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Reply 200

I don't really have an opinion on any of this, my opinion is only going to suit my interests anyway and I think this kind of thing ought to be based soley on your own beliefs about sex and love and not anyone elses.

What I will say is that the one 'proper' relationship I've had has screwed me up much worse than any amount of more casual sexual relationships. Having said that, all I really want these days is to find another bf. Take from that what you will.

Reply 201

bret

12

Laursy

none else has the right to tell someone otherwise and how to live and behave!!

Lord of the Flies

Reply 202

bret

12

Laursy

i don;t care what other people think of my life half of the time!! as they are in no place to judge me or tell me whats right and wrong for me!!

If you touch a hot pan, you get a nasty burn. that's nature's way of saying don't stick your hand in it. If you do then you've only yourself to blame.

If a multitude of people tell you sleeping around is irrational or anything else that makes you quetion it, that's society's way of telling you not to have lots of sexual partners. The consequences that follow, whilst not being fair, have at least been warned of.

Laursy- I'd really like to show you the emails between an ex and I at the time when we were splitting up. I read through them the other day as I was shifting out old mail. I don't think its right to divulge them, but one line stands out. "Did you never think that all that would catch up with you". Of course she didn't. She'd was absolutely gobsmacked when I first mentioned it and simply couldn't understand. so were her friends who'd reinforced the idea of "what goes on before" is exclusive to what goes on afterwards. Ignorance is bliss, but the longer you live in it the harder it will collapse.

On that cheery note I'm going to watch the X factor.

Reply 203

Laursy

10

it doesn't seem to be that way for guys i have noticed throughout the years, they have a bad sexual past or sleep with anything with breasts, thats just passed off as a male thing to do and won't be used to stir up trouble!!

but for a girl, someone i know well a few girls i know have slept with alot of guys, they are some of the most slagged off and bitched about people in this town!! (amoungst the youths), even though there are people who have no right to judge them as they have done it,

i don;t understand why something is ok for blokes to do and not girls, its totally stupid!!
i wouldn;t want a guy who has slept with so many girls he has to move town!! just like a guy wouldn;t want to go out with a girl who has slept with more then 5 guys out of a relationship!!

Reply 204

Laursy

it doesn't seem to be that way for guys i have noticed throughout the years, they have a bad sexual past or sleep with anything with breasts, thats just passed off as a male thing to do and won't be used to stir up trouble!!

well if it bothers you so much, stop going out/sleeping with guys who have a "bad" sexual past if you think it's unfair. There you go, problem sorted.

You see, as a girl, the double standard is as much your fault...

Reply 205

Laursy

10

i am not going around sleeping with loads of guys i jsut agreed that having a buddy is fun!!
i don;t go around sleeping with all kinds of guys every week!!
ive not slept with anyone for months and months ive not even left the house!!!

i do admit i have in the past i think with the same person where i am with them or not is better then having a string of different guys slagging me off, i stopped that ages ago, people i know still do sleep with all kinds!!!

Reply 206

Laursy

i am not going around sleeping with loads of guys i jsut agreed that having a buddy is fun!!
i don;t go around sleeping with all kinds of guys every week!!
ive not slept with anyone for months and months ive not even left the house!!!

i do admit i have in the past i think with the same person where i am with them or not is better then having a string of different guys slagging me off, i stopped that ages ago, people i know still do sleep with all kinds!!!

That's not what I said. I said you might as well never go out or sleep with a guy who has a "bad" sexual past since you think it's unfair that it's mostly guys who reject girls with a "bad" sexual past. There you go. It works both ways you see.

Reply 207

Laursy

10

yer indeed it does its silly really i think!!

Reply 208

swazzle2000

mmm sex.

Reply 209

bret

12

Laursy

i wouldn;t want a guy who has slept with so many girls he has to move town!! just like a guy wouldn;t want to go out with a girl who has slept with more then 5 guys out of a relationship!!

depends on circumstance. You could go out every night in Brum and shag a different bloke and you wouldn't be the talk of the town. It's a trivial thing in such a big place. In a smaller town if you shag different blokes from the same nightclub for example each week then obviously it's going to be different. The smaller the place the more insular it is in generaly.

It even translates to university colleges. You can get away with a lot more in Trinity, Homerton, churchill than you can in say, peterhouse or corpus without getting a reputation. But genrally speaking, if a girl sleeps with more than five people in her college she will get a reputation whatever the size. Semi- sensible girls shag outside college. Sensible girls don't shag round at all. Sorry to tell you Laursy, but it takes a lot for a bloke to become talk of the town, even if its a little village, and when he does, society dictates that he'll probably wear it as a badge of pride. And yes, most easier girls love the college/ town player and so the system perpetuates.

Reply 210

Gosh I hate it when society slags off girls who sleep around, even moreso because they are girls. That's what I hate about men. They can get away with a lot more.

Reply 211

SamTheMan

17

Does anyone want to be my funk buddy? I'm into George Clinton and Earth Wind & Fire...

Reply 212

bret

12

SamTheMan

Does anyone want to be my funk buddy? I'm into George Clinton and Earth Wind & Fire...

yes

Reply 213

Glow

It's fine. No emotional consequences yet, at least not for me (he has a girlfriend :wink:

)

Moral is another thing... but what is worst, I don't have any sympathy-feelings whatsoever.

Reply 214

lovelee-jublee

12

Meh, I don't agree with it. But that;s probably because I'm a longterm r.ship! God, I am so boring! :rolleyes:

Reply 215

Affectation

1

-TMG-

And, **** buddies are okay except usually someone (probably the female) will become attached...

Sad but so very true

Reply 216

Poica

14

Anonymous

Gosh I hate it when society slags off girls who sleep around, even moreso because they are girls. That's what I hate about men. They can get away with a lot more.

I disagree with that statement completely

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