Here's my two cents. Neg rep me all you want, i'm ready for you.
Some observations have come out from this thread. 1) we are all entitled to make moral judgements on a particular act. 2) this can be religious or secular yet be eqaully as valid as another's view.
The confusion is what should be done, or what the moral responsibility of those holding a particular view should be. Should a group or society intervene. How??
I'm with J S Mill. Minus STDs and the risk of the girl in particualr getting attached and hurt, it is not the buisness of society to sanction casual sex between what it can only assume are two rational and self interested actors. However, as individuals it is within our rights to persuade others of thier wrong doing.
Helen, you were perfectly justified and probably wise to reason with your friend the outcomes of the situation she found herself in. Poica, you are enititled to pass judgement on people that sleep around. It does more harm to benneficial debate to prevent people from calling promiscuous girls ****s than it does good in saving the feelings of such girls. Laursey, on the same basis you are entitiled to call Poica sad, old fashioned or whatever you will for having what many undoubtably suggest are outdated and restrictive views.
I have views on the matter though stemming from how i've internalized the world and events around me. 1) Society believes men are studs, girls are slappers. Many girls get pissed off and act as if this is not the case but it is. A girl sleeping with ten people is simply not the same as a man doing the same. there is justification in this. girls can get sex when they want and a large number of sexual partners indicates lack of control, lack of self repect or a lack of understanding of the status quo.
2) If one is friends with a girl who is becoming prolific, it is good to warn her of the damage she may be doing to her reputation but obviously in a reasoned manner. Unfortunately easy girls tend to club together, thus reducing the chance of this happening and minimizing their outsider status.
3) One of the dangers about a sexually permissive lifestyle for girls is how it will affect their chances of future happiness. I personally would not go out with a girl who'd slept with more than eight people (the UK average last time i checked was 8.3) or had a random one night stand . I'm sure the median is lower 8.3 as well.
4) I try not to have one night stands because although I do not believe they are wrong in principle, the girl you are using for sex will one day be another man's wife. I do to others what I would have done to myself and I know the hurt I felt in having to finish with my last ex for the way she had behaved in the past.
very sorry if i misquoted anyone. Laursey said have some sad looser on her arm for the sake of it. Not the same thing and i apologise.
Poica never called anyone names either. But if either were to extend their arguments to incorporate negative points then its within the realms of the acceptable.
I often give answers that cut through the crap. maybe that's why I'm on a neg status.
yer not at this time in my life though
i don;t think that matters im not expectin the next guy i go out with to be a virgin they wont; expect that of me