantly, don't feel bad for wanting to have your own life! By all means be close with her, thats what sisters are for :smile:

have girly nights in etc, just make sure you have your own life on top of that too! Its a little unreasonable of her to get upset about you talking to someone on the phone, so maybe explain to her that you need time to talk to your friends too?

Reply 7

Holly_daniel

I'm having the same problem with my older sister, she will literally cry until I change my plans. She is ruining my social life. I love her and I feel bad but I spend every day with her, we even work together. Sometimes I just need some time with my friends. I even invite her out most of the time but if it's not something she wants to do then she will guilt me into just staying home. It's getting ridiculous. I've recently decided I'm ready to start looking for a new relationship but she's holding me back and it's starting to affect my happiness.

Reply 8

Bubbl26

I have the same problem too she will never leave me alone she practically begs me to go out with my friends. If I don't let her she then says I never spend time with her and I hate her which isn't true. She is now getting really anoying. I want to spend time with my friends as well but it's hardvwhen she keeps on nagging me to be with her. She doesn't really have many friends so maybe that's the problem!😞